Kink Weekly

BDSM articles ideas bondage erotica resource

Home » sexual freedom

sexual freedom

Discovering New Kinks Through Tantric Massage

By 2 Comments

bdsm leather submissive collar
via stock.adobe.com

There are many physical and psychological aspects of kinks that many wait years to discover. Exploring your boundaries safely and consensually is of the utmost importance. However, finding someone open and willing to engage in excitingly erotic activities isn’t easy.

This is where tantric massage has much to offer. So what is it, how can it be used to discover new kinks, and should you try it?

What Is Tantric Massage?

The art of Tantra is centuries old. Ancient civilisations have used Tantra as a form of physical and spiritual healing, and it quickly gained a resurgence in popularity throughout the 1960s on the wave of sexual liberation. An indulgent massage makes for excellent foreplay, but tantric massage’s additional yogic and meditative qualities are excellent for exploring the body, mind and soul. So how does this relate to kinks?

Can Tantric Massage Help You Discover New Kinks?

There are numerous ways tantric massage can open you to a world of pleasurable possibilities that are just waiting to be discovered.

Creating a Safe, Consensual Environment

Expertly trained massage therapists who are well-versed in the tantric arts are masters at creating a safe space where you can openly express your sexuality. While you might keep your wildest desires to yourself most of the time, you’ll find incredible liberation in sharing your most adventurous thoughts without judgement. 

Helping You Explore Your Body

Kinks don’t often provide a direct route to sexual gratification, they’re much more nuanced than overt sexual acts. Taking the time to discover erogenous zones of the body can develop your understanding of the body. You’ll learn more about the places you like to be touched, how you like to be touched and the kind of stimulation that different types of touch can provide.

Tapping into Your Deepest Desires

In place of judgement-free enjoyment, new sensations can unlock your deepest desires for gratification. From a BDSM perspective, massage works both ways, either as a form of domination — where the masseuse or masseur is in total control of the activity — or, as submission — where the masseuse or masseur is responsible for pleasuring the dominant party through touch. In any case, you’ll be able to experiment with your partner, engaging in both roles to learn what you like most.

Opening Your Mind to New Forms of Pleasure

Being pampered and pleased is highly erotic and provides a direct route to satisfaction. For many, being tantalised and teased is equally enthralling. As you learn more about what you like, you’ll discover more things you enjoy. 

The Most Common Kinks Associated with Tantric Massage

Tantric massage is great for BDSM beginners or those looking to discover new kinks. A huge number of opportunities for different kinks emerge from engaging in a professional, authentic tantric massage. Some of the most common kinks to emerge are:

  • Orgasm Control — You can discover denying, ruining, extending or postponing orgasms through the variation of touch with an expert tantric masseuse or masseur. It relies on maintaining a high level of sexual arousal before, during or after a climax, sometimes achieved through techniques like edging.
  • Domination/Subordination — Through massage, domination and subordination are a dynamic that can emerge between two people. One person takes on the dominant role as the leader or enforcer of the activity, while the other — the subordinate party — assumes more of a pleaser or servant role.
  • Voyeurism — If you’re part of a couple, you can experience a tantric as a voyeur, watching your partner be massaged, reverse the roles and allow your partner to watch you enjoy the rapturous pleasure provided by the masseuse or masseur.
  • Feet Fetishes — The magic of the tantric touch can inspire all kinds of new, wondrous pleasures. There is an abundance of nerve endings in the feet, which makes a foot fetish one to explore through massage.
  • Lingerie — When adorned by your partner or a masseuse, the lacy fabric of lingerie can get your heart racing. It can start a new kink for you as it indicates powerful erotic intent.
  • Role Play — This can be linked to dom/sub relationships, but it can also be unrelated. You can enjoy enacting a fictitious scene with your partner, masseuse or masseur. 

Whatever your reasons for trying tantric massage, you should approach the activity with an open mind. You’re bound to discover something you enjoy!

Should You Try a Tantric Massage?

Whether you’re at the beginning of your sexual exploration journey or looking for something that will add a new, highly erotic dimension to your sexual escapades, trying a tantric massage with a professional is highly recommended. This way, you’ll learn more about the practice’s physical, mental and spiritual aspects enabling you to find more exciting and daring delights to try in the future.

Rose Colette Aston is a highly experienced tantric practitioner and holistic massage therapist. Drawing on her years of experience and training, she writes informative articles on a wide range of topics related to Tantra, massage, and other holistic well-being practices.

The Pursuit Of Peak Sexuality

By 4 Comments

sexy submissive hair pulling toilet slut
via stock.adobe.com

A while back while looking for my ideal partner, I wrote a piece called “I did the math”. The writing  examined the notion that just on the basis of numbers, that there were at the time, about 1200 ideal  possible candidates for me just on Fetlife. Out of that writing, I found my perfect partner who was  literally “made for me”, or as she put it, my “…Fairy Godmother did an excellent job”.  

Now that we have been together for 3 years, and now that we are quite literally having mind blowing  sex every day, I thought I would examine a different question. That being related to our pursuit of peak  sexual experiences.  

This is much harder to quantify, in that there is no real data to reference, but by inference, let me try to  determine how many of us are in fact, engaged in regular mind-blowing sex approaching peak sexuality.  

First let’s define what mind-blowing sex is. For us, it is entirely a function of our kink dynamic and that  we are in a 24/7 TPE where, over the past three years, we have distilled our sexual encounters to about  45 minutes to an hour of scintillating hot sex every time. We like to think that we have created pure  hotness that is the distillation of a 3-years inquiry into what gets us off. Now we are a Sensual Sadist  and a Sensual Masochist living a 24/7 TPE lifestyle. She is my collared 3-hole slut. We have had sex  practically every day that started with and includes an intense spanking that leaves her ass bright red,  with her cane marks from the weekend showing up as highlights. Beyond that there are some other  aspects that make it hot. We are deeply engaged in hypnokink (more later) and she is being trained to  have a “mouthgasm”. In addition to both of us giving the other oral, there is also analingus in both  directions and there is a lot of ass fucking. In fact, when we finally get to climax, we feel as if we are  quite literally one creature. Think about the creatures in the movie “Avatar” that join electrically and  share the same brain. When we climax together, me fucking her ass hard after lighting it up and brining  her to orgasm with my mouth and finger, and after she has brought me close to climax with her tongue  on my ass and her one hand holding my balls tight while she strokes me with her other hand, the  electrical energy is palpable. It is as if we are in the Matrix.  

