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This week in kink: October 18, 2021

October 13, 2021 By Desdemona 2 Comments

Want to learn more about what it means to bottom?

Then, check out this riveting article from Refinery29!


Learn about the Uk’s oldest Pro Domme, Mistress Sofia from DailyStar!

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AnnaLynne McCord talks about how she uses BDSM to cope with childhood trauma.

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Discovering New Kinks Through Tantric Massage

October 7, 2021 By Rose 2 Comments

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There are many physical and psychological aspects of kinks that many wait years to discover. Exploring your boundaries safely and consensually is of the utmost importance. However, finding someone open and willing to engage in excitingly erotic activities isn’t easy.

This is where tantric massage has much to offer. So what is it, how can it be used to discover new kinks, and should you try it?

What Is Tantric Massage?

The art of Tantra is centuries old. Ancient civilisations have used Tantra as a form of physical and spiritual healing, and it quickly gained a resurgence in popularity throughout the 1960s on the wave of sexual liberation. An indulgent massage makes for excellent foreplay, but tantric massage’s additional yogic and meditative qualities are excellent for exploring the body, mind and soul. So how does this relate to kinks?

Can Tantric Massage Help You Discover New Kinks?

There are numerous ways tantric massage can open you to a world of pleasurable possibilities that are just waiting to be discovered.

Creating a Safe, Consensual Environment

Expertly trained massage therapists who are well-versed in the tantric arts are masters at creating a safe space where you can openly express your sexuality. While you might keep your wildest desires to yourself most of the time, you’ll find incredible liberation in sharing your most adventurous thoughts without judgement. 

Helping You Explore Your Body

Kinks don’t often provide a direct route to sexual gratification, they’re much more nuanced than overt sexual acts. Taking the time to discover erogenous zones of the body can develop your understanding of the body. You’ll learn more about the places you like to be touched, how you like to be touched and the kind of stimulation that different types of touch can provide.

Tapping into Your Deepest Desires

In place of judgement-free enjoyment, new sensations can unlock your deepest desires for gratification. From a BDSM perspective, massage works both ways, either as a form of domination — where the masseuse or masseur is in total control of the activity — or, as submission — where the masseuse or masseur is responsible for pleasuring the dominant party through touch. In any case, you’ll be able to experiment with your partner, engaging in both roles to learn what you like most.

Opening Your Mind to New Forms of Pleasure

Being pampered and pleased is highly erotic and provides a direct route to satisfaction. For many, being tantalised and teased is equally enthralling. As you learn more about what you like, you’ll discover more things you enjoy. 

The Most Common Kinks Associated with Tantric Massage

Tantric massage is great for BDSM beginners or those looking to discover new kinks. A huge number of opportunities for different kinks emerge from engaging in a professional, authentic tantric massage. Some of the most common kinks to emerge are:

  • Orgasm Control — You can discover denying, ruining, extending or postponing orgasms through the variation of touch with an expert tantric masseuse or masseur. It relies on maintaining a high level of sexual arousal before, during or after a climax, sometimes achieved through techniques like edging.
  • Domination/Subordination — Through massage, domination and subordination are a dynamic that can emerge between two people. One person takes on the dominant role as the leader or enforcer of the activity, while the other — the subordinate party — assumes more of a pleaser or servant role.
  • Voyeurism — If you’re part of a couple, you can experience a tantric as a voyeur, watching your partner be massaged, reverse the roles and allow your partner to watch you enjoy the rapturous pleasure provided by the masseuse or masseur.
  • Feet Fetishes — The magic of the tantric touch can inspire all kinds of new, wondrous pleasures. There is an abundance of nerve endings in the feet, which makes a foot fetish one to explore through massage.
  • Lingerie — When adorned by your partner or a masseuse, the lacy fabric of lingerie can get your heart racing. It can start a new kink for you as it indicates powerful erotic intent.
  • Role Play — This can be linked to dom/sub relationships, but it can also be unrelated. You can enjoy enacting a fictitious scene with your partner, masseuse or masseur. 

Whatever your reasons for trying tantric massage, you should approach the activity with an open mind. You’re bound to discover something you enjoy!

Should You Try a Tantric Massage?

Whether you’re at the beginning of your sexual exploration journey or looking for something that will add a new, highly erotic dimension to your sexual escapades, trying a tantric massage with a professional is highly recommended. This way, you’ll learn more about the practice’s physical, mental and spiritual aspects enabling you to find more exciting and daring delights to try in the future.


