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Good Ways To Spice Things Up If You’re Struggling In The Bedroom

May 1, 2021 By Grace Murphy 2 Comments

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Most people don’t like to freely admit when they’re having trouble in the bedroom. Such a confession is wrongly seen as a weakness to be ashamed of, so many just stay quiet and hope that things improve on their own. Unfortunately, it’s rare that such problems actually get better without any intervention.

The good news is that there are plenty of ways to improve your performance in the bedroom; you just need to know what they are. This guide lists four of the ways you can improve your skills and spice things up after hours, ensuring that you never have a bad night in bed again.

Improve Your Physical Strength

You don’t need to be a gym buff to win over girls and satisfy them in the bedroom. However, spending more time working on your body could help you perform better when the time comes.

Sometimes, it’s easy to forget that sex can be quite the workout, utilising all sorts of muscles you might forget about. If you find that your intimate encounters aren’t that taxing on your body, that could explain why you’re having trouble in the bedroom. While the experience doesn’t have to be an all-out sweatfest, your arms, legs, abs, and back should all be playing their part.

The reason why exercising more often can help with sex is that it can strengthen these areas so that you’re able to last longer in bed. The last thing you want is to take a break after two minutes because you’re worn out and don’t have the strength to keep going. Admittedly, there’s nothing wrong with letting her take control for a little while so you can recover. However, if she ends up having to do all the work, she probably won’t be impressed.

Get Tips From An Expert

Whether they don’t want to hurt your feelings or they’re not actually sure what the problem is, it can be hard to get answers about why you’re bad from the people you sleep with. That can be an issue because if you don’t know where you’re going wrong, you can’t make any improvements.

That’s why it might be worth spending time with an expert, plenty of which you can find at Adultseek. Not only are many of the women here well versed in sex, but they also understand men reasonably well because of all the dates they’ve been on. They know the faults that can often crop up and how to address them without causing offence. Plus, they’re usually not afraid to be open about all things concerning sex, so you don’t need to feel awkward discussing your problems. If the two of you hit it off, they may even show you how to do things properly.

Just spending a few hours with one of these women may give you the confidence booster you need when it comes to the bedroom. If not, you can keep booking time with them until you get there.

Be Present In The Moment

Sex is supposed to be an intimate act between two people, yet many partners forget to truly share the experience with their other half. Maybe they’re unresponsive while receiving pleasure, or they look away during tender moments. Whatever it is, some people just fail to connect with what’s happening, and that can remove some of the fun from the experience.

If you’ve been guilty of this in the past, it’s worth remembering that you’re not alone in the bedroom. Try to make eye contact more often or be more vocal when a girl is going down on you. Try to pay attention to the stuff she likes, too, and do it more often. Simply by being more attentive to your partner, you should find that your encounters go from dull to exciting in an instant.

Introduce New Forms Of Pleasure

Fun in the bedroom is about more than just you penetrating someone. In plenty of cases, such an activity isn’t even included as part of sex. Some people prefer to focus on the various acts of foreplay, as well as integrating toys and kinks, to get their rocks off.

If you’re worried that your go-to method isn’t working, it’s worth switching things up in the future. Maybe spend more time making your partner feel good with your hands and mouth before you unzip. Alternatively, it’s worth seeing if she has any particular interests that you may be open to trying out. It’s always good to have honest discussions about sex with the people you sleep with, especially those who are more than just a one-time encounter. You never know what pleasures you might discover together, which could change things in the bedroom forever.

Being bad in bed isn’t something that you have to live with. Problems like this are easy to fix with the right motivation, though you may need to give it time before your skills are worth idolising. Practice makes perfect, after all.

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