So that is the sex, but what happens after must be taken into account as well. We are both completely  used up and need a while to recover. We are both in a lingering trance state, her a subby trance and me  a Dommy trance out of that encounter. All we can do is hold hands and smile at each other. No words  are possible or relevant.  

So on to the examination.  

First, I make the assumption that only kinksters can actually have ridiculously hot sex. You might quibble  with this assertion, but for the sake of argument, accept it as what’s so. As a result, we can eliminate  everyone who is not a kinkster. According to a 2005 survey by Durex, 36% of Americans use kinky toys  during sex, vs the 65% of university students that dream about being tied up, that from a 1999 study.  

So, the current US population is around 330 million, which means that about 118.8 million are engaged in kink.  

The second point of elimination is the question of simultaneous orgasms. I am using this as a criterion  because for us, that single moment is the essence of pure hotness. According to a survey conducted by “Uncovering Intimacy”, they determined that only 4% of couples experience simultaneous orgasms every time.  

So that means that only 4,752,000 kinksters are experiencing multiple orgasms.  

In essence this means that only 1.44% of people in the US are having both kinky hot sex and multiple  orgasms. A rare group.  

With that established, the question as to what is occurring arises. Let’s examine the chemistry. Being  with my partner and seeing her kneel for me ‘…unleashes a flood of neurochemicals including  testosterone, oxytocin, dopamine, and norepinephrine that have the impact of amping up feelings of  tenderness and attraction. Meanwhile, serotonin levels drop, and deep in the reptilian brain, the  caudate nucleus, associated with hunting and prey, lights up. This creates a “Herculean mating urge” as  an impact of being drenched in chemical that bestow focus, stamina and vigor driven by the motivation engine of the brain’ (Fisher).  

We quite clearly devolve into our most base animal natures as we experience screaming simultaneous  orgasms. We are left joined and panting as we come back to earth.  

This is all very well, but how does it translate into reproducible practice for the average person? This is a  much harder question to answer because there are just so many variables to consider.  

First of all, I did a bunch of work for like 4 years really examining what it was I was seeking. At the same  time, I explored all aspects of my kink as a sadist. I was lucky enough to have an array of partners,  submissive women, who challenged me to explore myself fully. Then, when I was clear about what I  wanted, I began to search for whom I wanted to explore my sexuality with. When I found Lady Petra,  she was in her own inquiry, and she did a lot of personal searching and self-examination as she asessed  her own motivations for well over a year. At some point during that year, we implemented a daily  maintenance spanking routine, which had the impact of accelerating our inquiry, and creating a very hot  sexual scene that occurred daily out of that spanking. This was at the same time massively enjoyable on  one hand and on the other, Lady Petra was able to explore herself as a masochist. She did this by  examining her response to different implements and intensities. That inquiry revealed that with the  correct implement, the heavy flogger, and the correct delivery, hard rhythmic strokes for an extended  period of time, she began to experience intense arousal and even orgasm. On a daily basis we played  hard. I like to say that we have over 1,000 iterations of our inquiry so far.  

What was revealed to us in our inquiry was the key to our search for real intimacy. And it was not until  we were both willing to truly be vulnerable that we were ablet to experience that “Kundalini  Awakening”, and it was only after that, fully two years into our dynamic that this experience started to  occur in a very predictable way. Prior to that, the experience would occasionally occur, but in a more  random fashion even though we were having hot kinky sex every day.  

In part, our recent new sexual freedom is a function of our Anal April experience where Lady Petra was  in virtual chastity for a month, during which time we only had anal sex every day, for the month. That  experience opened up her relatedness to has ass as a sex organ.  

Add to that the Hypnokink we are employing as a way to begin our scenes, and you have the formula for  reachable nirvana level peak sexuality. 

For us it has been a multiyear pursuit and now, with experience, skills, honed kinks and complete trust  between us, the access we have to peak sexuality is very real. Our experience has been described by  practitioners of Tantra as quite remarkable and approaching a state of cosmic energy, here is what one  such educator, Mystic Chick, had to say:  

”When you get into the space you [are] in with Lady Petra during that passage, it became an  intertwining of energies. But then it evolved into it’s own living, energetic being. When you  come together in that way, you are creating a special type of magic. It feeds and inspires  others by contributing to the Collective Unconscious. This impacts other’s encounters on a  very subliminal level. This type of energetic play can be healing for yourselves and others  This is because when you two are sexually engaged in this manner, the chakras are open  and Shakti (kundalini) is flowing freely. Shakti is the creative force that puts you in touch  with cosmic energy (which may be why you described your encounter with LP as “alien”)…” 

To create this experience in an even more predictable manner, we recently began to practice Hypnokink as I mentioned.  

ECSTASY – noun  

– an overwhelming feeling of great happiness of joyful excitement “there was a look of ecstasy on  her face”  

– an emotional or religious frenzy or trance-like state, originally one involving an experience of  mystic self-transcendence  

– an overpowering emotion or exaltation: a state of sudden, intense feeling  

Origin:  

– First recorded in 1350–1400; Middle English extasie, from Middle French, from Medieval Latin  extasis, from Greek ékstasis “displacement, trance,” equivalent to ek- ec- + stásis stasis  

Synonym Study for Ecstasy  

– Ecstasy, rapture, transport, exaltation share a sense of being taken or moved out of one’s “self”  or one’s normal state and entering a state of intensified or heightened feeling. Ecstasy suggests  an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the  single overpowering feeling: an ecstasy of rage, grief, love. Rapture shares the power of ecstasy  but most often refers to an elevated sensation of bliss or delight, either carnal or spiritual: the  rapture of first love. Transport, somewhat less extreme than either ecstasy or rapture, implies a  strength of feeling that results in expression of some kind: They jumped up and down in a  transport of delight. Exaltation refers to a heady sense of personal well-being so powerful that  one is lifted above normal emotional levels and above normal people: wild exaltation at having  finally broken the record.  