Rose Colette Aston is a highly experienced tantric practitioner and holistic massage therapist. Drawing on her years of experience and training, she writes informative articles on a wide range of topics related to Tantra, massage, and other holistic well-being practices.

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This week in kink: October 11, 2021

October 7, 2021 By Desdemona 2 Comments

Don’t miss the finale of “Documentary BDSM Adventure” with Rory Knox!

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Want to learn more about medical fetishism?

Then, check out this awesome article from Paper!

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The Pursuit Of Peak Sexuality

August 19, 2021 By SafferMaster 4 Comments

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A while back while looking for my ideal partner, I wrote a piece called “I did the math”. The writing  examined the notion that just on the basis of numbers, that there were at the time, about 1200 ideal  possible candidates for me just on Fetlife. Out of that writing, I found my perfect partner who was  literally “made for me”, or as she put it, my “…Fairy Godmother did an excellent job”.  

Now that we have been together for 3 years, and now that we are quite literally having mind blowing  sex every day, I thought I would examine a different question. That being related to our pursuit of peak  sexual experiences.  

This is much harder to quantify, in that there is no real data to reference, but by inference, let me try to  determine how many of us are in fact, engaged in regular mind-blowing sex approaching peak sexuality.  

First let’s define what mind-blowing sex is. For us, it is entirely a function of our kink dynamic and that  we are in a 24/7 TPE where, over the past three years, we have distilled our sexual encounters to about  45 minutes to an hour of scintillating hot sex every time. We like to think that we have created pure  hotness that is the distillation of a 3-years inquiry into what gets us off. Now we are a Sensual Sadist  and a Sensual Masochist living a 24/7 TPE lifestyle. She is my collared 3-hole slut. We have had sex  practically every day that started with and includes an intense spanking that leaves her ass bright red,  with her cane marks from the weekend showing up as highlights. Beyond that there are some other  aspects that make it hot. We are deeply engaged in hypnokink (more later) and she is being trained to  have a “mouthgasm”. In addition to both of us giving the other oral, there is also analingus in both  directions and there is a lot of ass fucking. In fact, when we finally get to climax, we feel as if we are  quite literally one creature. Think about the creatures in the movie “Avatar” that join electrically and  share the same brain. When we climax together, me fucking her ass hard after lighting it up and brining  her to orgasm with my mouth and finger, and after she has brought me close to climax with her tongue  on my ass and her one hand holding my balls tight while she strokes me with her other hand, the  electrical energy is palpable. It is as if we are in the Matrix.  

So that is the sex, but what happens after must be taken into account as well. We are both completely  used up and need a while to recover. We are both in a lingering trance state, her a subby trance and me  a Dommy trance out of that encounter. All we can do is hold hands and smile at each other. No words  are possible or relevant.  

So on to the examination.  

First, I make the assumption that only kinksters can actually have ridiculously hot sex. You might quibble  with this assertion, but for the sake of argument, accept it as what’s so. As a result, we can eliminate  everyone who is not a kinkster. According to a 2005 survey by Durex, 36% of Americans use kinky toys  during sex, vs the 65% of university students that dream about being tied up, that from a 1999 study.  

So, the current US population is around 330 million, which means that about 118.8 million are engaged in kink.  

The second point of elimination is the question of simultaneous orgasms. I am using this as a criterion  because for us, that single moment is the essence of pure hotness. According to a survey conducted by “Uncovering Intimacy”, they determined that only 4% of couples experience simultaneous orgasms every time.  

So that means that only 4,752,000 kinksters are experiencing multiple orgasms.  

In essence this means that only 1.44% of people in the US are having both kinky hot sex and multiple  orgasms. A rare group.  

With that established, the question as to what is occurring arises. Let’s examine the chemistry. Being  with my partner and seeing her kneel for me ‘…unleashes a flood of neurochemicals including  testosterone, oxytocin, dopamine, and norepinephrine that have the impact of amping up feelings of  tenderness and attraction. Meanwhile, serotonin levels drop, and deep in the reptilian brain, the  caudate nucleus, associated with hunting and prey, lights up. This creates a “Herculean mating urge” as  an impact of being drenched in chemical that bestow focus, stamina and vigor driven by the motivation engine of the brain’ (Fisher).  

