Tantric BDSM

You may be familiar with tantra and/or BDSM. However, as a whole concept, tantric BDSM is gaining more and more popularity.

While it’s easy to assume that tantra and BDSM are world’s apart, you may have practised tantric BDSM without even realising it. So, how do these two entities fuse together as one? In this article, we’re going to delve deeper into this exciting practice and share our ultimate tantric and BDSM tips so you and your partner can get started. 

Polarity and Presence 

While many people associate Tantra with tantric sex, its practice is rooted in spiritual meanings and the connection with the inner self. For those who participate in BDSM, it’s often assumed that pleasure is driven by dominance, submission, bondage and other experiences.

The reality is that many want to take BDSM further by understanding its link to spirituality. As an emerging practice, Tantric BDSM fuses an erotic state of consciousness to work with energy polarity.

Both Tantra and BDSM require you to be in the present moment, whether that’s performed as the giving or receiving of pleasure without focusing on achieving climax, or being fully present as the dominator for the submissive to surrender. Being present in these moments constitutes polarity – this is what creates an erotic experience.

Tips for Tantric BDSM

Want to get started with Tantric BDSM? Here are our top tantric and BDSM tips so you can create your own erotic experience.

Give or receive?

Do you prefer to give or receive? Maybe you love doing both? You don’t necessarily need to be one or the other. You can be submissive and still enjoy giving, and vice versa. Try both roles with your partner to explore what you enjoy. 

Let go of limitations

Forget any limitations regarding your sexuality or gender. These are no rules when it comes to tantric BDSM so relax and enjoy the experience without feeling any shame.

Talk beforehand

Consent plays an important part in both the practice of tantra and BDSM. Before you begin your tantric BDSM session, talk to your partner about each other’s boundaries and what you want to explore. You may also talk about your intentions – what do you want to get out of the session? Maybe you want to find new ways of pleasure or discover new ways to relax. You don’t need to make a step-by-step plan, after all this about bringing excitement into your sex life.

Trust yourself

Some people find the prospect of tantric BDSM daunting. Discomfort with your sexuality often builds up over years and it requires time to change this. Remember to have patience with yourself and to be open to exploration. Why not share your fantasies with your partner and explore them together?

Be present

Focusing on the outside world can prevent you from truly being in the moment. Tantric BDSM requires you to be very much in the present. One of the most effective ways to do this is to focus on your breath. This also helps you to tune into yourself and your partner, providing deeper spiritual healing.

Create a safe space for surrender

While it’s helpful to know your intentions for tantric BDSM, being open to all possibilities enables you to be fully present in the experience. Chasing pleasure can mean we’re not fully immersed in the practice of tantric BDSM – keep your mind open and be fully relaxed knowing you’re in a safe space with your partner.

Create a space free from distractions

A calming space, free from any distractions presents an opportunity to focus on the present. Within tantra, that’s often achieved with dimmed lighting, soft sheets and scented candles. If that helps you to get into the mood, then feel free to re-create a romantic ambience. Remember, BDSM tools are used to keep you in the present moment, as well as being a means of flowing sexual energy. 

Merging the Sexual Spectrum: The Benefits of Tantric BDSM

Tantric BDSM is a wonderful practice for anyone looking to have a little more excitement in their love life. Here are just some of the amazing benefits of a Tantric BDSM experience:

•  Connect with your spiritual side
• Enjoy a relaxing and refreshing experience
• Bring some fun into your sex life
• Form a deeper connection to your partner
• Become more confident in the bedroom
•  Develop more self-confidence
• Help to unblock any sexual frustrations

Consider Using A Tantra Specialist 

Now you know how to get started with Tantric BDSM and are aware of its incredible benefits, why don’t you use a highly trained specialist to assist you in the bedroom. Karma Tantric provides the most experienced practitioners in London to help you get the very best out of your Tantric BDSM experience. Visit us now to find out more about our impeccable services.

Erica Suarez-Hillingdon is a sex therapist and expert on everything related to tantra, tantric sex, and tantric massage. She is the editor at Karma Tantric, London’s premier tantric massage agency and writes about how tantra can help men, women, and couples improve their sex lives.