This particular definition is the most accurate in describing our experience: 

– “Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike  dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling”  

As I noted earlier, we find exploring our kink akin to being in a hypnotic trance state. It’s true, there is  ritual and structure to our sceneing that creates a hypnotic context that we sink into and enjoy as if we  are in a trance state. We describe the experience of our scenes as if we have unlocked the Master Level  of the “game”. The sex is amazing, and quite far beyond what either of us thought sex was for all those years.  

Inside of the hypnosis context, we created the notion of a “mouthgasm”, which we defined as an orgasm  that occurs when we engage in deep throat oral sex. Now there is some uncertainty about if she would  have an orgasm in her mind caused by being throat fucked, or if she would have an orgasm in her pussy  as stimulated by being deeply throat fucked. School is not out on that one yet. The very idea itself was  designed to make her into a real 3-hole whore.  

To set up the scene, she began mouthgasm training by using an Hitachi Wand to bring herself to the  very edge of orgasm before I plunge my cock down her throat and only when my cock is all the way  down her throat does she allow herself to cum. That is by using the Hitachi through the orgasm.  

The intention is to gradually stop using the Hitachi as my cock entered her mouth to see if she will  orgasm with the stimulus of being deep throat fucked. At this stage of her training, she still needs the  stimulus of the Hitachi to achieve orgasm.  

Now we are onto Phase two. We are being guided in our exploration of kink hypnosis with the help of a friend who practices the art.  

The first step is to put her into an hypnotic trance and see where that goes.  

This means that I am getting used to hypnotizing her. And she is getting used to being hypnotized. The  skill I am developing at induction is gradually making it easier to hypnotize her. At the moment she is  being hypnotized to experience any touch by me to be Hitachi-like in the way she experiences it. We  started by coaching her to feel my fingertips “vibrating with the power of the Hitachi” as I stroke her neck, arms, back and breasts.  

Next, she is being coached to feel that same sense of vibration from my cock as it enters her throat and  finally she is being trained to cum with the trigger of deep throat penetration by my vibrating cock along  with a simultaneous verbal prompt.  

Over time she will come to accept that deep throat penetration as a trigger for orgasm, and we can begin to remove the Hitachi from the equation.  

Then she will be a 3-hole-whore in reality.  

She is already experiencing mind blowing sexual ecstasy. Her expanding self-expression as a sexual  creature has given her access to a new level of climactic pleasure.  

And its only the beginning of the journey.  

My point is that we are on an inquiry of exploring how far we can take our sexuality and we have had  the experience of regularly achieving this unexpected outcome that quite honestly approaches nirvana. 

While I cannot claim that we have indeed achieve Peak Sexuality, we are very happily well along the path.  

References:  

https://aeon.co/essays/tantric-sex-promises-healthy-bliss-what-does-the-science-say https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/simultaneous-orgasm-survey-results/ 

You can access the coaching services offered by Lady Petra Playground by reaching out for an initial  conversation- LadyPetraPlaground@gmail.com  

SafferMaster and Lady Petra offer Kink Relationship Coaching with online, group, and personal coaching options.  

Lady Petra and SafferMaster also produce the Kinky cocktail Hour podcast available on all podcast  platforms and here: https://kinkycocktailhour.buzzsprout.com/  

7 Reasons Audio Porn Is The Best Type Of Foreplay

By 3 Comments

lesbians kissing, Shibari
via stock.adobe.com

Audio porn is quickly becoming one of the leading sources of erotica pleasure. Beautifully crafted stories, compelling characters, and your naughty imagination all come together to create a unique and arousing experience.

Are you already hooked on audio porn? Or maybe this is your first time hearing about it? (Pun intended).

Exactly how it sounds, audio porn is sexy and seductive stories read aloud for your listening pleasure. Think of it like a naughty book on tape! 

Not convinced that audio porn can hold a candle to your favorite porn website or magazine? 

Keep reading to discover 7 reasons audio porn is the best type of foreplay and why you need to experience it — now! 

1. A Treat for All Your Senses 

Pornographic videos and photos offer visual stimulation. These are most popular among men who need little more than a racy photograph to get their motors running. Women, on the other hand, respond best to erotic stimulation in the form of a story (or at least a movie or video with a decent storyline). 

It’s no surprise that women often require an emotional connection for arousal whereas a man’s response is purely physical. Audio porn offers a unique way to stimulate several of your senses at once. 

Listening to the character’s seductive voices as they tell the story will overpower your auditory senses. It’s not just the voices that grab you but the way they describe every feeling and sensation — the moans, the gasps, the heavy breathing. Erotic audio sex stories are like a warm, sexy secret being whispered in your ear.

Even though there are no pictures or videos to accompany the stories, your visual imagination will run wild (more on this in a minute), as you imagine the characters. You can also read along with the story as you listen, creating a multi-layered approach to sexual arousal and satisfaction. 

2. Let’s You Use Your Naughty Imagination

Watching porn doesn’t take too much imagination. After all, the images are front and center. Every curve, detail, position, and scenario is played out before you. While there’s certainly something to be said about this no-fuss, no-muss approach to pleasure, it doesn’t allow for your own creative freedom.

When listening to audio porn, it’s up to you to envision exactly what each character looks like. You can close your eyes and let their voices wash over you. Picture the lines of their face and the curves of their body. How do they feel, smell, and move? 

Because your visual senses are limited, audio porn heightens your other awesome senses including sound and your naughty imagination.

3. Gives You a Different Perspective

Have you ever dreamed about getting inside the mind and body of your partner? Do you wonder what the actors in your favorite porn videos are thinking and feeling?

These unique and steamy erotic audio sex stories actually let you listen from the perspective of both characters. As a woman, you can listen and feel the animalistic intensity of the male characters while men get a unique peek inside the mind and body of a woman. 