We quite clearly devolve into our most base animal natures as we experience screaming simultaneous  orgasms. We are left joined and panting as we come back to earth.  

This is all very well, but how does it translate into reproducible practice for the average person? This is a  much harder question to answer because there are just so many variables to consider.  

First of all, I did a bunch of work for like 4 years really examining what it was I was seeking. At the same  time, I explored all aspects of my kink as a sadist. I was lucky enough to have an array of partners,  submissive women, who challenged me to explore myself fully. Then, when I was clear about what I  wanted, I began to search for whom I wanted to explore my sexuality with. When I found Lady Petra,  she was in her own inquiry, and she did a lot of personal searching and self-examination as she asessed  her own motivations for well over a year. At some point during that year, we implemented a daily  maintenance spanking routine, which had the impact of accelerating our inquiry, and creating a very hot  sexual scene that occurred daily out of that spanking. This was at the same time massively enjoyable on  one hand and on the other, Lady Petra was able to explore herself as a masochist. She did this by  examining her response to different implements and intensities. That inquiry revealed that with the  correct implement, the heavy flogger, and the correct delivery, hard rhythmic strokes for an extended  period of time, she began to experience intense arousal and even orgasm. On a daily basis we played  hard. I like to say that we have over 1,000 iterations of our inquiry so far.  

What was revealed to us in our inquiry was the key to our search for real intimacy. And it was not until  we were both willing to truly be vulnerable that we were ablet to experience that “Kundalini  Awakening”, and it was only after that, fully two years into our dynamic that this experience started to  occur in a very predictable way. Prior to that, the experience would occasionally occur, but in a more  random fashion even though we were having hot kinky sex every day.  

In part, our recent new sexual freedom is a function of our Anal April experience where Lady Petra was  in virtual chastity for a month, during which time we only had anal sex every day, for the month. That  experience opened up her relatedness to has ass as a sex organ.  

Add to that the Hypnokink we are employing as a way to begin our scenes, and you have the formula for  reachable nirvana level peak sexuality. 

For us it has been a multiyear pursuit and now, with experience, skills, honed kinks and complete trust  between us, the access we have to peak sexuality is very real. Our experience has been described by  practitioners of Tantra as quite remarkable and approaching a state of cosmic energy, here is what one  such educator, Mystic Chick, had to say:  

”When you get into the space you [are] in with Lady Petra during that passage, it became an  intertwining of energies. But then it evolved into it’s own living, energetic being. When you  come together in that way, you are creating a special type of magic. It feeds and inspires  others by contributing to the Collective Unconscious. This impacts other’s encounters on a  very subliminal level. This type of energetic play can be healing for yourselves and others  This is because when you two are sexually engaged in this manner, the chakras are open  and Shakti (kundalini) is flowing freely. Shakti is the creative force that puts you in touch  with cosmic energy (which may be why you described your encounter with LP as “alien”)…” 

To create this experience in an even more predictable manner, we recently began to practice Hypnokink as I mentioned.  

ECSTASY – noun  

– an overwhelming feeling of great happiness of joyful excitement “there was a look of ecstasy on  her face”  

– an emotional or religious frenzy or trance-like state, originally one involving an experience of  mystic self-transcendence  

– an overpowering emotion or exaltation: a state of sudden, intense feeling  

Origin:  

– First recorded in 1350–1400; Middle English extasie, from Middle French, from Medieval Latin  extasis, from Greek ékstasis “displacement, trance,” equivalent to ek- ec- + stásis stasis  

Synonym Study for Ecstasy  

– Ecstasy, rapture, transport, exaltation share a sense of being taken or moved out of one’s “self”  or one’s normal state and entering a state of intensified or heightened feeling. Ecstasy suggests  an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike dissociation from all but the  single overpowering feeling: an ecstasy of rage, grief, love. Rapture shares the power of ecstasy  but most often refers to an elevated sensation of bliss or delight, either carnal or spiritual: the  rapture of first love. Transport, somewhat less extreme than either ecstasy or rapture, implies a  strength of feeling that results in expression of some kind: They jumped up and down in a  transport of delight. Exaltation refers to a heady sense of personal well-being so powerful that  one is lifted above normal emotional levels and above normal people: wild exaltation at having  finally broken the record.  

