There are a number of unique primal characteristics in human females, which over the millennia, have resulted in, first and foremost, the survival and proliferation of civilization, and secondarily the unique circumstances we have now come to know and enjoy as human sexuality. Additionally, Several characteristics of the female anatomy have contributed to this phenomena; One is the physiology of storing fat to secure survival through drought and famine, while continuing to nurse offspring. The genetic characteristics of enlarged breasts, and buttocks was not unnoticed, nor unappreciated by their male counterparts. The fact all men are offspring of females and therefore nursed on their mothers breasts, provide the essence of adoration for breasts, and nipples. But perhaps more importantly, the primary differentiation between humans and their animal counterparts is the fact that human females do not advertise their readiness for mating with physical external signals, such as swollen, and or discolored genitalia. Instead, human females can conceal their proclivity for mating until a time and place of their choosing, by simply delivering a que to an available with near universal acceptance. This enormous advantage over their male counterparts provides the basic conflict between the sexes. i.e. males constant, ready go instincts, and the females desire for selection of the most desirable and genetically qualified males. This “anti-natural selection” aspect of sexual intercourse, has resulted in a superior genealogy of the human race. It has also set up the principal ingredients for the dilemma of female submissiveness in the face of male physical superiority. The dilemma, is females are dependent on the males for food and shelter, and males are beholden to females for procreation, bearing, and rearing children, and other menial tasks. There also seems be a strong basal psychological aspect to this arrangement, which is the ’s apparent “need please” the male , and the feelings associated with pleasurable sex. While this arrangement has worked well sustaining and expanding the human race, these primal sexual underpinnings live on with us today. This brings us to the primary distinction between humans and the rest of the animal kingdom, humans are the specie that engage in sex for pure pleasure and not only for procreation.
Religious & Societal Oppression:
Organized religions & society have placed additional layers of oppression/suppression onto sexuality in order to limit the influence of unbridled female sexuality on impulsive males. Girls are indoctrinated at an early age, against sexual pleasures, exhibiting their breasts or genitalia under any circumstances. Is it any wonder nearly every young woman endowed with what men consider to be the most beautiful parts of the anatomy, their breasts, would not want to show the world their prized treasures at their first opportunity? Of course not. This illustrates the “girls gone wild” syndrome whereby when given the opportunity to display something they recognize as desirable and irresistible to an admiring male audience, they invariably succumb to the temptation. Similarly, forbidden sexual acts, are coveted for their tantalizing taboo societal characteristics, such as being restrained during sexual activities, such as anal penetration, multiple penetration, and other BDSM fetishes. While, the brain still resists these cravings, this hesitation is easily resolved by the BDSM dynamic with male dominance and female submissiveness. By submitting to a dominate male, with the illusion of forced compliance, all guilt associated with the activity is transferred to the dominant, and the pain/pleasure remains to be endured and enjoyed. This exoneration of the burden of guilt has be an intoxicating, and soul cleansing experience for females, allowing them a freedom of expression kept in check for centuries.
Women generally identify with having greater pain tolerance than men, which is probably related to the pain management and mental fortitude required by childbirth, and of course, explains why we are all here and able to contemplate the concept of pleasure as the necessary counterbalance to pain, and the interplay of the two as the basis of this work.
In the Bible, Genesis : God to the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.”
The fact this pain is an associated consequence of sex with a man, while also providing immense pleasure, cannot be over emphasized. The afterglow associated with successful childbirth for the woman, and the man’s approval and adoration are powerful reinforcements to the mental and physical challenges of the ordeal.
Genesis : also introduces the third and perhaps more significant element of submission to the female/male equation, of power control.
BDSM is a delivery system for this pain/pleasure/power dynamic. That of the basic and ubiquitous societal deterrent to transgressions, the use of spanking/whipping of females for religious, or other social/procedural violations. This process can range from woman to woman clothed spankings, as in educational settings, to men to women bare bottom spankings. The more severe the procedure, the more erotic the reaction. Examples of this erotica have flooded into mainstream literature and imagery for hundreds of years. The law of unintended consequences has certainly manifested itself here, as young girls exposed to these concepts are more likely to be attracted to them than repelled by them as something to be avoided. Accordingly, spanking of the buttocks is the de-facto entry level BDSM activity, usually with the bare hand, a paddle or a belt. Spanking has become a socially acceptable catalyst for the pain/pleasure/power and is currently a prevalent and popular sexual activity between consenting adults. It is also a powerful precursor to more intense exploration and excitement. More intense variations include whipping, flogging, caning, and lashing, as well as attention to other parts of the body, such as the back, legs, breasts, nipples, & genitalia.
“Sex should be a perfect balance of pain and pleasure. Without this symmetry, sex becomes a routine rather than an indulgence.” And There is no more lively sensation than of pain; its impressions are certain and dependable, they never deceive as may those of pleasure, women perpetually feign and almost never experience.” Marquis de Sade
The power of control plays a big role in the sexual gratification equation. The sadomasochistic practice of sexual spanking is about more than just the brain converting feelings of physical pain into a rush of delightful dopamine. There’s also the psychological release of power. According to Psychology Today, “The essential component is not the pain or bondage itself, but rather the knowledge one person has complete control over the other, deciding what person will hear, do, taste, touch, smell, and feel.”
“It feels good to be totally in control, and sometimes it’s nice to be totally submissive. Power is a way to break free from the roles we’re trapped in during our everyday lives, and it can be a powerful release,” says Sandra LaMorgese, PhD.
There are many therapeutic aspects to the pain/pleasure/power dynamic. A submissive finds therapy, stress-relief, and a sense of calm through the relinquishment of their power. Giving someone total control over your body transfers your worries and psychological burdens onto the other person. “Still others describe the stress release as an escape from self-awareness and compulsive thinking and processing of emotions,” says Pitagora. She adds practitioners of spanking describe it as an opportunity to enter into a consensual, time-bound interaction with someone they trust and feel close to, where they are free to let go and stop thinking about other things for a bit. “When body chemistry changes in a rush of pleasure and adrenaline, and then comes back down to baseline and levels out, trajectory can result in a very calm and zen-like feeling.”
Anecdotal Example from internet post: “Why I Chose to Be Submissive” ://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/advice/a7422/submissive-sex-confessions/
He arrived at my hotel and made me sit on my knees while he spanked me with his belt. Even though we have a safe word, I’ve never used it. In a D/s relationship, you need to trust another human being in ways are rarely explored. A Dom is intoxicated when someone is willing to trust him or her.. A sub is intoxicated by the surrender—and not because she is weak. A sub is willing to go to a place where many people do not, or cannot, go. The physical pain is just a small part of it. And surviving it, enduring it, is a feat. I know its weird, but I feel like if I can do that, I can do anything.
The above attempts to place it in an historical perspective, and illustrates the point of view of the Author that female submission is primal, and through submission, women can gain a sense of peace and satisfaction, but more importantly a sense of empowerment.
About the Author
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