Gain a better perspective on what makes the other sex tick by listening to a variety of audio porn that describes various scenarios including threesomes, BDSM, cuckold, and more. 

4. Audio Porn is Quick and Easy to Use

The average erotica audio story is between 3 and 5 minutes long, with some extending to 10 minutes. Whether you’re driving to work, listening in the shower, or indulging in some voyeurism on the subway, audio porn is a quick and easy way to enjoy some sexual arousal anywhere at any time.

Viewing porn on your phone or computer is risky — especially if you’re in the office, working from home, or surrounded by people. Audio porn can be your own dirty little secret. Just slip in your earbuds and immerse yourself in a seductive story. The excitement and arousal will last long after the story ends, making audio porn a great form of foreplay. 

5. Helps You Unwind Before Bed

Studies show that using a digital device like your smartphone, tablet, or TV before bed can make it more difficult to fall asleep. The blue light emitted from these devices prevents your brain from releasing much-needed melatonin for sleep.

But what if you enjoy a little sexual release before drifting off to sleep that involves viewing porn? Never fear — audio porn is here!

Now, you can slide between the sheets with your favorite erotic audio sex stories and close your eyes. As your body and mind relax in the darkness, the animal inside you will come alive! Either take hold and release some sexual tension or simply let the voices relax you as you fall asleep to the sound of a sexy story. 

The choice is yours.

6. Allows for Hands-Free Fun 

All the erotic story lovers out there, raise your hand! Oh, wait, you can’t, because your hands are struggling to hold a book and touch yourself at the same time. 

Not anymore!

Audio porn lets you experience your favorite erotic stories without tying up your hands. You can let the stories play on your favorite device or get up close and personal using headphones or earbuds. As the seductive voices whisper into your ear, your hands are now free to explore and stimulate your body — or your partners’! 

7. Share Erotic Audio Sex Stories with Your Partner

Speaking of partners, foreplay is all about the build-up. Naughty text messages, sexy pictures, and sexual innuendos shared throughout the day make for a hot and steamy night. Audio porn is one more tool in your sexual wheelhouse to help increase intimacy and pleasure between you and your partner.

Share an audio sex story that details exactly what you want to do with them or perfectly describes your favorite fantasy. You can also use audio porn to let your partner know you want to try something new. Subtly suggest roleplaying, a threesome, or even being gagged and blindfolded by sharing an erotic sex story about it and seeing how they react. 

7. Audio Porn is Arousing in a More Subtle Way

Although 40 million people admit to regularly visiting porn sites, the truth is, there are millions more out there that either don’t admit to it, want to watch porn but are too embarrassed, or engage in other arousing activities like reading erotica.

If you fall into any of these categories and want a more subtle way to get your juices flowing (literally), audio porn is the answer. Not only is it a discreet way to experience some of the hottest and most taboo sex stories available, but it falls under more of the “soft porn” category. 

Not everyone is comfortable watching graphic videos that depict two (or more) people having aggressive sex. Even romantic porn videos are more than some people can handle. Erotic audio sex stories are a beautiful, subtle, and equally sexy way to engage in foreplay and self-pleasure. 

Explore the World of Audio Porn Today

The porn industry has evolved exponentially over the last several decades. As with any industry, some changes have been good while others have been questionable.

If you want a safe, sexy, easy way to tap into your seductive side, erotic audio sex stories are the way to go. This new form of erotica takes your favorite stories and brings them to life with compelling descriptions and intoxicating audio. Audio porn combines passionate stories, vivid descriptions, and your wildest fantasies to deliver a truly unique experience for all of your senses.

Writer @ Sofia Gray – The largest used underwear marketplace

This week in kink: July 5, 2021

By 2 Comments

Learn about the spicy Locked Down sex position from The Sun!

Click below to find out more!

Discover the inner workings of a Domme and her sub!

Click below to read more from Lovin Malta!

‘Always Address Me As Mistress’: A Peek Into The Life Of A Professional Maltese Dominatrix And Her Sub

Uncover the police station turned fetish club with WalesOnline!

Click below to read more!

Have some kinky news to share? Tell us about any upcoming BDSM events, new products, dungeon openings / closings, kink in mainstream media, and anything else you think kinky folks might be interested to hear about. Send your tips through to kinkweekly@gmail.com, and it might just end up on next week’s “This Week in Kink.”

Most Common Fetish Requests – Cam Models Experience

By 2 Comments

sexy feet in fishnets
via stock.adobe.com

You’d be surprised at how many cam girls aren’t in it for the money. A lot of them actually appreciate the fact that people open up to them, and some of their viewers can talk to them about pretty much anything. That being said, some of the most popular webcam girls confirm they get a lot of the common and sometimes weird fetish requests.

People don’t really admit to their kinks and fetishes often, usually because of a fear of being judged, but being anonymous on the web does help them open up. Have you ever thought about revealing your kinks to a random stranger who has very likely heard of them, and maybe experienced them and knows what they’re like? Well, a lot of the viewers do exactly that, which is why we’re looking at some of the most common fetish requests, straight out of the cam girls’ mouth.

BDSM

This is arguably one of the most popular kinks out there, and yes, BDSM is definitely popular in the camming world, too. You’re looking at a power exchange which is extremely sexual, between the viewer and the model, and that gets a lot of people’s sex drive going. This is why you’ll come across a huge number of cam girls that focus on BDSM streams to keep their viewers happy.

Copyright: Unsplash | CC0 Public Domain

But it’s not just the number of cam girls that focus on BDSM, it’s the variety and quality, too. There are Dominatrixes that will keep you in check and make sure you’re obedient, for example, and you’ll be surprised at how good of a job they do, even though they’re not technically next to you. Cuckolding, ballbusting, nipple torture – you name it, they’ll be happy to do it for you.

