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Enema Play

August 5, 2021 By Baadmaster 2 Comments

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It’s that time of year again.  No, I don’t mean “soon it will be back to school and summer will be over” time of year.  Luckily, that worry is behind me. What I am referring to is on a more positive tip: It is time for DOMCON L.A. This annual “Convention de Kink” was canceled last year due to covid 19.  But this year, it is back! A multi-day celebration of our lifestyle, it will be held at the LAX Hilton from August 18th to August 23rd,  So why the long,  shameless plug you ask?  Answer: I will be a presenter there — on Saturday August 21st at 12 noon.  It will be a discussion of that which I concentrated on here on kinkweekly.com – how the pandemic affected us, both positively and negatively.  Please join us. Now back to our regularly scheduled program – the Ask BaadMaster feature!  

I had always wanted to spotlight more adventurous forms of play; surely enema play qualifies as such.  And luckily I had a question just waiting to be answered.  So, without delay, here is the query:

Reader: I am really interested in enemas. So far, I’ve been making do with a homemade one. I really want to create that gushing effect, but air keeps getting into the pipes. What should I do?

I liken enemas to buying a computer.  Macs have the coolest of designs.  But one must know how to use a computer before considering how neat looking it is.  As a beginner, you must first learn how to give an enema.  (Any article that links computers and enemas is worth reading! And unlike Apple,enema technology has not advanced much for quite awhile. 

Obviously, to get that “gushing effect,” you will have to use a good amount of water.  But what is a “good amount?”  If I tried to give you an exact amount in ounces, it might not be the correct amount for your submissive.  Intake capacity varies greatly between people.  Use too much fluid and it can cause excruciating pain.  Theoretically, too much fluid can actually explode the large intestine. Here is my system for determining the amount of liquid that is best for your submissive.  

Buy a bunch of the handy-dandy pre-packaged enemas.  These are small plastic squeeze bottles with the liquid already in it — the “ready to use” kind.  They cost a couple of bucks each, tops.  Usually they have a lubricated tip, which makes insertion easier.  Look for those with a one-way valve — this will help you eliminate pumping in air — which you already said you want to avoid.

The liquids that are included vary.  They can be phosphates — which are used for the relief of constipation.  I would avoid these; use the ones with saline.  Of course, you can replace the included liquid.  A quick list of popular enema fluids includes: milk, mild soap solution, warm distilled water, saline and even urine!  And never use water that is hotter than 105 degrees as you can scald the rectum.  You will find different effects with different liquids – and the “gushing” effect will vary with each.  Experimentation is the word here.

Make a note of the amount of liquid that the squeeze bottle contains.  Typically, they hold about four and a half ounces.  Now, for your first session, use only two bottles – about eight to nine ounces.  Practice doing it in such a way so as to avoid pumping air into the rectum.  This skill will serve you well in creating the gushing (love that word!) effect that you so desire.

At the next session, increase the amount – use up to four bottles.  If you are able to instill about a half a quart of fluid without any air getting in, you will more than likely begin to get the effect you are looking for.

If a half-quart is fine, go with it.  If not, you can still increase the amount of liquid. If there is any pain, stop!  By the time you get to eight bottles (about a quart) without any air, you will no doubt have reached your goal.  If you have achieved it with less, note that amount – this is the correct amount for your gushing effect.  Until you become skilled in the art – which includes knowledge of different fluids – don’t exceed two quarts of liquid.

If you still cannot give an enema without pumping air in, you can always massage the air out.  Have the sub sit on the floor, rolling slowly onto his/her side; then massage in such a way as to push the gas out.  This is a tricky maneuver; it is far easier just to learn to give an enema sans air. 

Once you finally master the art of giving a good enema (an EneMaster?) — you can look into the more exotic enema equipment.   And as these “enema bags” are never pre-measured affairs, you will need all your knowledge to use these devices properly. 


After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

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The Joy Of Anal

May 20, 2021 By SafferMaster 5 Comments

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We just completed a month of kinky fun. “Anal April” was our challenge to only have anal sex for a  month. In truth, it was a bit more than that. My slut was actually in “pussy chastity”. Not an actual  chastity device mind you, but an imposed mental chastity. As my obedient slut, she would adhere to “no  touching except to clean yourself” for the month of April. At first, we agreed on the idea as a dare. I  dared her and she said, “bring it on”. Now, to give you context, you must understand that as kinksters,  we have a sex forward and kink forward dynamic and we have kinky sexual scenes just about every day.  So, my slut has the experience of being my daily and well-used “3-hole whore”. She is accustomed to  being used hard every day where she experiences multiple vaginal and anal orgasms.  