This particular definition is the most accurate in describing our experience: 

– “Ecstasy suggests an intensification of emotion so powerful as to produce a trancelike  dissociation from all but the single overpowering feeling”  

As I noted earlier, we find exploring our kink akin to being in a hypnotic trance state. It’s true, there is  ritual and structure to our sceneing that creates a hypnotic context that we sink into and enjoy as if we  are in a trance state. We describe the experience of our scenes as if we have unlocked the Master Level  of the “game”. The sex is amazing, and quite far beyond what either of us thought sex was for all those years.  

Inside of the hypnosis context, we created the notion of a “mouthgasm”, which we defined as an orgasm  that occurs when we engage in deep throat oral sex. Now there is some uncertainty about if she would  have an orgasm in her mind caused by being throat fucked, or if she would have an orgasm in her pussy  as stimulated by being deeply throat fucked. School is not out on that one yet. The very idea itself was  designed to make her into a real 3-hole whore.  

To set up the scene, she began mouthgasm training by using an Hitachi Wand to bring herself to the  very edge of orgasm before I plunge my cock down her throat and only when my cock is all the way  down her throat does she allow herself to cum. That is by using the Hitachi through the orgasm.  

The intention is to gradually stop using the Hitachi as my cock entered her mouth to see if she will  orgasm with the stimulus of being deep throat fucked. At this stage of her training, she still needs the  stimulus of the Hitachi to achieve orgasm.  

Now we are onto Phase two. We are being guided in our exploration of kink hypnosis with the help of a friend who practices the art.  

The first step is to put her into an hypnotic trance and see where that goes.  

This means that I am getting used to hypnotizing her. And she is getting used to being hypnotized. The  skill I am developing at induction is gradually making it easier to hypnotize her. At the moment she is  being hypnotized to experience any touch by me to be Hitachi-like in the way she experiences it. We  started by coaching her to feel my fingertips “vibrating with the power of the Hitachi” as I stroke her neck, arms, back and breasts.  

Next, she is being coached to feel that same sense of vibration from my cock as it enters her throat and  finally she is being trained to cum with the trigger of deep throat penetration by my vibrating cock along  with a simultaneous verbal prompt.  

Over time she will come to accept that deep throat penetration as a trigger for orgasm, and we can begin to remove the Hitachi from the equation.  

Then she will be a 3-hole-whore in reality.  

She is already experiencing mind blowing sexual ecstasy. Her expanding self-expression as a sexual  creature has given her access to a new level of climactic pleasure.  

And its only the beginning of the journey.  

My point is that we are on an inquiry of exploring how far we can take our sexuality and we have had  the experience of regularly achieving this unexpected outcome that quite honestly approaches nirvana. 

While I cannot claim that we have indeed achieve Peak Sexuality, we are very happily well along the path.  


References:  

https://aeon.co/essays/tantric-sex-promises-healthy-bliss-what-does-the-science-say https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/simultaneous-orgasm-survey-results/ 

You can access the coaching services offered by Lady Petra Playground by reaching out for an initial  conversation- LadyPetraPlaground@gmail.com  

SafferMaster and Lady Petra offer Kink Relationship Coaching with online, group, and personal coaching options.  

Lady Petra and SafferMaster also produce the Kinky cocktail Hour podcast available on all podcast  platforms and here: https://kinkycocktailhour.buzzsprout.com/  

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7 Reasons Audio Porn Is The Best Type Of Foreplay

August 12, 2021 By April Sutphen 3 Comments

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Audio porn is quickly becoming one of the leading sources of erotica pleasure. Beautifully crafted stories, compelling characters, and your naughty imagination all come together to create a unique and arousing experience.

Are you already hooked on audio porn? Or maybe this is your first time hearing about it? (Pun intended).

Exactly how it sounds, audio porn is sexy and seductive stories read aloud for your listening pleasure. Think of it like a naughty book on tape! 

Not convinced that audio porn can hold a candle to your favorite porn website or magazine? 

Keep reading to discover 7 reasons audio porn is the best type of foreplay and why you need to experience it — now! 

1. A Treat for All Your Senses 

Pornographic videos and photos offer visual stimulation. These are most popular among men who need little more than a racy photograph to get their motors running. Women, on the other hand, respond best to erotic stimulation in the form of a story (or at least a movie or video with a decent storyline). 