Feet

Some people look at it as a joke, but for others, it’s incredibly serious. It’s another one of the world’s most popular kinks, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that it’s on this list. When it comes to feet fetishes, viewers tend to enjoy a lot of different things. Some get turned on by toenails, others are keen on the soles, but they want cam girls to do quite a lot for them. And they usually get their wishes to come true – many cam girls love it, too. Of course, you’ll need to tip handsomely for that to happen, but if that’s your thing, you shouldn’t mind spending a few bucks.

Tights and Stockings

When it comes to clothing, stockings and tights are the top choice. For many viewers the model doesn’t even have to put on anything special – a regular pair of stockings goes a long way. However, cam models that want to go the extra mile will go for something like silk or lace stockings, or maybe even fishnets – they’ve been a kink for a while now. And there’s another reason why cam girls love them, they’re easy to put on or off, and a tip will get you a long way towards getting what you want. While arguably less popular, tights are a popular request, too.

If you’re an aspiring cam model, many seasoned ladies recommend that you also add a matching pair of panties and suspenders when you’re going for stockings. This takes people to a whole other level of crazy, and if done with the right audience, can lead to you making a hefty amount in tips.

Copyright: Unsplash | CC0 Public Domain

PVC, Rubber and Leather

These three are fairly different from one another, but they do have a thing in common – they’re all very, very tight, and have a mesmerizing effect on viewers. PVC and rubber are the slightly less popular option, because they come with a smell that people adore, but can’t really feel through the webcam. However, leather is a very, very in-demand thing, which is why a lot of models have a whole dresser of leather things like trousers, coats and jackets, and a tip will very likely make them open up that dresser and put something on.

The problem with these clothing items are that they’re very difficult to put on and off, so if you’re not in the mood for a tip, you could look up some of the cam girls that focus specifically on these kinks and fetishes – they’ll drive you crazy before you know it.  

Lead by untamable lust for pleasure I indulge in sex and different types of adult work. I am a former stripper and occasional cam model. When I don’t engage I write about my experience and hot stories. Life is short so I plan on staying wild for a little while!

The Impact of Sex Work on Women’s Romantic Relationships

By 3 Comments

lesbian collar bdsm play
via stock.adobe.com

The idea of having a long-term relationship with a sex worker can be intimidating in many ways. Besides regular dating problems every couple has, you have to face the fact that the person you love is sharing their body with other people. Apart from that, there is a social stigma on everyone who makes money with sex. 

Research conducted in 2015 showed that about 78% of women reported that overall sex work affected their relationships in a negative way. About 77% of all sex workers decided to stay single due to their job. So is dating a sex worker possible? Yes! However, choosing this kind of life can bring many challenges. Here you will find some of the most important things that can impact your relationship when you decide to pursue a sex working career. 

Jealousy

It may come as no surprise, but the main problem in dating a sex worker is jealousy. Many people can’t accept sharing their partner with other people. It is difficult for them to see sex work as regular work, like any other. Society still perceives sex as an intimate thing you should only do when you are in a long-term relationship or after marriage. The hardest part for any sex worker is coming out and being honest about what they do for a living. Nevertheless, we have to take into consideration that in our society, even purchasing from stores like The Adult Toy Shop is sometimes frowned upon.

The first reaction after you tell your date that you are a sex worker may be really hard. It’s tough to find people who will react positively. It often leads to ending the whole relationship, fights, and slut-shaming. Problems often arise when the partner has issues with the entire nature of the job. 

On the other hand, not every sex work is seen identically. Working as a cam girl or a stripper isn’t as “big of a deal” as having intercourse with clients. More people can accept their partner selling their nude photos or videos anonymously than them meeting clients in person. 

Jealousy is one of the reasons many sex workers decide on having a relationship with other sex workers or non-monogamous people. Open relationships will be more effective, as the other person will be free to sleep with other people too. 

Pragmatic Issues

It is a common belief that sex workers won’t have sex with their partners. It may seem logical for some people, as most of us finish the job and do different things in our free time. It may be probably true for some sex workers, but many feel differently doing it with clients and with their partners. The emotional bond can change the whole nature of sex, as you feel close both physically and mentally. 

Apart from that, not many sex workers work every day. Being your own boss allows you to choose where and when you want to work. Some women sex workers said that their work enabled them to experience much deeper intimacy with their partner and that it increased their self-esteem and confidence, resulting in a much bigger sex drive.

Additionally, some sex workers say that many people start projecting their fantasies on them after finding out about their job and start treating them like sex workers instead of dates. They tend not to be serious about the relationship. 

Dishonesty

Many sex workers generally feel that they can’t be honest about their jobs. Lying to a partner is one of the worst things, and it can wreck your relationship. They have to lie daily to strangers that ask them what kind of job they have. Often they lie to their families, so the last thing they may want is to lie to their other half. It can cause fights, distrust, and create barriers, so you won’t be able to feel safe anymore. 

Starting a new relationship can be especially difficult, as being a female sex worker has a huge stigma. People make a lot of assumptions about dating sex workers, from expecting various diseases to drugs and lack of self-worth. Sex workers are afraid that there is too much judgment, and it may be to big of baggage to handle in the first few weeks or months of a relationship.  

The Bottom Line

Being a sex worker is challenging, and adding relationships to the equation can create a destructive mix. The whole nature of sex work will always impact every couple, so many sex workers decide to stay single for life or date only other sex workers. 

Fortunately, you can find happy couples when a partner is very accepting of the job and doesn’t project their fears on their relationship. However, it requires lots of self-confidence, empathy, and open-mindedness, which not many people have. As always, communication and honesty are everything, and it works both ways. Finding a good person is not as easy as some may think!

Maze is a lifestyle writer, dominant in life, submissive in other activities. She participates in shibari workshops and works as a BDSM model for both workshops and photoshoots. Her writing focuses on positive sexuality, and her goal is to educate people on safe sex, kinks, and accepting your whole personality. Maze wants to see a world where no one will be frowned upon for expressing themselves or their hobbies.

Exploring Casual Sex While Being Demisexual

By 3 Comments

sexy women in lace on bed blindfolded
via stock.adobe.com

Sexuality is a broad spectrum. Everyone has different preferences regarding dating and being intimate with others, but some groups of people show certain common grounds. Many of them don’t necessarily feel the need to be labeled, but being part of a group can help us find our own voice for many of us. 

