A while back while looking for my ideal partner, I wrote a piece called “I did the math”. The writing examined the notion that just on the basis of numbers, that there were at the time, about 1200 ideal possible candidates for me just on Fetlife. Out of that writing, I found my perfect partner who was literally “made for me”, or as she put it, my “…Fairy Godmother did an excellent job”.
Now that we have been together for 3 years, and now that we are quite literally having mind blowing sex every day, I thought I would examine a different question. That being related to our pursuit of peak sexual experiences.
This is much harder to quantify, in that there is no real data to reference, but by inference, let me try to determine how many of us are in fact, engaged in regular mind-blowing sex approaching peak sexuality.
First let’s define what mind-blowing sex is. For us, it is entirely a function of our kink dynamic and that we are in a 24/7 TPE where, over the past three years, we have distilled our sexual encounters to about 45 minutes to an hour of scintillating hot sex every time. We like to think that we have created pure hotness that is the distillation of a 3-years inquiry into what gets us off. Now we are a Sensual Sadist and a Sensual Masochist living a 24/7 TPE lifestyle. She is my collared 3-hole slut. We have had sex practically every day that started with and includes an intense spanking that leaves her ass bright red, with her cane marks from the weekend showing up as highlights. Beyond that there are some other aspects that make it hot. We are deeply engaged in hypnokink (more later) and she is being trained to have a “mouthgasm”. In addition to both of us giving the other oral, there is also analingus in both directions and there is a lot of ass fucking. In fact, when we finally get to climax, we feel as if we are quite literally one creature. Think about the creatures in the movie “Avatar” that join electrically and share the same brain. When we climax together, me fucking her ass hard after lighting it up and brining her to orgasm with my mouth and finger, and after she has brought me close to climax with her tongue on my ass and her one hand holding my balls tight while she strokes me with her other hand, the electrical energy is palpable. It is as if we are in the Matrix.
So that is the sex, but what happens after must be taken into account as well. We are both completely used up and need a while to recover. We are both in a lingering trance state, her a subby trance and me a Dommy trance out of that encounter. All we can do is hold hands and smile at each other. No words are possible or relevant.
So on to the examination.
First, I make the assumption that only kinksters can actually have ridiculously hot sex. You might quibble with this assertion, but for the sake of argument, accept it as what’s so. As a result, we can eliminate everyone who is not a kinkster. According to a 2005 survey by Durex, 36% of Americans use kinky toys during sex, vs the 65% of university students that dream about being tied up, that from a 1999 study.
So, the current US population is around 330 million, which means that about 118.8 million are engaged in kink.
The second point of elimination is the question of simultaneous orgasms. I am using this as a criterion because for us, that single moment is the essence of pure hotness. According to a survey conducted by “Uncovering Intimacy”, they determined that only 4% of couples experience simultaneous orgasms every time.
So that means that only 4,752,000 kinksters are experiencing multiple orgasms.
In essence this means that only 1.44% of people in the US are having both kinky hot sex and multiple orgasms. A rare group.
With that established, the question as to what is occurring arises. Let’s examine the chemistry. Being with my partner and seeing her kneel for me ‘…unleashes a flood of neurochemicals including testosterone, oxytocin, dopamine, and norepinephrine that have the impact of amping up feelings of tenderness and attraction. Meanwhile, serotonin levels drop, and deep in the reptilian brain, the caudate nucleus, associated with hunting and prey, lights up. This creates a “Herculean mating urge” as an impact of being drenched in chemical that bestow focus, stamina and vigor driven by the motivation engine of the brain’ (Fisher).
We quite clearly devolve into our most base animal natures as we experience screaming simultaneous orgasms. We are left joined and panting as we come back to earth.
This is all very well, but how does it translate into reproducible practice for the average person? This is a much harder question to answer because there are just so many variables to consider.
First of all, I did a bunch of work for like 4 years really examining what it was I was seeking. At the same time, I explored all aspects of my kink as a sadist. I was lucky enough to have an array of partners, submissive women, who challenged me to explore myself fully. Then, when I was clear about what I wanted, I began to search for whom I wanted to explore my sexuality with. When I found Lady Petra, she was in her own inquiry, and she did a lot of personal searching and self-examination as she asessed her own motivations for well over a year. At some point during that year, we implemented a daily maintenance spanking routine, which had the impact of accelerating our inquiry, and creating a very hot sexual scene that occurred daily out of that spanking. This was at the same time massively enjoyable on one hand and on the other, Lady Petra was able to explore herself as a masochist. She did this by examining her response to different implements and intensities. That inquiry revealed that with the correct implement, the heavy flogger, and the correct delivery, hard rhythmic strokes for an extended period of time, she began to experience intense arousal and even orgasm. On a daily basis we played hard. I like to say that we have over 1,000 iterations of our inquiry so far.
What was revealed to us in our inquiry was the key to our search for real intimacy. And it was not until we were both willing to truly be vulnerable that we were ablet to experience that “Kundalini Awakening”, and it was only after that, fully two years into our dynamic that this experience started to occur in a very predictable way. Prior to that, the experience would occasionally occur, but in a more random fashion even though we were having hot kinky sex every day.
