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BDSM 101: Tickle Torture
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The Inside Scoop On Tickling
Although it appears the COVID-19 pandemic is winding down, we are still likely to be wearing non-BDSM masks for the foreseeable future. Thus, lacking my two favorite dungeons (Lair de Sade and Sanctuary), I am still wandering around in the ”auxiliary” questions file. Luckily, I found this gem of a question that needed scant revision. And here it is:
Reader: My subbie-girl is the most ticklish person I know… and though it’s something I never considered a fetish before, I’m finding that I really get off when I tickle her. Is this weird? Why do I like it so much? Is it a BDSM activity?
We are KINK weekly, so nothing is weird around here. So, that answers the “is this weird” part of your question. In the vanilla world, “erotic tickling” is quite popular; I have already written a kink weekly article on this subject. With its vanilla roots, is it a fetish? I guess that depends on what the meaning of “is” is. Fetish or not fetish, weird or not weird – tickling works great in our lifestyle – especially in your case.
As I have stated many times, one should always try to match protocols in D/s relationships. A high-protocol Master should look for a high-protocol slave. Similarly, a Dom/me who enjoys tickling should look for a submissive who is ticklish. You might not have searched for such a match, it might be luck that brought her to you, but you found it. Consider yourself very fortunate. After all, what is a tickler without a ticklee?
As to the question of why you like it so much, the “Cracker Jack Principle” applies. If you look on a Cracker Jack box (if there are still any boxes of the stuff available; they are now mostly in bags), its slogan reads, “You like it, it likes you!” Similarly, having, the “most ticklish person you know” as your sub is a “you like it, it likes you” type of situation. It is one thing to perform a scene and have the submissive go through the motions in order to please the Dominant. It is quite another thing when the submissive truly enjoys what the Dominant is doing – which is most common in D/s unions where one is clearly the Dom, the other the submissive. This creates a loop that channels positive energy back to both participants. In your case, tickling fits into this synergistic model.
Erotic tickling is an extension of vanilla play, whereas BDSM tickling (to coin a category) can be integrated into just about any scene. Tickling a submissive can be every bit as effective as flogging or caning her. Or, instead of a straight flogging scene, alternate between flogging and tickling; this will add a new dimension to your play. If you are using hot wax, tickle the submissive in between drippings and you will raise the sensation bar considerably. If you are into role-play, tickling is yet another technique to add to your arsenal. In an interrogation scenario, for example, tickle the submissive instead of beating her. You might get your submissive to give up the information rather quickly!
A “tickle-torture” scene can be as edgy as any. A feather duster can be just as wicked as a crop; a makeup brush can be just as painful as a paddle; a silk cloth can be every bit as sadistic as a cane. One word of caution. Just because tickling doesn’t leave marks or entails great physical risk, one should not forget to take standard precautions. Make sure you have a safe word; be aware of the mental state of the submissive during play. (If your extremely ticklish subbie is in the throws of a serious tickling session, he/she might not be able to utter the safe word – or even give a safe signal. Always keep an eye on her – or have a hard time limit).
Finally, you can always invent new ways to use tickling in your BDSM play. Tickling a blindfolded sub is always fun. Combining tickling and TENS unit play is a great concept I have heard about. Alternating tickling and sensory deprivation is another unique game plan. Tickling goes with just about anything. The only limit, besides the hard ones, is your imagination. Additionally, in this crazy era where down is up and up is down, it is very easy and inexpensive to do a tickle scene. For example – a “tickle interrogation” scene.
Since you have the ideal “tickle-sub,” all you have to do, in the words of the Nike commercials, is “Just do it!”
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.
The Erotic Art of Tickling
In our quest to cover all fetishes and play styles in KINK WEEKLY, we were surprised to find out that tickling, according to at least two surveys, is the second most popular fetish (after feet.) Thus, it is surprising that so little is written about it. Well, it is time to change all that.
The most popular form of tickling is not BDSM related at all – it is called “erotic tickling” and is quite codified. Generally done as foreplay, it is not play in and of itself. The key, according to some aficionados, is to find the ticklish spots and be very light in your tickling – and never go into the pain area, as in BDSM. There are books on erotic tickling and, done “by the book,” its proponents claim tickling can stimulate the nerve endings to such a degree as to make the subsequent sex much more intense.
Sometimes erotic tickling strays into the world of BDSM. A popular approach is to tickle a subject whose wrists and ankles are restrained. In this scenario, the “tickler” stops short of inflicting pain, aiming instead for a session of light, teasing yet sensual tickling – with a taste of bondage thrown in.
The next step in the tickling continuum is true BDSM tickling. As in all types of BDSM play, toys can be used. The hand, of course, is the tickler’s tool of choice. But feathers come in a close second, followed by feather dusters, toothbrushes, soft makeup brushes, silk cloths and other inventive tickling implements.
What about safety? There is a tendency to overlook safety concerns when participating in a BDSM tickling scene. After all, can you die laughing? When have you ever heard of a serial tickler or a tickling rapist? (A tickist?) Humor aside, any BDSM activity than can cause a submissive to be unable to breathe and empty his/her bladder should be taken seriously! A tickling scene can be very analogous to any other BDSM scene. Keep in mind, the soles of the feet (where much of tickling is done) are incredibly sensitive; the “bastinado” torture of the feet during the Spanish Inquisition is considered one of the most extreme – out of a panoply of extreme tortures! That said, if you are going to have a serious tickling session, set up a safeword and safe signal. (A word to the Tops: if the sub is in the extreme throws of a serious tickling session, he/she might not be able to utter the safe word – or even give the safe signal. Always keep an eye on her/him.)
Most times a BDSM tickling scene is done with the submissive (or the “ticklee”) in restraints or some form of bondage. Tickling can produce pain — much like spanking, flogging, or caning. The pain/sensation scale can be quite high – a ticklish submissive can be driven almost mad by these sensations. A skillful Tickling Top (clever title, eh?) can play this sensation palette like a violin. There is really no other form of play where you can go from full bore, almost unbearable mega-sensations to zero sensations so quickly – and vice-versa. There is no doubt that submissives can be put into a tickle-induced form of sub-space.
A very popular type of tickle play is time-limit scening. Tickle parties, like those promoted at some dungeons, are set up for this system. Here you tickle the submissive for ten-minute intervals. You can then discuss it with the submissive and go for another ten minutes. Or not. This is a great way for beginners to practice their tickling techniques. Ten minutes may not sound like a lot, but it can be quite intense for both the tickler and the ticklee. And the screams you hear can often rival those of a full-blown BDSM torture session. The more you understand about tickling, the more you will comprehend why it is so popular.
Tickling is another tool in our BDSM play arsenal. We recommend, to our fellow Tops who have not tried it, giving your submissive a serious tickling the next time you have him/her in restraints. You might find you can explore another set of sensations you had not tapped into. If you are a submissive, you might negotiate a tickling scene with your Top – an introduction to see if you like it. (Although, some positively hate tickling. Period.)
The beauty of tickling is that it requires little equipment, has a shallow learning curve and is very sensation intensive. I guess you might call that win-win-win activity!
By Baadmaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.