When I first met my now collared slut, she told me that she was not fond of anal sex. She had good  reason. She shared that during her marriage, her ex-husband has abused her ass. He had done things  like forcefully using oversized dildos on her without lube – a real no-no – resulting in dangerous anal  tearing that left her in pain and legitimately weary of repeating the error. She was left feeling that in the  world of anal sex, it was “better to give than receive”.  

Before she put herself forward to be claimed by me, I had made it clear to her that intention was for her  to be my personal “3-hole slut”, and I also shared that because “I don’t break my toys”, I would take my  time to train her to be used as an ass-whore so that she would want me to fuck her ass (I wrote about  training here once before.) Knowing this, with eyes wide open, she made the choice to submit and to  kneel for me with a view to living in a 24/7 dynamic in a Total Power Exchange (TPE) as my 3-hole slut.  

After she was claimed, her anal training began in earnest. Training her to be a daily use ass whore  required that she be fully enrolled. To help achieve this, I shared with her that what I was committed to  was that in the end, she would authentically love anal sex and enjoy it as a normal part of our sexual  dynamic. She is an amazing and committed slut and she understood that in our 24/7 TPE, her  responsibility was to serve, so with those thoughts in mind, she registered into be trained as my ass  whore. Remember kinksters, in kink, consent is everything. She was being trained to have her ass lit up  with a flogger and fucked to completion.  

She first learned to prepare herself for anal by defecating before sex and using an enema to clean  herself further. Because I desire my slut to be my ass-to-mouth whore, she needed to be sure she was  thoroughly cleaned. She would complete the pre-anal sex prep by squirting a dollop of lube into her ass  so she could confidently approach anal sex knowing that she was clean and lubed and that there would  be no “visitors”. A note here that “dirty” anal sex is potentially dangerous as well as messy, and since  neither she nor I are into scat, we prefer not to engage in “dirty anal”. Also, I like to eat her ass, so I  want her clean too. So, with that in mind, thorough preparation before play is a must.  

Second, there is the issue of lubrication. It is important to remember that the anus makes no lube at all.  None. So, you must use lube in order to have safe and fun anal sex. Rectal tissue tearing is dangerous  and painful and gets in the way of regular anal sex. For this reason, there are three key words associated with anal sex that every kinkster must know. LUBE, LUBE, & LUBE! Both during training and since, I use  lot of lube every time we have anal sex, and I still make sure to never force my way into her ass. This is  the third principle of training her. I first surf her ass with my hard cock, then I put the head of my  swollen thick cock against her anus and allow her to take me in at her pace and with the force that she  generates. This allows her to control and manage the process of relaxing and getting used to my size (I  have a very thick cock, so this is necessary, and it is a good method to use no matter your girth).  Whenever we have anal sex, I use lots of lube, even more lube than one might think necessary. In anal,  there can never be too much lube. Let me say that again. Use as much lube as you can to make sure that  you are both having fun. There is nothing quite like fun anal sex. Its really, really hot!  

The 4th principle I applied while training her is that I require her to wear a butt plug every day, all day,  whenever she is out of the house. It is a way for her to keep me “close to her”, and it has the dual  benefit of training her ass to be accustomed to penetration. She is also required to send me a picture of  her plugged and marked ass every morning, which helps to codify our dynamic. As time passed, we  gradually increased the size of the butt plug to make sure that she was getting used to accepting bigger items in her ass.  

I also made it a habit to use her ass with every scene so that she was rewarded for preparing her ass for  me to use. On a gradient she began to experience anal pleasure and then anal orgasms when I fucked  her ass. It seems that the combination of my size along with the angles that we explore while engaging  in anal sex during our play causes me to hit her G-spot when I am fucking her ass, which results in anal  sex making her dripping wet and she even has squirting orgasms with ass sex.  

Eating her ass is the way she finally got related to her ass as a sexual organ. Keep in mind that the  thousands of nerve endings around the ass are related to the Pudendal Nerve, which is the same nerve  that innervates the clitoris and the penis. Interestingly and somewhat remarkably, she now actually  climaxes when I eat her ass. It’s a very different climax to a clitoral climax to be sure, but she definitely  climaxes with earth shattering orgasms with anilingus. Plus, it’s a scene that is hot as hell! I am on my  knees stroking my throbbing cock while she is cumming as I eat her red-hot ass. HOT!  

For going on 3 years now, she has had almost daily use as a 3-hole-whore. She is my ass-to-mouth slut  and she regularly gets her ass eaten, flogged and fucked. Its perfection and its hot as hell.  

Imagine the scene where she has had her pussy fucked and eaten to multiple orgasms, where she has  had repeated uses of her mouth and ass, where I have eaten her ass which has been flogged bright red  and where the scene ultimately ends in a primal screaming simultaneous orgasm as I pump my seed into  her ass. Its that really hot, and its our scene every single day.  

