Something happened this week during our High Protocol scene. For my collared Slut and I, this occurs when she presents herself to be marked. We do this about once a week. I mark her with a heavy cane. The number of strokes vary according to her desire. The rest of the week she has a maintenance spanking during our daily play scenes. That is the context.
We were talking (debriefing) after the scene, and she said that she found the marking sexually arousing. This got me thinking about each of our transformations as sexual creatures since we started sceneing together almost 3 years ago.
For me the transformation to sensual sadist was not as big a step as it was for her to discover impact play as arousing. I had explored being a disciplinarian and a cruel sadist at length before I met her and had found, to my surprise, that pure sadism was not my preferred way of being. I had always wanted my sadism to be wrapped up in my sexuality, and sadism without sex was pointless as far as I could tell. I needed more.
For her the transformation was way more nuanced and more profound.
Its best to tell the story of her transformation in the form of a narrative from the beginning. When we first met, I saw her as a masochist. To wit, I had given her a task to do to test her obedience and her masochist tendencies – I instructed her to fig herself with a stick of wet ginger and to masturbate while doing so. She had 3 orgasms. Then she was required to meditate for a few minutes with the ginger inserted. She had an out of body experience. I also learned that as an elite distance athlete she had a lifelong experience with endorphins and being in a trance state.
After a time, I invited her to put herself forward to be claimed. The claiming would involve her being “marked inside and out”. I told her that I would piss in her ass and down her throat and that I would mark her with a cane.
It took something to put herself forward in that context. She had chosen me to be her Dom and she chose to kneel for me. She was courageous. She experienced the early period of our dynamic with some fear and trepidation mixed with the excitement of being a claimed submissive, the sex was intoxicating and new to her, and at the same time, she was having an ongoing conversation with herself, figuring out how she was going to endure and cope with the experience of choosing a sadist as her Dom long term. She is very competitive, and she was determined to win.
During the early period of our dynamic, as a responsible sadist, I was trying to read her before, during and after scenes, so that I could adjust the sadism to her experience as a masochist as lived. In that we are in a 24/7 TPE, I had a lot of responsibility to make sure that “I didn’t break my toys”. I told her I didn’t and she trusted that I would not. I had to be good to my word. For about 6 months, we used different implements and I created many different scenes exploring many fetishes and kinks to see where she and I were aligned, and how it felt. It was all new and a thrilling, exciting and scary experience for her to be in this intense sexual inquiry at that stage of our relationship. We first related as kinksters and as sexual creatures, and I had made the determination to make sure my partner and I were sexually aligned. We talked a lot about what worked and what adjustments were needed to make things work, and for a while, that was how we progressed the dynamic. Several months into our cohabitation, in response to circumstances, I implemented a Daily Maintenance Spanking regime. This was a particularly important event in our dynamic. We learned a great deal, both about her masochism as a result of that decision, and about my sadism and what it was that pleases me.
“During this early phase of our dynamic, I had many stories and scenarios running through my head as I attempted to make meaning of the impact play variations we were exploring. I liked the idea of impact play as an endurance test of my will and obedience. As a service submissive, I was determined to win this game. My internal dialogue included judgements that I should be able to take 100+ strokes of a cane or any other implement my Daddy chose to use to mark his property. However, I had little experience with most implements…especially within a 24/7 TPE dynamic. Early on, I was fixated on the stingy pain of implements and how they distracted me from being present versus enhancing my sexual experience. I was preoccupied with the pain. At first, I discovered certain implements were not my favorite. I feared sharing that with my Daddy as I didn’t want to disappoint him…a sadist. However, I was committed to creating no space between us and so I began to share. What was so wonderful, is that he listened…he too was searching for his sensual sadistic rhythm. I found that the heavy flogger was my favorite implement and would crave it most of all. I knew that the cane would always be present as my Daddy wanted his slut marked. I resigned myself to endure the cane as the trade-off was his satisfaction and appreciation of his slut welcoming her marks. During this time of caning, I would try to use various techniques to reframe the pain. I tried crushing the pain and diminishing it I my mind’s eye. I would realize the caning as flagellations to pay for the pain I had bestowed upon my children for divorcing their father. I would also use breath control to focus pain out of my body on the exhale. All methods worked a bit, but were largely unsuccessful ongoingly. When Daddy implemented the Daily Maintenance Spanking, I was both excited and a bit nervous. What if I couldn’t take it? After the first week of daily spankings of 200-500 strokes with the heavy flogger, I began to look forward to this intimate time. I felt myself relax into the flogging and after about 100-200 strokes, I was warmed up and no longer would feel the strokes individually. Instead, I began experiencing an energetic buzz throughout my body. My initial physical reaction was a dripping wet pussy…often running down my legs. This would always be followed by incredibly hot hot kinky sex with my Daddy. As time passed, I would comment that I could handle more and more flogging. Basically, I would stretch my Daddy to flog me until his arm gave out. Around this time, I proposed that 1000 strokes may be fun to attempt. This scene included my Daddy tying me up in a bent over position with my hands and ankles bound together. He went to work and got lost in his own Dom space. I too was lost in sub space and only requested to stop after hitting our goal due to my legs falling asleep and fearing I would collapse.” – Lady Petra
Mainly we learned after using several implements over time, that she responded best to the heavy flogger, and to a steady rhythmic firm impact. We learned that after about 125 strokes she started to experience orgasms as the spanking continued. We tested her tolerance to over 1200 strokes on one occasion and only stopped because her arms and legs were falling asleep in the bondage. She loved the experience. Since then, our daily maintenance spanking routine is implemented exclusively using the heavy flogger and because we both find it so very arousing, we have ridiculously hot sex every single time. The spanking is now inextricably wrapped into our sexuality. Her relationship with pain had evolved.
