BDSM Scene Idea: Diaper Play

This scene idea could be listed under the category of “taboo play” because depending on the person, it dances along the lines of age play and infantilism which frankly can freak some people out who have very little experience or knowledge on the subject. Just remember to withhold any negative judgment, bearing in mind that what is taboo for one may be normal for another as long as it’s done in a safe, sane, and consensual manner.

For these scene tips, I’m going to use diaper play as a form of humiliation with a little bit of age play in the mix. There are those who enjoy going into full baby play mode but that is not the main source for this article and is not something I personally have experience with.

Diaper play as a form of humiliation
While you can purchase themed adult diapers that come in many colors or patterns, a good old standard is the adult diaper aisle at your local convenience store. In fact, you can send your submissive on an errand to purchase a pack for themselves! If you’re slightly less sadistic, you can order them online and “surprise” your submissive when you introduce this element to the scene.

Nothing spells embarrassment for me like having to wear a diaper in public. Picture if you will, a female submissive getting all dressed up in her finest lingerie, applying makeup, styling hair, arriving at a public dungeon or play party, only to be instructed to strip down and put on an adult diaper. My cheeks are red as I write this. The submissive is then lead around the party, perhaps by a leash for all to see and comment upon-under the direction of the dominant of course! Telling her she is a “good girl” and that she’s “being brave walking around all by herself” and similar sentiments touch on the fringes of “little” play but are not necessarily going full boar with it. If your submissive enjoys the littles headspace, by all means, keep going with it. Diaper play can be a sort of “gateway” to discovering a deeper level of trust and play between you and your partner.

You can also administer spankings or any other type of play whilst they are wearing their diaper. It’s all part of the fun!

Diaper play as a form of humiliation
I recommend trying this idea in the privacy of your home. Instruct your submissive to drink several bottles of water in a short period of time. You can do this while you leisurely watch TV together or maybe when you’re out and about. Once you want to begin the scene, “dress” your submissive up in their diaper. You can always place them in a punishment timeout. We are lucky enough to have a human cage on hand but a dog crate or even just seated on the floor in a corner will do. I think you see where this is going. The average person will eventually need to use the restroom after drinking a lot of water. If your sub asks to use the restroom, tell them they conveniently have the diaper on and can go right where they are! This does one of two things: creates humiliation and regret for ever needing punishment in the first place and also making the sub feel quite low because they are in fact, peeing themselves. For this form of punishment, it cannot get any worse than that.

These are just some basic starting points for introducing diaper play into your scenes. It’s not for everyone and as always, make sure to negotiate any new scene elements with your partner. I’m personally a fa of trying wacky (to me) new things in scene but others prefer a more traditional route. You also don’t want to accidentally land on a trigger.

Happy diapering!

anniebear is a submissive living with her partner Dexx in Los Angeles. She enjoys writing, modeling for friends, animal rescue, and teaching herself how to cook. You can catch her on Fetlife or Facebook.