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Taboo Role-Play

April 10, 2017 By Jenn Masri 4 Comments

As many Kink Weekly readers already know, I am a marriage and family therapist. Part of becoming a licensed therapist is putting in 3,000 hours of client work before taking the exams. The hours must be a combination of individual, joint, family, group and kid therapy. Part of what made up my group hours was the 8 years I worked as a co-therapist for a group of sex offenders. (I stayed on after finishing my hours) This group consisted of offenders who were on probation and therapy was a requirement for the duration of their probation period. The offenses ranged from the 19 year old getting caught with his underage girlfriend to date rape to the molestation of family members and every story in between. These guys (and one female in the 8 years I was there) made very bad decisions and broke the law and were paying for it.

Now that I’ve said all that, let’s move on to the topic of this article: taboo role-play. There is a reason I am linking the two. Role play can be anything. From pretending to be an animal, a celebrity, a pizza delivery person, historical figures, etc. You can use your imagination and get as creative as you’d like! Don’t limit yourself to teacher/student or doctor/nurse. Even just pretending to be strangers and “picking up” on each other at a bar or coffee shop can be fun!

However, there are also many types of role play that fall under a more “taboo” category. Priest/altar boy, nun/parishioner, kidnapping, sleep/drugged play, rape, consensual-non consent, daddy/daughter (or any other combo) molestation play. Some of these taboo role plays are the consensual version of what the sex offenders had done. What’s the difference? Consent and age. You are playing these scenarios out with another consenting adult.

Many people feel guilty for engaging in this type of role play due to the fact that it is not ok if done in the real world with a non-consenting partner. However, I am here to tell you that it’s ok in this circumstance. So long as everyone involved knows what they are getting involved in, is an adult, and is agreeing to it. Can this type of play lead to triggers that someone wasn’t aware would come up? Of course. But triggers can happen with any type of play. (See my article about triggers for more info on how to handle it if this happens.)

The world of kink and BDSM is a great place to explore all those deep dark corners of your fantasies with other people who share in them or who are at the very least willing to join your exploration. There is no need to feel guilty over it. Those guys in the therapy group have things to feel guilty about. In this community we should take responsibility to do it with consenting adults with no purposeful harm. As long as this is the case then all I can say is get your taboo kink on!

Jennifer Masri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in Alternative Lifestyles for individual and relationship issues. She also teaches the BDSM 101 class series at Sanctuary LAX in Los Angeles every Monday evening. Read more about Jennifer on her blog, A Kink Shrink.

D/s and Golden Showers

February 6, 2017 By Baadmaster 5 Comments

With the “outing” of President Trump’s alleged golden showers romp in Russia, water sports have gone mainstream. In fact, I would bet more people engage in them than anyone can imagine. Perhaps golden showers are popular because they are easy to do. Just take a shower with a person and voila! Even vanillas might take a shot at it. But another reason they could be more common than one would expect is that they are “Instant D/s.” Let me explain!

Many BDSM activities have no inherent D/s components to them. Take rope bondage, for example. One could tie up a willing participant without being that person’s Dominant in any sense of the word. It could simply be BDSM play; the tie-ee can switch and become the tie-er at any point. Now, there is probably a D/s aspect at work when you witness a rope bondage scene at your local dungeon. But it does not have to be that way. Just tying up a willing player does not Dominance and submission make. The same could be said for spanking. Or flogging.

But golden showers – or water sports – is another matter entirely. The very act of being peed upon has elements of submission – and even humiliation — contained within the act itself. Generally, a person does not tend to get peed upon, drink piss or participate in water sports other than to show submission to the Dominant. (Or the Dominant to show dominance!) Even when a sub loves golden, the essential submissiveness (or Dominance from the Dom/me’s point of view) of the act is still present. Why is that?

In my opinion, it can be argued that submission is a controlled, premeditated and consensual humiliation; allowing oneself to be consensually humiliated is an inherently submissive act. And one of the Dominants most powerful tools is humiliation.

Being peed on is, in almost every instance, an act of humiliation. Our puritanical culture has drummed into us the notion that being peed on is very humiliating. Golden showers cannot be separated from its roots in humiliation. Thus, the act of peeing on another person is likely to be a true act of Dominance and submission and not just play. There are other BDSM activities that have submission and humiliation at their core – bootlicking for example. But whereas we see bootlicking done in just about every dungeon, we rarely see water sports in dungeons as it can get messy. Thus, this article to get it out of the shadows!

