If you are a regular reader of this site, then you are likely no stranger to bondage. But if you are new to this site, then you may not yet have experienced some of the wonderful and sexy ways that you can combine bondage and sex.
You don’t need to dive right in with ball-gags, leashes, and paddles. There are plenty of mild bondage positions for beginners to help ease you into this wonderfully kinky world of sex play. Once you master a few of these positions you can move onto more intense forms of bondage (if you decide your into it).
Grab your blindfold and handcuffs and let’s explore 10 bondage sex positions that will take you from mild to wild!
If you’re new to the world of BDSM and bondage, it’s not a bad idea to practice with yourself before introducing another person into the mix. After all, bondage is all about trust and respect. And who can you trust more than yourself?
Think of self-bondage as a different form of masturbation. You can experiment and try different things until you figure out what you like. Then, you can share these sexual insights with your partner. It eliminates the fear that they’ll do something you’re not comfortable with. Try a mix of sensual and strict self-bondage.
- Spread Eagle
Now that you’re ready to bring another person into your kinky games, let’s start with a basic sex position — spread eagle. This is probably a position you’ve held at one time or another without restraints. It makes everything accessible and easy to reach. Adding ankle and wrist restraints just make it all the more fun!
Lay on your back and have your partner tie your wrists and ankles to the bed. You’ll be in a starfish shape. This leaves your entire body vulnerable and exposed. You’re now at the mercy of your partner. They can kiss, lick, suck, and enter whatever part of you they want (as long as it’s consensual, of course) and there’s little you can do about it. Use a blindfold for an added element of surprise.
- Bent Over
Another vulnerable position and a popular one for bondage beginners is to stand bent over, with your wrists tied to your ankles. Not only is this a very compromising position (leaving your backend completely exposed for pleasure), but it requires a bit of flexibility and balance. Keep your feet shoulder-width apart for added stability.
Your partner can now hold your waist and hips from behind and enter you. Their grip will also help you balance. With your legs positioned close together and your hands tied to your ankles, your partner will have a tighter entry and your clitoris will also benefit from the added pressure and snug fit.
- Heels Over Head
This bondage position takes the bent over technique and flips it on it’s back — literally. One person lies on their back with their arms and legs straight up in the air. You can either tie their ankles together and then attach them to their wrists or tie all four limbs to the headboard. This leaves your lover in a compromising and totally erotic position.
This is a favorite bondage position for anyone who loves a good spanking. The person being tied up can enjoy both oral and penetrative sex from this angle.
- Pinball Wizard
It’s time to harness your inner gymnast. This bondage position requires a bit more flexibility. The person being tied up needs to lay down with their back flush to the mattress. Next, they’ll thrust their hips upward toward the ceiling in a bridge position. Your partner will then bind your wrists behind your back. From here, they can grab your butt and you can wrap your legs around their waist for deep penetration.
Invite your partner to kneel right between your legs for the most comfortable angle. Variations of this bondage position include tying your wrists above your head while you thrust your hips upward.
- Snow Angel
This bondage position is not nearly as innocent as it sounds! A different take on 69, you and your partner will be intertwined in ways you never imagined.
Lay on your back with legs spread eagle while your partner straddles you facing your feet. Now, wrap your legs around their waist and angle your pelvis upward. In this position, they can move backward and enter you. While they get to work on you, you can use an anal toy to pleasure them. This is the ideal position for those who enjoy anal play and stimulation, as well as impact play. You can pinch, smack (or even bite if you’re flexible enough), they’re vulnerable rump which is positioned close to your face.
Don’t forget about his balls! You can also give those a gentle (or firm) tug.
- Chair Bondage
Time to bring in the props! If you want to move things from the bed to another area, you might want to consider chair bondage. Similar to feeling like a sexy hostage, this is a great bondage position for role-playing.
Similar to the damsel in distress concept, chair bondage is comfortable and fairly easy to sustain for long periods of time. The best part is, you can use any chair in your living space. Have your partner tie your wrists to the arms and your ankles to the legs. Add a blindfold, ballgag, or tie around the waist for even more restrictive play. You can also purchase sex furniture or a chair with a hole in the seat for easy access. In this position, you can explore oral and penetrative sex. You can also explore both slow, sensual sex and more intense fun that involves plenty of pinching and whipping!
If you enjoy doggy style sex, you’ll love this next bondage position. Leapfrog gives you and your partner several fun options for entry.
You start by laying on your stomach with your chest on the mattress and your backside in the air. Your partner will place a restraint on each of your ankles but with your legs spread wide. Next, they’ll bind your wrists together, pull your hands down between your legs, and attach them to your ankle restraints. Think of child-pose but with your hands underneath your body instead of above your head. If this position puts too much strain on your neck or shoulders, try it with your arms on the outside of your knees but still bound to your ankles.
Have fun with rear entry or let your partner flip you on your back for a position similar to heels overhead. Spreader bars are another good bondage accessory to have if you enjoy this position because they keep your legs at the perfect distance for comfortable play!
This bondage position isn’t for the faint of heart. Hogtie is one of the most well-known bondage positions but it’s also one of the most extreme and involves your wrists and ankles being tied behind your back and then together. People who enjoy this position are often highly experienced in BDSM and get-off on feeling completely helpless. A ballgag is often used, as well.
Laying on your stomach, your partner will start by restraining your wrists and ankles together, individually. Next, they will pull your chest upward off the mattress to tie your bound wrists to your ankles. You’ll need plenty of flexibility to avoid discomfort when being hogtied. The closer the wrists and ankles are together, the more strain you’ll feel. If you want easier access, try tying your ankles separately with your legs farther apart.
If immobility is what you’re after, then the mummification bondage position is perfectly naughty. This is a full-body form of bondage and doesn’t involve access for sex since that would be nearly impossible. Instead, this bondage position involves restraints and the inability to move as the center of sexual pleasure.
It’s important to go slow when attempting this position and always keep the lines of communication open. Even the most experienced BDSM participants might feel claustrophobic once they’re bound from head to toe. Keep safety tools accessible if you need to free your partner at a moments notice.
The position itself is exactly what it sounds like. Using rope, tape, plastic wrap, or a combination to completely bind a person from their ankles up to their neck. Some people enjoy leaving the genitals or breasts exposed for sexual play and teasing.
Bondage Isn’t Just for the Wild and Crazy (but it can be!)
Don’t be fooled into thinking that bondage is only for those who are insanely kinky and wild. There are plenty of ways to safely explore the world of BDSM and bondage without being hogtied and gagged. Start by using a comfortable pair of handcuffs and a silky blindfold. Take things up a notch with a tickler or crop.
Before you know it, you’ll be begging your partner to slap your ass and tie you in increasingly compromising positions. Just always remember to play within your partner’s comfort zone and respect their boundaries.
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