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Five Reasons to Support Your Local BDSM Community

July 3, 2017 By Jenn Masri Leave a Comment

Here are 5 reasons to support your local BDSM Community:

1) If you are new I highly suggest you get out and start by attending classes and munches. Even if a class topic doesn’t particularly interest you I still suggest going if you can. No matter what, you will learn new things, meet new people, or perhaps run into people you’ve met at previous classes and/or munches, etc. Take some time to simply absorb and observe. If you go to play parties there is nothing wrong with (respectfully) watching people play. You can learn so much by doing this!

2) If you aren’t so new to the scene I always suggest still going to events and classes. My philosophy is that you can stop learning when you die. There will always be new perspectives and techniques that you haven’t been exposed to. Or perhaps another generation of kinksters begins writing their own rules. May as well be aware of the changes, right? Classes also serve as reminders of things we may forget or not really think about anymore. Another great thing about getting out to any event – classes, munches, parties – is that it creates an opportunity for you, the seasoned player, to offer your knowledge and/or experiences to newer folks. Whether that’s through talking to them or being one of the scenes they happen to observe that night.

3) Keep events up and running. Any event is in danger of no longer continuing if people don’t go. Feed the educational cycle – help parties and munches last. This is especially true in smaller cities or towns. Even in Los Angeles I have seen munches and parties end due to lack of interest or attendance. Then people complain that they don’t happen anymore. You gotta show up!

4) Support local vendors. This is the idea of buying local as opposed to big companies. Vendors that you see sitting behind booths at events put hours of work into their craft. Each piece typically made by hand. Consider purchasing from them instead of big on-line companies. The more they sell, the more they can put back into their business and create more fabulous items!

5) If you see a void that needs to be filled – stop complaining and make it happen! This was my philosophy when I started my BDSM 101 class series as well as the parties I host. I wanted to create things that I wished I’d had when I was new. If you really wish there was a party with a specific theme or that caters to a specific crowd – talk to venue owners and see if you can give it a go! If you feel like the community needs a certain class taught – try to put it together. Whether it means you are qualified to teach it or if you need to find someone else to teach it – chances are if you want to see that topic taught, others do too. If you feel like your city could use a munch in your area, host one! If it starts out a little slow I suggest you stick with it for a few months at least. Sometimes new events can take a bit to catch on.

Bottom line is that we get what we give. Enjoy the things (parties, classes, locally made implements/goods, etc.) that are available to you so they can continue and if you see a void, do what you can to fill it. This community is its own giant energy exchange! ☺

Jennifer Masri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in Alternative Lifestyles for individual and relationship issues. She also teaches the BDSM 101 class series at Sanctuary LAX in Los Angeles every Monday evening. Read more about Jennifer on her blog, A Kink Shrink.

Tagged With: Classes, community, events, vendors

Burning Man with a Splash of BDSM

October 3, 2016 By anniebear 2 Comments

It’s been three weeks since Dexx and myself returned from the Burning Man festival in the Black Rock Desert. If you’ve never heard of it (you’d be surprised exactly how many people have no idea what it is) it’s a large gathering of people in the desert in Nevada. The event centers around art, community, self-reliance, and leaving no trace. Basically, you bring everything you need to survive and pack it all out at the end whilst having an amazing time meeting people, experiencing spontaneous events, and surviving.

Veterans of the festival say it can take a while to decompress from the week spent in the desert and I believe that to be true. I wanted to share some of our findings and highlights from the festival, despite immense preparation and hours of study on what to expect, I was extremely surprised by my week at Burning Man.

Dexx and I arrived in our RV on a Tuesday, two days after the official start of Burning Man. We also happened to be driving right into our very first dust storm. Nothing could have prepared us for exactly what a dust storm is like. If you’ve never experienced it, imagine the density of fog that is actually a heavy misting of fine dust and the resulting respiratory discomfort it can cause. It covers everything and requires you to wear a face mask and goggles. But just as quickly as a dust storm can blow in, it dissipates. The entire week, the longest dust storm lasted around 10-15 minutes but they can also come and go back to back making it extremely taxing to set up camp for example. We found our camping spot and spent the next few hours getting everything in order and battening down the hatches! Below is a photo Dexx took of our humble little camp amidst the storm.

Our little RV
Our little RV

I expected to feel filthy and dirty the whole time, with water being in short supply showers were non-existent, but the dust is so fine and the air so dry you’re never drenched in sweat. The dust helps to block the sun from burning your skin (along with a combo of a hefty douse in sunscreen). The only mess was my hair, which I had temporarily dyed purple and promptly put in a braid and did not touch the whole week.

Once we had our camp set, it was time to take an exploratory bike ride. Everyone brings bikes as a means to travel. The entire Burning Man camp referred to as Black Rock City is approximately seven miles wide so you can imagine how much time it would take to walk everywhere. My booty was aching by the third day and I was having to center myself from what I referred to as my “torture rides” on the bike. Not the type of pain I’m into! We passed sites such as the Orgy Dome, a ski jump, giant towers to be climbed and massive art cars; buses and more that have been converted into rolling pieces of art. After the first day, I opted to not wear pants for the remainder of the event as evidenced by the photos within this article.

One of the art installations on the playa. There were hundreds!
One of the art installations on the playa. There were hundreds!

There is plenty of BDSM and kink to be had on the playa (another name for the Burning Man location). There are several fully equipped BDSM dungeon camps to explore. We do not have any photos of them due to the allowances of photography at these locations. We were extremely impressed with the level of equipment to be found. Imagine picking up an entire dungeon, packing it in a truck, then having to drive it miles and miles into the desert and unloading it all!

