sexual fantasy

A while back while looking for my ideal partner, I wrote a piece called “I did the math”. The writing  examined the notion that just on the basis of numbers, that there were at the time, about 1200 ideal  possible candidates for me just on Fetlife. Out of that writing, I found my perfect partner who was  literally “made for me”, or as she put it, my “…Fairy Godmother did an excellent job”.  

Now that we have been together for 3 years, and now that we are quite literally having mind blowing  sex every day, I thought I would examine a different question. That being related to our pursuit of peak  sexual experiences.  

This is much harder to quantify, in that there is no real data to reference, but by inference, let me try to  determine how many of us are in fact, engaged in regular mind-blowing sex approaching peak sexuality.  

First let’s define what mind-blowing sex is. For us, it is entirely a function of our kink dynamic and that  we are in a 24/7 TPE where, over the past three years, we have distilled our sexual encounters to about  45 minutes to an hour of scintillating hot sex every time. We like to think that we have created pure  hotness that is the distillation of a 3-years inquiry into what gets us off. Now we are a Sensual Sadist  and a Sensual Masochist living a 24/7 TPE lifestyle. She is my collared 3-hole slut. We have had sex  practically every day that started with and includes an intense spanking that leaves her ass bright red,  with her cane marks from the weekend showing up as highlights. Beyond that there are some other  aspects that make it hot. We are deeply engaged in hypnokink (more later) and she is being trained to  have a “mouthgasm”. In addition to both of us giving the other oral, there is also analingus in both  directions and there is a lot of ass fucking. In fact, when we finally get to climax, we feel as if we are  quite literally one creature. Think about the creatures in the movie “Avatar” that join electrically and  share the same brain. When we climax together, me fucking her ass hard after lighting it up and brining  her to orgasm with my mouth and finger, and after she has brought me close to climax with her tongue  on my ass and her one hand holding my balls tight while she strokes me with her other hand, the  electrical energy is palpable. It is as if we are in the Matrix.  

So that is the sex, but what happens after must be taken into account as well. We are both completely  used up and need a while to recover. We are both in a lingering trance state, her a subby trance and me  a Dommy trance out of that encounter. All we can do is hold hands and smile at each other. No words  are possible or relevant.  

So on to the examination.  

First, I make the assumption that only kinksters can actually have ridiculously hot sex. You might quibble  with this assertion, but for the sake of argument, accept it as what’s so. As a result, we can eliminate  everyone who is not a kinkster. According to a 2005 survey by Durex, 36% of Americans use kinky toys  during sex, vs the 65% of university students that dream about being tied up, that from a 1999 study.  

So, the current US population is around 330 million, which means that about 118.8 million are engaged in kink.  

The second point of elimination is the question of simultaneous orgasms. I am using this as a criterion  because for us, that single moment is the essence of pure hotness. According to a survey conducted by “Uncovering Intimacy”, they determined that only 4% of couples experience simultaneous orgasms every time.  

So that means that only 4,752,000 kinksters are experiencing multiple orgasms.  

In essence this means that only 1.44% of people in the US are having both kinky hot sex and multiple  orgasms. A rare group.  

With that established, the question as to what is occurring arises. Let’s examine the chemistry. Being  with my partner and seeing her kneel for me ‘…unleashes a flood of neurochemicals including  testosterone, oxytocin, dopamine, and norepinephrine that have the impact of amping up feelings of  tenderness and attraction. Meanwhile, serotonin levels drop, and deep in the reptilian brain, the  caudate nucleus, associated with hunting and prey, lights up. This creates a “Herculean mating urge” as  an impact of being drenched in chemical that bestow focus, stamina and vigor driven by the motivation engine of the brain’ (Fisher).  

We quite clearly devolve into our most base animal natures as we experience screaming simultaneous  orgasms. We are left joined and panting as we come back to earth.  

This is all very well, but how does it translate into reproducible practice for the average person? This is a  much harder question to answer because there are just so many variables to consider.  

First of all, I did a bunch of work for like 4 years really examining what it was I was seeking. At the same  time, I explored all aspects of my kink as a sadist. I was lucky enough to have an array of partners,  submissive women, who challenged me to explore myself fully. Then, when I was clear about what I  wanted, I began to search for whom I wanted to explore my sexuality with. When I found Lady Petra,  she was in her own inquiry, and she did a lot of personal searching and self-examination as she asessed  her own motivations for well over a year. At some point during that year, we implemented a daily  maintenance spanking routine, which had the impact of accelerating our inquiry, and creating a very hot  sexual scene that occurred daily out of that spanking. This was at the same time massively enjoyable on  one hand and on the other, Lady Petra was able to explore herself as a masochist. She did this by  examining her response to different implements and intensities. That inquiry revealed that with the  correct implement, the heavy flogger, and the correct delivery, hard rhythmic strokes for an extended  period of time, she began to experience intense arousal and even orgasm. On a daily basis we played  hard. I like to say that we have over 1,000 iterations of our inquiry so far.  

What was revealed to us in our inquiry was the key to our search for real intimacy. And it was not until  we were both willing to truly be vulnerable that we were ablet to experience that “Kundalini  Awakening”, and it was only after that, fully two years into our dynamic that this experience started to  occur in a very predictable way. Prior to that, the experience would occasionally occur, but in a more  random fashion even though we were having hot kinky sex every day.  