Labeling various aspects of our sexuality can help us identify our needs and desires and share them with the community. It allows us to find other people like ourselves. However, some preferences may be confusing even to people that define themselves as those. 

What exactly is demisexuality? Can demisexuals enjoy casual encounters? How to manage your physical craving without a long-term relationship? Here, you will find some information that will hopefully help you answer those questions. 

Demisexuality

Humans are sexual beings. The vast majority enjoys various kinds of sex, as it is no longer just a matter of procreation but a healthy way to relieve stress, have fun, experiment with new feelings, etc. While some can enjoy masturbation, their silicon wives, or random sex with strangers, not all people can and want to do those things. 

Demisexuality is one of the sexual orientations where people feel sexual attraction to someone only when they have an emotional bond with that person. At the same time, they can be gay, straight, pan, bi, and they may have any gender identity. 

Contrary to some beliefs, the bond demisexual people need to enjoy sexual encounters doesn’t need to be love or romance. For many of them, friendship will be more than enough. 

Right now, you may think, “but don’t many of us wait to have intimate relationships after we create some bond?” Yes, but for demi people, it’s not about choice. They don’t do it because they want to, but because they won’t feel sexual attraction until after they befriend someone. They are not simply people who decide to date someone before having sex. 

Casual Encounters

Seeing their friends hooking up in bars and having a good time with total strangers may be annoying for demi people. Most people need physical closeness from time to time, but some don’t want to engage in serious relationships. 

Being the only one who goes to a party with friends and goes back alone isn’t nice. You never have any wild, fun stories to tell in the morning, and you can feel like you are too picky and that your friends perceive you as a prude. Nevertheless, have you ever had casual sex that you enjoyed? If you didn’t have casual sex at all, do you want to?

If the answer is “no,” then you don’t have anything to feel weird about. Sex with strangers, especially after alcohol, can be really awkward, and lots of people lie that it was wonderful, just to feel better. You can always fulfill your physical needs in different ways. Doing it by yourself has many benefits, including getting to know your own body. 

Friends With Benefits

Friends with benefits is a fantastic way to have someone you can be close to with no strings attached. It is also a perfect arrangement for demis. Platonic friendship or love is also the connection that may allow demisexual people to have good sex without long-term relationships. 

If you don’t want to ruin your social circles, you can look up people on the Internet. There are sites designed especially for looking for friends with benefits, and putting your sexual preferences on your profile page can help you avoid people that want something different. 

Having a platonic sexual relationship will allow you to explore your sexual side without distractions and fights that usually couples have. You can try various things and techniques and see what you are into. 

However, there is a tricky part of the FwB relationship that people tend to forget. If you want it to work, you have to remember that you are not a couple. It can get really awkward if one person “catches” feelings and the other one doesn’t. You have to establish clear ground rules of the arrangement and follow them thoroughly. 

The Bottom Line

Demisexual people will indeed have a harder time finding relationships with no strings than others. However, in most cases, it can be done. There is no reason for demisexual people to be abstinent when dating is out of the question. You can have sex for any reason, from physical need to the mental need of closeness. It is important to take your time and find someone you will have a good time with, so you won’t end up hurt or in an uncomfortable situation. 

Remember that you don’t have to do things that make you feel awkward just because other people are doing this. You can take everything at your own pace. Embracing your sexuality can help you feel better and accept yourself just the way you are. 

Maze is a lifestyle writer, dominant in life, submissive in other activities. She participates in shibari workshops and works as a BDSM model for both workshops and photoshoots. Her writing focuses on positive sexuality, and her goal is to educate people on safe sex, kinks, and accepting your whole personality. Maze wants to see a world where no one will be frowned upon for expressing themselves or their hobbies.

His Luck With The Irish

By 2 Comments

dominant man and beautiful submissive in car
via stock.adobe.com

Albert had walked the coast of Innis free several times on family vacations. This was the first time he had done it alone. He parked the rental in the familiar parking lot along the road to Kerry. It was early, the grass was slick with dew and only few horse and carts were waiting for the tourists to experience riding in a trap. 

Even though it was early summer he wore stout hiking boots a pair of well-worn jeans and layers of T shirt sweatshirt and vest for the 5K hike along the water’s edge. His footfalls echoed on the pavement as he made his way towards the shoreline. Passing through the black wrought iron gate was like walking backwards in time. Flat grey stones on a heavy forest floor had been worn almost smooth from the hundreds of hikers that passed this way every day. Although it was a bright day the temperature under the canopy of deciduous trees was somewhat dimmer. The bird song and rustling of leaves in the wind we’re the only sounds in the world. Albert knew the road wasn’t that far away geographically but here now the modern world was a lifetime away. He traveled along at a fair pace passively observing the world around him. Until he came to a break in the shrubbery and Bush is that separated The Walking path from the water. There were a half dozen large stones in the water that one could hop out onto and get a better view of the entire Lake. Albert cautiously hopped out on the first stone checked its steadiness and continued out for three more. Taking a few pictures and fondly remembering skimming stones here when he was a kid. 

When he was back on the path he remembered playing in these Woods and wondering where the fairies lived. At one point he came to the edge of a large dip behind a group of trees it was covered in Moss and Ivy. it looked like the place he always imagined magical creatures lived . If he had never climbed the rock, he never would have known that there was something hidden below. He climbed the tree and sat on the big branch that overlooked the vale.

He cracked open a can of ale that he had purchased on his way this morning. He looked at his watch and thought beer for breakfast. Although the weather was fine, and the morning had come on he had heard no other hikers. Albert had the world to himself. A couple of times the light flickered through the trees and danced across his vision like fairy wings sparkling in the moonlight. Albert finished the ale convinced himself that the fairy tales were getting to him and continued his walk.  When he arrived at the Manor Lee house and gardens he figured out where all the tourists had gone. They all had driven straight to the attraction. Something his parents had never done when he was a kid. 

he found a lovely piece of grass between the house and the Lake where he could have a picnic. He said on his vest and laid out the sandwich fruit and cookies that he had picked up at the petrol station that morning. 