Anal sex is a big part of our sexual self-expression. It is naughty and dirty and sexy and erotic and it is as  exotic as hell. We love it. 

Our scenes definitely take us to a place where we are deeply in our primal state. Limbic system  creatures. Having ass play create that experience for us has been a most unexpected outcome.  

To be fair, she does not have the only butthole in the room when we fuck. I have enjoyed her exploring  my ass as part of our play too. This occurs in two ways for us. The first is that I love when she eats my  ass. So, for her to be safe from acquiring a disease by doing this, I also prep before sex. I make sure to  defecate and to thoroughly clean myself with a washcloth before we play. When her tongue is on or in  my ass and she is pulling hard on my balls and stroking my cock, there is so much sensory input that I am  a literally quivering mess. She can easily bring me to orgasm this way. The other way she uses my ass is  to massage my prostate when my cock is down her throat. Again, she uses lube, and she keeps a  particular nail trimmed. She could use a finger condom if she wished, but the truth is that the amount of  finger she inserts to get onto my prostate is only and inch or so, so she is unlikely to get feces on her  finger even if I had not voided. As she massages my prostate, she describes it as if she is “feeling like a  walnut that is a bit squishy”, and when she brings me to climax this way, the stimulus makes me cum so  hard and with such volume that I tend to drown her in cum.  

The third way we could play, is for her to peg me. Put on a strap-on and fuck my ass. It’s not something  we have done yet, and being pegged does not make a person gay as everyone knows, but for us, it’s an  item on the menu for another day. When the time comes, I will do the same sort of things she does to  prepare to make sure I don’t suffer an injury and tear my rectal tissue in a dangerous way. And she will  

use the same sort of strategies I used to get her ready for anal to get me ready for anal. And she will use  lube. LOTS of lube.  

There are those folks in the gay community especially, but not exclusively, who are into size play. The  idea that you can really stretch the rectum and insert bigger and bigger items into the ass, from dildos to  fists is the point of the play. To my way of thinking, this way of playing is an extremely dangerous  behavior and great care is needed to ensure that one does not tear the tissue or cause permanent  damage. Rectal fissures can indeed be deadly. Engaging in anal size-play, one needs to be thoughtful and  careful to safely enjoy putting huge items in your partner’s ass.  

Back to Anal April. We got a lot out of our month of anal-only sex. And I learned a lot about my slut and  myself. It became clear to me how much of a masochist she is, now much of an ass whore she is, how  loving she is, how horny she is, and how committed to me she is. You can read about the experience in  my fetlife account where I kept a daily diary of the experience. Suffice it to say that what I got out of the  experience most of all is the awareness that I am even more of an anal whore than she is. I am addicted  to her ass and to have her use my ass. One of the best parts of Anal April was that the sex that followed  in May, our after Anal April sex, is truly mind blowing because as we incorporated using her pussy into  our scene, she had the experience of being fully present to a whole new context for her ass as a sexual organ.  

For this reason, putting all other reasons aside, I encourage you to explore anal sex based on this one  idea alone. As a man, your sex organs are your cock, your balls and your ass/prostate. As a woman you have your pussy (including your clit and G-spot), your tits and your ass. For both men and women, your ass represents one third of your sex organs. A third!  

Are you really prepared to surrender one third of your sexual satisfaction to morality?  Happy anal.  

P.S. Use lube. LOTS of lube. 


SafferMaster and Lady Petra offer Kink Relationship Coaching with online, group, and personal coaching  options.  

You can access the coaching services offered by Lady Petra Playground by reaching out for an initial  conversation- LadyPetraPlaground@gmail.com  

The Patreon is also a way to sign up: https://www.patreon.com/LadyPetrasPlayground  Lady Petra and SafferMaster also produce the Kinky cocktail Hour podcast available on all podcast platforms 

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BDSM 101: Cleaning before Anal Play or Anal Sex

April 2, 2021 By Kinky Assignments 3 Comments

Interested in Anal Play?

Then check out this amazing video brought to us by Sam from Kinky Assignments!

BDSM 101: Cleaning before Anal Play or Anal Sex

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Video: FIGGING: GINGER Anal Play For Masochists

January 3, 2021 By Kinky Assignments 2 Comments

Ever heard of figging?

Curious to know more?

Then, don’t miss this informative video all about the ins and outs of this intriguing type of BDSM anal play!

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Video: Booty Play 101-BDSM Basics

October 17, 2020 By Ms. Elle X 2 Comments

Curious about pegging? Love anal play? Want to do these things safely and avoid injury?

Then check out this informative video by Ms. Elle X that covers all things anal play-benefits, types, prep, and so much more!

(please note to engage in this type of play properly you should watch more than just this video. Anal play requires a lot of knowledge and practice to be done effectively and safely).

Booty Play 101 | BDSM Basics

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