This article is meant to be a starting point or template for slave training and positions. If you are in a D/s, power exchange relationship, slave positions are a great element to add to the submissive headspace. I use the term “slave” interchangeably with submissive, bottom, etc. As your relationship evolves, so too can your slave positions.
Everyone has different needs and physical limitations, so as the Dominant, consider some leniency while your slave is getting used to the different body positions. You may find that one position exacerbates an old shoulder injury or perhaps your slave is not flexible enough to achieve another. All of the following examples can be modified or simply removed all together based on your preferences and the limitations of your slave’s body.
Finally, as with everything in BDSM you may find that using a variety of standard positions just doesn’t fit in with how you like to do D/s. That’s totally fine! I know plenty of couples who rely on the tried and true kneeling position as their one and only. The beauty of kink and D/s is the constant open communication and evolution that comes with your relationship.
“Wait” slave position – standing with one hand clasping the other wrist behind the back, with legs spread apart.
This position is a great starting point for training your slave in positions. It’s easy to learn, and can be held for as long as desired. However, if the slave is wearing heels then this position may become uncomfortable after a long period of time. I like this one as it shows respect and patience in the part of the slave.
“Hands” slave position – crouching on tip toes with arms stretched out in front and knees apart
“Endure” slave position – – crouching on toes with hands behind head and knees apart
Similar positions but for very different purposes. Hands can be used as a precursor to play. The slave presents their hands to be cuffed, or to hold an implement, for example. Endure is a fitting title for this one; a punishment position. Several submissives have told me this is one of their least favorite positions due to the discomfort and difficulty holding one’s body in such a way. These are positions that have to be worked up to and the slave will most certainly break a sweat if made to hold this for long. You may like to begin with shorter durations for this, and work up to longer periods over time.
“Wall” slave position – hands spread against wall and legs wide apart
In this position, your slave presents her rear to you by leaning forward against a wall. The slave’s back, butt and back of their legs are nicely exposed, so this position is great as an entree into spanking or other impact play. It can also be a great starting point for anal training, but that’s a topic for another article.
“Expose” slave position – kneeling with hands behind head and knees spread wide
This position is named very aptly. I could picture sitting a slave in a corner at a public dungeon or play party in this position, for all to see (and have several times in fact). This would be very fun if your slave is into humiliation (or if you are into them being humiliated). You can definitely use this as a great starting point to apply nipple clamps or for some tickle torture.
“Punishment” slave position – on elbows and knees on a hard floor
The discomfort of the knees and elbows pressing in the floor is just the starting point of what’s great about this. It also offers great access to your slave’s ass, back, and mouth. I recommend adding a blindfold to this position as a starting point for a fun play scene. The ankles and wrists are also placed conveniently together in case you feel like adding some cuffs to the mix.
In my opinion this is the lowest of the low, the most emotionally severe of the positions. Instructing your slave to lie face down on the floor makes them the dirt. For me this is a punishment position. I could see variations of this used for play positions but I reserve this one for when I’m extremely displeased, beyond punishment even. The slave is essentially the floor I walk upon and nothing more in that moment.
Rest slave position – sitting cross legged with hands in lap
Kneel slave position – kneeling down on feet with hands behind back
The two positions above are among the most traditional and widely used positions. These are usually pretty comfortable for slaves to hold for longer periods of time. Often a Dominant will give their slave the freedom to move into Rest if they become too fatigued in the Kneel position. You can also offer different protocols for where the gaze may be held, opting for eyes downcast submissively or giving the freedom to look around but avoid eye contact with others.
Fittingly named, the slave bends at the waist, sticking their butt out. This is an uncomfortable yet humiliating position.
“Submit” slave position – kneeling forward face down with knees spread
Last, but not least! Submit may look familiar, as it is quite similar to “child’s pose” in yoga. It’s pretty comfortable to remain in for longer periods of time, and puts the slave into a nice downward facing submissive posture. They won’t be able to see what you’re doing, and the forehead on hands lends itself well to having your slave get into a relaxed state of mind.
I hope these positions give you some food for thought! Many Dominants come up with their own names and variations on positions. Some rely on a number code rather than names while others use hand gestures to signal their slave to assume a specific position. If you have a unique approach to slave position training, we’d love to hear about it in the comments below!
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