It’s no surprise that women often require an emotional connection for arousal whereas a man’s response is purely physical. Audio porn offers a unique way to stimulate several of your senses at once. 

Listening to the character’s seductive voices as they tell the story will overpower your auditory senses. It’s not just the voices that grab you but the way they describe every feeling and sensation — the moans, the gasps, the heavy breathing. Erotic audio sex stories are like a warm, sexy secret being whispered in your ear.

Even though there are no pictures or videos to accompany the stories, your visual imagination will run wild (more on this in a minute), as you imagine the characters. You can also read along with the story as you listen, creating a multi-layered approach to sexual arousal and satisfaction. 

2. Let’s You Use Your Naughty Imagination

Watching porn doesn’t take too much imagination. After all, the images are front and center. Every curve, detail, position, and scenario is played out before you. While there’s certainly something to be said about this no-fuss, no-muss approach to pleasure, it doesn’t allow for your own creative freedom.

When listening to audio porn, it’s up to you to envision exactly what each character looks like. You can close your eyes and let their voices wash over you. Picture the lines of their face and the curves of their body. How do they feel, smell, and move? 

Because your visual senses are limited, audio porn heightens your other awesome senses including sound and your naughty imagination.

3. Gives You a Different Perspective

Have you ever dreamed about getting inside the mind and body of your partner? Do you wonder what the actors in your favorite porn videos are thinking and feeling?

These unique and steamy erotic audio sex stories actually let you listen from the perspective of both characters. As a woman, you can listen and feel the animalistic intensity of the male characters while men get a unique peek inside the mind and body of a woman. 

Gain a better perspective on what makes the other sex tick by listening to a variety of audio porn that describes various scenarios including threesomes, BDSM, cuckold, and more. 

4. Audio Porn is Quick and Easy to Use

The average erotica audio story is between 3 and 5 minutes long, with some extending to 10 minutes. Whether you’re driving to work, listening in the shower, or indulging in some voyeurism on the subway, audio porn is a quick and easy way to enjoy some sexual arousal anywhere at any time.

Viewing porn on your phone or computer is risky — especially if you’re in the office, working from home, or surrounded by people. Audio porn can be your own dirty little secret. Just slip in your earbuds and immerse yourself in a seductive story. The excitement and arousal will last long after the story ends, making audio porn a great form of foreplay. 

5. Helps You Unwind Before Bed

Studies show that using a digital device like your smartphone, tablet, or TV before bed can make it more difficult to fall asleep. The blue light emitted from these devices prevents your brain from releasing much-needed melatonin for sleep.

But what if you enjoy a little sexual release before drifting off to sleep that involves viewing porn? Never fear — audio porn is here!

Now, you can slide between the sheets with your favorite erotic audio sex stories and close your eyes. As your body and mind relax in the darkness, the animal inside you will come alive! Either take hold and release some sexual tension or simply let the voices relax you as you fall asleep to the sound of a sexy story. 

The choice is yours.

6. Allows for Hands-Free Fun 

All the erotic story lovers out there, raise your hand! Oh, wait, you can’t, because your hands are struggling to hold a book and touch yourself at the same time. 

Not anymore!

Audio porn lets you experience your favorite erotic stories without tying up your hands. You can let the stories play on your favorite device or get up close and personal using headphones or earbuds. As the seductive voices whisper into your ear, your hands are now free to explore and stimulate your body — or your partners’! 

7. Share Erotic Audio Sex Stories with Your Partner

Speaking of partners, foreplay is all about the build-up. Naughty text messages, sexy pictures, and sexual innuendos shared throughout the day make for a hot and steamy night. Audio porn is one more tool in your sexual wheelhouse to help increase intimacy and pleasure between you and your partner.

Share an audio sex story that details exactly what you want to do with them or perfectly describes your favorite fantasy. You can also use audio porn to let your partner know you want to try something new. Subtly suggest roleplaying, a threesome, or even being gagged and blindfolded by sharing an erotic sex story about it and seeing how they react. 

7. Audio Porn is Arousing in a More Subtle Way

Although 40 million people admit to regularly visiting porn sites, the truth is, there are millions more out there that either don’t admit to it, want to watch porn but are too embarrassed, or engage in other arousing activities like reading erotica.

If you fall into any of these categories and want a more subtle way to get your juices flowing (literally), audio porn is the answer. Not only is it a discreet way to experience some of the hottest and most taboo sex stories available, but it falls under more of the “soft porn” category. 