In part, our recent new sexual freedom is a function of our Anal April experience where Lady Petra was  in virtual chastity for a month, during which time we only had anal sex every day, for the month. That  experience opened up her relatedness to has ass as a sex organ.  

Add to that the Hypnokink we are employing as a way to begin our scenes, and you have the formula for  reachable nirvana level peak sexuality. 

For us it has been a multiyear pursuit and now, with experience, skills, honed kinks and complete trust  between us, the access we have to peak sexuality is very real. Our experience has been described by  practitioners of Tantra as quite remarkable and approaching a state of cosmic energy, here is what one  such educator, Mystic Chick, had to say:  

”When you get into the space you [are] in with Lady Petra during that passage, it became an  intertwining of energies. But then it evolved into it’s own living, energetic being. When you  come together in that way, you are creating a special type of magic. It feeds and inspires  others by contributing to the Collective Unconscious. This impacts other’s encounters on a  very subliminal level. This type of energetic play can be healing for yourselves and others  This is because when you two are sexually engaged in this manner, the chakras are open  and Shakti (kundalini) is flowing freely. Shakti is the creative force that puts you in touch  with cosmic energy (which may be why you described your encounter with LP as “alien”)…” 

To create this experience in an even more predictable manner, we recently began to practice Hypnokink as I mentioned.  

ECSTASY – noun  

– an overwhelming feeling of great happiness of joyful excitement “there was a look of ecstasy on  her face”  

– an emotional or religious frenzy or trance-like state, originally one involving an experience of  mystic self-transcendence  

– an overpowering emotion or exaltation: a state of sudden, intense feeling  

Origin:  

– First recorded in 1350–1400; Middle English extasie, from Middle French, from Medieval Latin  extasis, from Greek ékstasis “displacement, trance,” equivalent to ek- ec- + stásis stasis  

Synonym Study for Ecstasy  

– Ecstasy, rapture, transport, exaltation share a sense of being taken or moved out of one’s “self”  or one’s normal state and entering a state of intensified or heightened feeling. Ecstasy suggests  an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the  single overpowering feeling: an ecstasy of rage, grief, love. Rapture shares the power of ecstasy  but most often refers to an elevated sensation of bliss or delight, either carnal or spiritual: the  rapture of first love. Transport, somewhat less extreme than either ecstasy or rapture, implies a  strength of feeling that results in expression of some kind: They jumped up and down in a  transport of delight. Exaltation refers to a heady sense of personal well-being so powerful that  one is lifted above normal emotional levels and above normal people: wild exaltation at having  finally broken the record.  

This particular definition is the most accurate in describing our experience: 

– “Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike  dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling”  

As I noted earlier, we find exploring our kink akin to being in a hypnotic trance state. It’s true, there is  ritual and structure to our sceneing that creates a hypnotic context that we sink into and enjoy as if we  are in a trance state. We describe the experience of our scenes as if we have unlocked the Master Level  of the “game”. The sex is amazing, and quite far beyond what either of us thought sex was for all those years.  

Inside of the hypnosis context, we created the notion of a “mouthgasm”, which we defined as an orgasm  that occurs when we engage in deep throat oral sex. Now there is some uncertainty about if she would  have an orgasm in her mind caused by being throat fucked, or if she would have an orgasm in her pussy  as stimulated by being deeply throat fucked. School is not out on that one yet. The very idea itself was  designed to make her into a real 3-hole whore.  

To set up the scene, she began mouthgasm training by using an Hitachi Wand to bring herself to the  very edge of orgasm before I plunge my cock down her throat and only when my cock is all the way  down her throat does she allow herself to cum. That is by using the Hitachi through the orgasm.  

The intention is to gradually stop using the Hitachi as my cock entered her mouth to see if she will  orgasm with the stimulus of being deep throat fucked. At this stage of her training, she still needs the  stimulus of the Hitachi to achieve orgasm.  

Now we are onto Phase two. We are being guided in our exploration of kink hypnosis with the help of a friend who practices the art.  

The first step is to put her into an hypnotic trance and see where that goes.  

This means that I am getting used to hypnotizing her. And she is getting used to being hypnotized. The  skill I am developing at induction is gradually making it easier to hypnotize her. At the moment she is  being hypnotized to experience any touch by me to be Hitachi-like in the way she experiences it. We  started by coaching her to feel my fingertips “vibrating with the power of the Hitachi” as I stroke her neck, arms, back and breasts.  

Next, she is being coached to feel that same sense of vibration from my cock as it enters her throat and  finally she is being trained to cum with the trigger of deep throat penetration by my vibrating cock along  with a simultaneous verbal prompt.  

Over time she will come to accept that deep throat penetration as a trigger for orgasm, and we can begin to remove the Hitachi from the equation.  

Then she will be a 3-hole-whore in reality.  

She is already experiencing mind blowing sexual ecstasy. Her expanding self-expression as a sexual  creature has given her access to a new level of climactic pleasure.  

And its only the beginning of the journey.  

My point is that we are on an inquiry of exploring how far we can take our sexuality and we have had  the experience of regularly achieving this unexpected outcome that quite honestly approaches nirvana. 

While I cannot claim that we have indeed achieve Peak Sexuality, we are very happily well along the path.  

References:  

https://aeon.co/essays/tantric-sex-promises-healthy-bliss-what-does-the-science-say https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/simultaneous-orgasm-survey-results/ 

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