Kelly watched the lone picnicker with great interest it wasn’t very often that you saw single men at ancient homes on weekday mornings. She laughed herself as she watched him unpack his knapsack and layout his entire lunch. From where she was trimming hedges, she could see that he had not expected the sun to be hot. The back of his neck was bright red and very obviously sunburned. his here was soft curls that whispered the edge of his sunburnt skin. Kelly imagined holding an ice cube in her mouth as she soothed his sunburn and slowly undressed him. He was alone he didn’t seem to be in any particular hurry and she figured any fuck will do as a lunch break. She tossed her tools into her canvas bag and made her way over to the picnicker. 

She extended her hand and in the most beautiful Irish lilt said. “it seems you’ve got a wicked burn on the back of your neck. Did you not put sunblock on before you started your adventure this morning?” She had the sun at her back so as Albert looked up all he saw was a giant hand close to his face offered by a large dark figure. 

As he spoke, he felt the back of his neck and grimaced at the idea of how that was going to hurt tonight. “I walked along the water and was in the Woods most of the time, so I didn’t figure I’d need anything on.” He looked around the shadowy figure towards the main house Ann queried, “do you think they sell sunblock inside? I’m sure if they do it’ll cost me an arm and a leg.”

“I know for a fact that they do and yes, it is an arm and a leg as you say, but I have some I’ve been more than glad to share.”  

He arose from his lunch and extended his hand, “I’m Albert, from Canada.”

“Kelly, from backdown the road,” she said taking his hand and giggling as she spoke. They flirted mercilessly and chatted mindlessly for several minutes. It took some pretty heavy flirting for Albert  to notice the continuous touching of his arms and holding his attention before. He looked at her bag and realized it was a canvas tool box and that she was wearing jeans with deep Brown stains in the knees and polo shirt with the parks logo on it. Playing it safe Albert said, “oh you work here am I keeping you from anything?”

Kelly took the opening slid her hand into the crook of his elbow and said all I have to do this afternoon just show you a good time.” Responding to the innuendo in her tone Albert laughed and asked her if she wanted to get out of there. 

They gathered up their things and headed to the employee parking lot. Kelly offered to drive him back to his car or they could go do a little bit of sightseeing. Albert asked if she knew of any nice hikes they could go on. She thought for a moment. 

“Do you wanna do some of the sheep fields, and go hillwalking or do you want to see some really great waterfalls? “

“Take me to see your waterfalls.”

As they drove further away from where he had started this morning he noticed the number of tour buses that they now drove by. They had only driven for about 30 minutes when she pulled across the road and parked next to a River. 

“Make sure your boots are done up. We’re going to walk along this River up to a couple of sets of waterfalls and if you’re up for it the view from up above the second waterfall is pretty amazing. She opened the trunk of her car tossed in everything that had been in the back seat and changed her own shoes. She tossed an old blanket at him and asked him to put it into his knapsack. they made their way on to the path nodding in greeting tourists as they began to climb the narrow trail the Hill beyond the path was a field of sparsely planted trees with a bed of moss and ferns. Kelly was a few paces a head and looked back often to make sure he was still with her. 

“so do you figure that the fairies from ferns?” He asked trying to be funny, But failing miserably at it. she groaned and took his hand to drag him along the path a little quicker. 

“My God you are slow come on!” she dragged him and picked up the pace as they came to the first waterfall. They had great fun playing fashion shoot and taking pictures of one another like they had known each other forever. She stood close to him and touched his face asking if he wanted to keep going. He kissed her on the cheek and bowed his head granting her permission to take the lead. She stepped off the trail and walked diagonally through the Ferrier firm that he had just asked about. The climb was steep and required all of their energy. It was well afternoon as they emerged into a clearing and away from all the noises that had filled his head. 

She took the knapsack from his back and set up the blanket at the end of edge of the forest. Albert scanned the views trying to take in all the shades of green and stillness that he so rarely got to experience. When he turned around Kelly stood on the blanket completely naked. Not being one to look a gift horse in the mouth Albert smiled a stupid grin and began to undress. With awkward enthusiasm they approached each other and kissed for the first time. Albert was completely aroused at the sight of this woman naked and willing. 

He held her ponytail drawing her chin up as he worked his way down her body her skin smelled sun kissed and tasted a little salty. Making his way towards her treasure trail to a soft trimmed mound of ginger. He maneuvered himself to be able to caress, kiss and massage her inner thighs. Not touching her sacred centre until the first moan rose from her throat and her fingers knit their way through his curly locks. In short order her body responded as she tilted her pelvis grabbed his head and pressed her clitoris towards his mouth. She was wet in anticipation of what was to come. As he sucked her clitoris, he slid a single finger deep within allowing his other fingers to extend towards her ass. With a practiced hand he began to edge her towards an orgasm. Utterances of protest for standing were met with a second finger and more intense finger fucking. as her orgasm built she brought one leg over his shoulder and began to rock against his tongue until she gushed and her knees went weak. Wanting to torture her a little longer, He withdrew his fingers but continue to play with her ass as he blew cold air on her clitoris. She had no choice to lie down unless she wanted him to stop. As the second orgasm began to build with this variation on a theme she actually physically separated and beg to lie down.  

As she stepped back she realized just how well-endowed Albert was. Not only was he every bit of nine inches he had to be one of the thickest cocks she had ever seen. He was completely erect, and his engorged penis was a deep crimson. Kelly looked at him in surprise and said, “Oh my God that must hurt!” he laughed and replied, “it’s not a bad kind of hurt; however, if you want to give him some attention a little bit of relief I’d be cool with that or if you like you can call your fairy friends.” he laughed and flicked his head towards the forest as though expecting a group of winged fairies to come flying through the trees.

she sat on the blanket and pointed to the darkest part of the forest. “Call the King of the fairies and see what he’ll do for you.” 

“is there anything special I need to say?”