Not everyone is comfortable watching graphic videos that depict two (or more) people having aggressive sex. Even romantic porn videos are more than some people can handle. Erotic audio sex stories are a beautiful, subtle, and equally sexy way to engage in foreplay and self-pleasure. 

Explore the World of Audio Porn Today

The porn industry has evolved exponentially over the last several decades. As with any industry, some changes have been good while others have been questionable.

If you want a safe, sexy, easy way to tap into your seductive side, erotic audio sex stories are the way to go. This new form of erotica takes your favorite stories and brings them to life with compelling descriptions and intoxicating audio. Audio porn combines passionate stories, vivid descriptions, and your wildest fantasies to deliver a truly unique experience for all of your senses.


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This week in kink news: August 16, 2021

August 12, 2021 By Desdemona 3 Comments

Kink editors Kwan and Greenwell share their collection of kink stories.

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Don’t miss how a Mom of two with epilepsy makes money as a part time Pro Domme.

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What’s The Difference Between An Orgy and A Gang Bang?

July 8, 2021 By Dame TylerRose. 2 Comments

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Gang Bang – one person is the central focus with several others fucking that person.Most people think of one room, one chick (guest of honor), and a buncha dudes. But there are gangbang nights at venues, with numerous women in attendance. They hit one of the beds at varying times through the evening. Some of the men will participate in more than one group.Most people also think the center person must be surrounded by partners with all the hands and mouths working. Personally, I prefer the “train” method. One after the other, take a number and form a line.The woman picks her crew, hits a bed, has her fun, and they all leave the bed when they’re done. The sheet is changed and ready for another group. The same woman may pick another crew and go at it again, two or three times, or more.While the party may last four or five hours, I’ve not personally seen any group encounter last much more than twenty minutes, for some reason. 

Orgy — “Do people walk into an orgy expecting anyone can do anything to them or that they can do anything to anyone?”
I’ve never seen an orgy at which anyone could do anything they wanted to anyone else. Consent still matters and, as I said, the events I’ve been to have been mostly heterosexual affairs. Bisexual men and women may be in attendance, but I’ve not personally seen man on man, woman on woman action. Or a woman pegging a man.

Sidebar: I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. Just that I’ve not seen it at the parties I’ve attended. (I’ve been to three venues and countless individual parties in the last four out of five years. The scene was put on hold for the plague.) Some venues have multiple rooms. I can’t be everywhere at once.I don’t attend bisexual or lesbian events, and heterosexual men aren’t interested in seeing man on man action. If there’s bi-action to be had, the het-men want to see two women together. Single het-men are the largest demographic at the parties I’ve attended. Since they pay the most to get in, they are the ones funding the party and making the promoter rich. Women are usually free to get in. If women were charged to get in, few would attend. (It’s called Gender Pricing.)If women don’t attend, there’s no party. 

Consent & Rules — Just because you’re in the big bed with 10 people doesn’t mean everyone can touch, fuck, suck, and lick every body part that comes within reach. Check the rules of the party before you attend. If you still aren’t sure, contact the organizer. Everyone has to mind your manners and ASK if they can touch. If they can suck. If they can fuck. If they can lick. If a couple is already going at it, you have to ask if you can join in. Some parties have a rule not to approach if people are already engaged, to wait until they are done and have left the bed to ask the woman if she would like to play with you. If you ask and the answer is no, then you don’t do that thing. Nor do you ask again. The answer was no. There’s no badgering allowed. There may be two or three beds pushed together to make a large surface, but there are also usually beds off to the side for those who don’t want to be on the big bed. A couple might have their play apart from the group. There’s no rule that everyone at an orgy has to be playing on the same bed or together. An orgy could also be a bunch of couples playing on separate beds. The definitions say: “wild or drunken festivity or revelry, especially involving sex with multiple participants” or “indiscriminate sex”. If we are to strictly follow the definitions, none of the “orgies” I’ve been to have been orgies. Because not everyone is drunk, and it’s not really that wild. It’s all rather orderly and not all that indiscriminate. They’re remarkably vanilla, straightforward sex with very little or no kink or SM activity, even when the venue itself is SM positive.
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This week in kink news: July 12, 2021

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Video: The Five Types Of Attraction

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Curious to learn more about human sexuality?

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