There were also traveling kinksters. We saw some human pony and carriage play, men and women on leashes, and I also got some hefty swats from a naked dominatrix. She was carrying a cock shaped crop (the bird not the anatomy) and I ended up with the crop shape on my backside for several days. It was hysterical!

We went to visit an actual 747 airplane that had been transported all the way out to the desert. It was an incredible site to behold, the shell of this massive plane sitting on the playa.

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Before gaining entrance, people were required to go through a “TSA checkpoint” consisting of sexy ladies frisking everyone. I got a swift smack on my butt and a boob grab but I was happy to oblige.

A swat from airport security
A swat from airport security

There was also a sign that clearly laid out exactly what would be prohibited on the “flight.” The inside is converted into a lounge and dance space. You could also fill out your baggage tag with your actual emotional baggage and leave it on the wall of the plane. We thought that was a nice touch.

Prohibited items on the 747
Prohibited items on the 747

At night the playa is lit up by all manner of art cars, camps, art installations, and bikes! It was incredible to see the rainbow of color and creativity behind all of it. The human race is an amazing thing.

A little taste of Burning Man at night.
A little taste of Burning Man at night.

I took a chance and spontaneously decided to participate in the beer mile on Thursday morning. The race required each person to chug a beer every 400 meters. Sound easy? It’s totally not! They required each person to carry a vomit bag with them just in case. No, I did not end up having to use mine and yes I did complete the race with a respectable time of 19:45. I didn’t even come in last place! The unfortunate side effect of chugging four beers in 20 minutes is that you are in fact wasted afterward. I ended up having to walk my bike and myself back to camp to sober up. It was pretty comical.

anniebear pre-Beer Mile
anniebear pre-Beer Mile

All in all, we had a wonderful time. It was dusty, difficult, surprising and most of all wonderful to see all of these people existing together in this space with an open mind and no judgment! It was kind of like being in a more vanilla version of a dungeon, a safe space where everyone could just be themselves.

A beautiful sunset on our last day of Burning Man
A beautiful sunset on our last day of Burning Man

Tagged With: bdsm, Burning Man, burning man BDSM, events, kink

DomCon LA: Everything BDSM!

May 9, 2016 By Baadmaster 1 Comment

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Now in its tenth year, Mistress Cyan’s DomCon Los Angeles has grown from a small three day exhibition (at the Beverly Garland Motel in the San Fernando Valley – I was there!) to this lavish five day spectacle, truly “The World’s Premiere Professional & Lifestyle Domination Convention.” Now ensconced at the Los Angeles Hilton Hotel LAX, DomCon runs from May 18th to May 22nd.

Many people have asked me, both in person and in print, “Where do I begin?” With the “Bureau of Misinformation” that is the Internet, “Fifty Shades…” fantasies and the mainstreamization of BDSM, finding out where to start can be a daunting task.

Here at Kink Weekly we have tried to unconfuse you; articles such as “Where Do I Begin?” aims to help newbies get started on the right track. But words have limitations. And DomCon LA is a real life, real time event that is the perfect place to begin your BDSM journey. (Or expand on the journey you are already on.) And though the event remains true to Mistress Cyan’s original vision as a Professional Domination-oriented event, it’s “not only about Dommes anymore!” It is now a truly “one-stop shop” for all things BDSM.

Vendors

Need a new flogger? DomCon is almost literally a “Floggers ‘R Us” store. Almost any toy and invention you have seen or even thought about can be purchased here. Need a throne for humiliation play? You might be stressed to go into Target and ask if they sell one. But here, not a problem. Glass dildos, check! Clamps, canes and cuffs, check! Electrical toys, check. And if it is fashion that floats your boat, how about a custom corset? Or some bondage jewelry? Or leather? Or latex? It’s all here. Getting the right fashion and fetish gear is a lot easier in person than via the Internet.

By now you get the idea. All BDSM, fetish and alternative lifestyle items under one roof. Too bad it isn’t open year round!

Demos

Want to know how it is done? Or, if you are experienced, want to see how other lifestylers scene? At DomCon, there is no shortage of BDSM demonstrations. Continuous live stage performances of all orientations are featured on Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

And, of course, the vendors are only too happy to explain – and demo – their wares.

Workshop and Seminars

There are workshops and seminars of every description – from beginner to advanced and every orientation — throughout the Convention’s run. (This is a much better Convention that the political ones. Who knows, you might find Donald Trump here in disguise!) Just a few of classes that are scheduled: Basic Flogging, Foot Fetish, Should I Go Pro?, Medical Play, Single Tails, Pony Play, Aftercare, Blaise Wrap, Chastity Play, The Science of S&M, Collars & Protocols and so much more. A complete schedule is listed at here.

The Socials

Finally, what would a grand party like DomCon LA be without the opportunity to meet potential play partners and make new friends? Of course, many people meet just milling around the hall, talking to the vendors (yes, Kink Weekly will have a booth there – say hi!) and ogling the Dommes in their hot latex! But DomCon is more than that.

There are socials for every orientation — fetishists, pro Dommes, male Doms, among others. Plus a unique variation on speed dating called the DomCon-nection. And both a Fetish Ball and a Grand Play Party to top off the fun!

So, whether you are a newbie who wants to learn about our lifestyle, an experienced lifestyler looking for a new single tail or a voyeur who just wants to watch – it’s all here in the 2016 edition of DomCon LA!

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

Tagged With: bdsm, bdsm convention, Classes, DomConLA, dominatrix, events

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