“No, but do be polite you don’t want to get dragged off just pleasured.” she leaned back on her elbows and tilted her head towards the forest as if to encourage him to talk to the fairies. Enjoying the silliness with this stranger he threw his arms in the air and with wild abandonment called the fairy King and asked to send out his best fucking fairies to take him away. 

Kelly laughed as the late afternoon sun warmed her skin. Albert joined her on the blanket where they continued to explore.  As they continued around the bases Kelly caressed and touched his penis with a sense of trepidation. Although she was completely engaged in their fun, she touched his cock like she was afraid of it. Feeling rather full of himself Albert asked her if she was afraid of his little friend. Her laugh was nervous and her smile broad as she commented about there being nothing little about his friend the two of them dissolved into laughter as he rolled onto his back and offered her free inspection. She moved herself to sit cross legged between his legs with his penis completely engorged and ready to be abused. He wasn’t sure if she didn’t know what to do or if she was shocked by the size so he decided to be amused and watch her Explorer her sensual self. While her attention was focused her touch was unpracticed. She kissed and licked the top of his penis like an ice cream cone. He ached for her to grab his balls and take her to the back of his throat. When she took the entire head and sucked on it as she worked the shaft with her hand he lost focus and went along for the ride. His eyes closed made sunspots in his eyes as he felt the sun prickle and dance across his chest well Kelly gingerly explored his response is to her attention. At several points Albert attempted to see if the giggles he heard were from Kelly or perhaps a lost hiker. Kelly moaned licked and sucked occasionally making eye contact if a grown or curse word escaped Albert mouth. Albert enjoyed the attention and maintained focus until she had withdrew her attentions. 

He opened his eyes to see Kelly holding a condom and asking, “would you care to fuck me?”

He took the condom from her and definitely applied the sheath. She mounted his cock and lowered herself about halfway she stayed there for what seemed like the longest time just squeezing the muscles and moving the smallest amount. She held in the squat position until Albert took her by the hips and pressed her into his groin. When she was completely filled with him she placed her hands on his shoulders and began to rotate ever so slowly purring and moaning as his throbbing cock initiated another orgasm as she rocked Albert imagined fairies settling in for an evening show. He closed his eyes and raised his hips to match her rhythm the build was slow but the sensation was one he wanted to hold on to. He could feel the sun dip below the trees as he rolled her onto her back in order to finish with a solid proper fucking.

With her legs wrapped firmly around his hips Albert varied his speed and timed his fucking until her nails dug into his shoulders and she froze at her climax. He didn’t stop moving completely he just softened the intensity and let her ride her wave of ecstasy. As she started to come down from her orgasm, he pounded her hard and fast bringing her to climax again before he came inside of her. The two cuddled together slipping into sleep almost immediately. 

When the sun had dipped completely behind the trees the chill in the air woke the lovers from their tender sleep. Afraid to lose their way in the darkness they dressed quickly said very little and made their way back down the hillside. 

They made small talk and used their phone flashlights to find their way back towards the trail. They called out to some lights they had seen ahead assuming it was other hikers. But the lights did not get brighter, and nobody called back. Albert noticed the rise and Ivy on the trees look very much like the area he had passed that morning, a fairy vale. As they approached the rustling leaves and birdsong were replaced with chittering and indiscernible voices. 

“It seems we found the fairies?” Albert’s voice was like an icy blast through warm summer evenings, It shattered the silence that had been with them since they awoke. Kelly put a finger to her lips and motioned for him to be quiet. 

“It’s too late to tell him to be quiet now we know he’s here,” a voice said. They looked around but could not see where the voice had come from. Before they could speak flicks of light on shiny wings fluttered in front of their faces. It seemed as though the fairies we’re real. 

Albert awoke hearing the brae of a horse. He was in the driver seat of his car dressed, his T shirt was gone, and a four-leaf Clover sat on his dashboard. It was early morning, had he dreamed the thing? He was to embarrassed to ask the people milling about what day it was. He started the car and drove away.

Sunday Morning

By 2 Comments

sexy Dom and sub kissing, pet play
via stock.adobe.com

Eyelashes fluttering, she snapped to consciousness with a hand stroking down her body. Legs parting automatically, as was the rule, it took a moment of focus to realize why the hand which dipped between her legs to find moisture felt not quite right.

That’s right, she remembered suddenly. She’d gone to sleep last night with a woman curled between them, warm and sated, all three falling deeply into the kind of sleep that only aerobics followed by orgasm could bring. She turned her head to get lost in hair that swirled around the both of them, to see the curve of feminine lips above her. Passion took hold and she reached out in turn, burying fingers in the other woman’s hair as she begged their Master for permission to ride the wave of pleasure, the poured over the edge as if the waterfall had taken her.

Her front was suddenly hit by cooler air and she opened her eyes to see their Master pull their partner to the edge of the bed, using firm grips on her hair and her own positioning as leverage. He tipped their girl’s head over the edge of bed, sliding his cock between her eager lips. His gaze fell on her and she scrambled to place herself between their girl’s spread thighs. Placing her thumbs on their girl’s outer labia, she pushed to reveal the erect clitoris beneath. She wiggled closer on her stomach and buried her face between their girl’s thighs, taking a moment to enjoy the musky scent of all three of them blended together from last night before closing her eyes again and delicately lapping at the engorged flesh. As she pleasured their girl with mouth and hands, Master stroked in and out of her mouth, pausing when she struggled to breathe, gagging at times. Their girl wrapped her arms around His thighs, pulling him to her more enthusiastically as she began to approach her climax.

As He stroked and she licked, their girl imagined she was a flame burning between them, existing as nothing but an object for pleasure, and she screamed around the cock buried in her throat as she came, pulling Him closer and over that same waterfall with her, passion releasing down her throat. Disengaging, He stroked her her and the hair of his other partner as she crawled towards them. Rearranging themselves, they piled back onto the bed to lazily doze in the half-light of the morning, drifting back to sleep.

‘Easy like Sunday morning,’ was the last coherent mutter between them, their morning a happily haphazard tangle of bare limbs, blankets and stuffies. Breakfast could wait when there was love to be shared.