Our kinky lifestyle (kinkweekly.com is definitely about kink!) includes such edge plays as knife play, fire play and breath play. All of these activities are risky and have a steep learning curve; safety is paramount. However, water sports participants can indulge in it without much skill. After all, how much expertise does it take to pee on a submissive? This is not like knife play, fire play or choking where the requisite proficiency level is very high.

Piss play – if you classify it as edge play as I do — when there is no ingestion of
urine is totally safe. Even when the submissive drinks a small amount of the
Dominant’s pee, the danger never rises to the level of other edge plays. Only
when the Dominant requires the submissive to drink large amounts of urine do
safety and health issues arise. Without major safety issues, golden showers
makes for an exciting and easy to learn “edge play.”

As I stated in a previous Kink Weekly piece, “Water Sports,” you get a lot of D/s “bang for your buck” with golden showers. In that article, I described catheter play and other specific ways to “go golden.” Of course, make sure the submissive has a safe word if the play becomes too much for him/her – especially mentally. That aside, if you are looking for an edgy BDSM play that is relatively safe — and one with awesome D/s aspects to it — then water sports might just be your cup of…pee!

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

BDSM Water Sports

November 21, 2016 By Baadmaster 3 Comments

We here at kinkweekly.com strive to present all forms of BDSM, D/s play and kink. If water sports isn’t your cup of tea, then you should “wait ‘til next week” — to paraphrase a sports adage.

Water sports – or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) – is defined as playing with pee. It can be peeing on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink pee or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”; I think it does. But whatever its classification, water sports has elements of extreme BDSM and D/s at its core. Although we can’t say that water sports is BDSM play, more often than not it contains within it a form of extreme submission.

There is relatively little danger in water sports. Now what is “relatively little danger” you ask? That is debatable. But water sports do not, by definition, present the physical safety risk that breath play does. Or knife play. Or fire play.

But piss play is still a very extreme form of BDSM play; there can be serious elements of humiliation and other serious psychological aspects involved. Thus, as with all other play, it must be consensual. And the sub must have a safe word if he/she decides the play is too much to bear – whether physically or mentally. Obviously, where there is no intake of pee, there is no danger of bodily harm. (Other than staining a sheet or a rug, a pee bath is pretty safe.

The most basic form of water sports is where the Dom/me orders the submissive to pee and watches. Many Dom/mes love to give their submissive a good pee bath – or peeing in their slaves’ orifice, often with a funnel – as a show of Dominance!

As with all other BDSM scenes, combination scening can add variety to your play. (Just like vanilla relationships, even BDSM ones can suffer from boredom. “Oh, no, not pee again! That makes 30 days in a row!”) Thus one must be inventive. Bathtub bondage – where a bound submissive is immobilized in a bathtub – is pretty inventive. As is piss enema play; I have even heard of players combining piss and wax play!

Once actual ingestion of pee is contemplated, health concerns do arise. Fresh piss is generally sterile and safe to drink in small quantities; the reason genital piercings heal so rapidly is due to their being flushed with piss. However, ingested in larger quantities, urine can pose a health risk. It does contain harmful chemicals (such as uric acid) and bodily wastes in it. So use caution if you get the idea to substitute pee for his/her Coke or Gatorade. Moderation is the word here. As is drinking water for days so the piss is mostly water.

The use of catheters – which we covered in a recent kinkweekly.com article — takes water sports to a more extreme level. Catheters are long, thin, flexible tubes used in medical procedures. They are inserted into the urethra of woman or men and the pee flows through them. One must be quite knowledgeable in the art of catheter play; it is not for the newbie. Not only are there sterility concerns, but physical damage can result from rough or inaccurate insertion of a catheter. Doctors study for years to master these types of procedures. So one should learn from a Master of the catheter before attempting it. Here we see a catheter being inserted.

The range of water sports is very wide. And although it can be very extreme from a BDSM point of view, if one uses a modicum of caution and common sense, it is generally safe. Considering the extreme play to risk ratio, you get a lot of D/s “bang for your buck” in water sports.

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