This week in kink news: October 21, 2019

Check out this informative article about what being a pro submissive is really like https://www.huffpost.com/entry/professional-submissive-bdsm-dungeon_n_5d9213d8e4b0ac3cddac418f Learn why a Dominatrix can be just as healing as a therapist https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/oct/03/therapist-dominatrix-life-coach Don't miss San … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-One Sided Negotiations

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’d like to share a little fun I have on those occasions when I feel like playing with power dynamics in scenes. These … [Read more...]

I Will Make You Safeword!

This one is going to be short, not so sweet, and directly to the point. "I will make you use your safe word.” I saw this said in an erroneous supposition that this is how a top learns a bottom’s signals. If a top said this to me, I would look them in the eye and say "Then you will not ever touch me", and I would walk away. Remember a couple months back when I wrote that … [Read more...]

Keeping Score

I was talking to a friend the other day about relationships (no surprise).  I brought up my feelings about keeping score and my friend wanted me to clarify. My example:  "well you did _______ so I can do _______".  Or "I did _________ and you don't ever do things like that for me." I see that sort of thing a lot.  I don't even think some people realize they do it. My ex … [Read more...]

Paramour

“Only one more room to see,” he told her. “Gee, I wonder which one.” He changed his mind. “It can wait.” In seconds, she was on her back on the square foot stool with him thrust in to the hilt. Only a few moments and he pulled her off to straddle his waist. Feet on the floor, in her heels, hands on his shoulders, she had leverage to ride him well. “Work for me, … [Read more...]