In part, our recent new sexual freedom is a function of our Anal April experience where Lady Petra was in virtual chastity for a month, during which time we only had anal sex every day, for the month. That experience opened up her relatedness to has ass as a sex organ.
Add to that the Hypnokink we are employing as a way to begin our scenes, and you have the formula for reachable nirvana level peak sexuality.
For us it has been a multiyear pursuit and now, with experience, skills, honed kinks and complete trust between us, the access we have to peak sexuality is very real. Our experience has been described by practitioners of Tantra as quite remarkable and approaching a state of cosmic energy, here is what one such educator, Mystic Chick, had to say:
”When you get into the space you [are] in with Lady Petra during that passage, it became an intertwining of energies. But then it evolved into it’s own living, energetic being. When you come together in that way, you are creating a special type of magic. It feeds and inspires others by contributing to the Collective Unconscious. This impacts other’s encounters on a very subliminal level. This type of energetic play can be healing for yourselves and others This is because when you two are sexually engaged in this manner, the chakras are open and Shakti (kundalini) is flowing freely. Shakti is the creative force that puts you in touch with cosmic energy (which may be why you described your encounter with LP as “alien”)…”
To create this experience in an even more predictable manner, we recently began to practice Hypnokink as I mentioned.
ECSTASY – noun
– an overwhelming feeling of great happiness of joyful excitement “there was a look of ecstasy on her face”
– an emotional or religious frenzy or trance-like state, originally one involving an experience of mystic self-transcendence
– an overpowering emotion or exaltation: a state of sudden, intense feeling
– First recorded in 1350–1400; Middle English extasie, from Middle French, from Medieval Latin extasis, from Greek ékstasis “displacement, trance,” equivalent to ek- ec- + stásis stasis
Synonym Study for Ecstasy
– Ecstasy, rapture, transport, exaltation share a sense of being taken or moved out of one’s “self” or one’s normal state and entering a state of intensified or heightened feeling. Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling: an ecstasy of rage, grief, love. Rapture shares the power of ecstasy but most often refers to an elevated sensation of bliss or delight, either carnal or spiritual: the rapture of first love. Transport, somewhat less extreme than either ecstasy or rapture, implies a strength of feeling that results in expression of some kind: They jumped up and down in a transport of delight. Exaltation refers to a heady sense of personal well-being so powerful that one is lifted above normal emotional levels and above normal people: wild exaltation at having finally broken the record.
This particular definition is the most accurate in describing our experience:
– “Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling”
As I noted earlier, we find exploring our kink akin to being in a hypnotic trance state. It’s true, there is ritual and structure to our sceneing that creates a hypnotic context that we sink into and enjoy as if we are in a trance state. We describe the experience of our scenes as if we have unlocked the Master Level of the “game”. The sex is amazing, and quite far beyond what either of us thought sex was for all those years.
Inside of the hypnosis context, we created the notion of a “mouthgasm”, which we defined as an orgasm that occurs when we engage in deep throat oral sex. Now there is some uncertainty about if she would have an orgasm in her mind caused by being throat fucked, or if she would have an orgasm in her pussy as stimulated by being deeply throat fucked. School is not out on that one yet. The very idea itself was designed to make her into a real 3-hole whore.
To set up the scene, she began mouthgasm training by using an Hitachi Wand to bring herself to the very edge of orgasm before I plunge my cock down her throat and only when my cock is all the way down her throat does she allow herself to cum. That is by using the Hitachi through the orgasm.
The intention is to gradually stop using the Hitachi as my cock entered her mouth to see if she will orgasm with the stimulus of being deep throat fucked. At this stage of her training, she still needs the stimulus of the Hitachi to achieve orgasm.
Now we are onto Phase two. We are being guided in our exploration of kink hypnosis with the help of a friend who practices the art.
The first step is to put her into an hypnotic trance and see where that goes.
This means that I am getting used to hypnotizing her. And she is getting used to being hypnotized. The skill I am developing at induction is gradually making it easier to hypnotize her. At the moment she is being hypnotized to experience any touch by me to be Hitachi-like in the way she experiences it. We started by coaching her to feel my fingertips “vibrating with the power of the Hitachi” as I stroke her neck, arms, back and breasts.
Next, she is being coached to feel that same sense of vibration from my cock as it enters her throat and finally she is being trained to cum with the trigger of deep throat penetration by my vibrating cock along with a simultaneous verbal prompt.
Over time she will come to accept that deep throat penetration as a trigger for orgasm, and we can begin to remove the Hitachi from the equation.
Then she will be a 3-hole-whore in reality.
She is already experiencing mind blowing sexual ecstasy. Her expanding self-expression as a sexual creature has given her access to a new level of climactic pleasure.
And its only the beginning of the journey.
My point is that we are on an inquiry of exploring how far we can take our sexuality and we have had the experience of regularly achieving this unexpected outcome that quite honestly approaches nirvana.
While I cannot claim that we have indeed achieve Peak Sexuality, we are very happily well along the path.
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