That was a pivotal moment in her masochism. It was when she first started to experience herself as a sensual masochist. Her experience with pain was something that we talked about a lot. And in fact, the daily conversations we were having became the impetus of our podcast launch.
I gave her a view to consider, that pain is an emotion and that its subject to interpretation. She became clear through the daily spankings with the heavy flogger over time, that the notion rang true for her too. Even so, the High Protocol scenes where marking occurred, the impact with the cane was more than she could process at the moment.
Over time, we explored different elements around caning her to see if we could find a path to make her experience of being caned as sexually arousing for her as it was for me. We tried giving her a prolonged warm-up and we tried taking more and also less time between strokes, but we were unable to alter her overall experience of being caned, which at that time the intensity of being caned had the impact of pulling her out of subspace.
Recently and quite by accident, we hit on a novel way to approach marking. I noticed one day that she spontaneously asked to be marked in the middle of a scene. I mark her and then fuck her ass while she recovers. One day, she randomly stated after being caned while I was fucking her ass … ”Mark me Daddy”. First of all, I found the experience incredibly hot and very erotic. Second, she seemed to handle the next cane stroke with ease. It occurred to me that instead of me trying to judge and assess her status so as to manage her marking without breaking her spirit, she could just tell me what she was actually dealing with and wanting at the moment. So, we talked about my need to mark her rather than hurt her, and her desire to be my marked slut. We made the choice to give her the power to determine how many marks she received after my initial stoke during a marking protocol scene.
“When I first asked to be marked with the cane, I was deep in sub space and we had already began the caning protocols. I was feeling so connected and aligned with my Daddy, that I felt his caning was an expression of his desire and love for me. He cared enough to mark…ME! My love for him overflowed and I heard myself say…”Mark me Daddy!” I was both aroused and shocked at what I heard erupt from me. As I bared down reading myself for his mark, something changed. He marked me and I remember saying to myself…”Wow…that wasn’t so bad.” The pain seemed to dissipate quicker than usual too. That was the beginning…Daddy stated that after my 1st cane stroke on marking days, I would then be given the power to request more strokes. This was a game changer. Now I would request my strokes, which is a bit of a mind fuck. But, as a switch, to give me power to request my strokes gave me access to experience my caning in a new and enlightening way. I began to not dread my caning. I began cherishing my marks as I felt part of the process. My Daddy’s insight truly led to my greater and more positive experience with marking.” – Lady Petra
This was a game changer for her. She suddenly started to relate to the pain of being caned with a different context and mindset. She started to request many more strokes than she had previously experienced. This was music to my ears. Hot sex became even hotter! Our kink experience was dramatically enhanced by this simple choice. She could give up her fears around being caned and contextualize the experience as “being marked by her choice”. As her Dom, I want her marked and as my submissive she chooses to be my marked property. We are aligned.
This brings us to what happened yesterday. After our High Protocol Scene, we were talking and she said to me “I found the caning very arousing”.
This revelation exploded in my mind as a line that we had been striving to cross, or a mountain peak we were trying to summit had been achieved. The experience of flogging her led to a massive breakthrough in her experience with impact play and yesterday, the experience of caning has now resulted in a massive breakthrough in her experience with caning.
During the scene, which we begin with a hypnokink induction, I framed all our play in the context of an “energy exchange”, including the caning, and I suggested to her that she experience the caning as a massive transfer of energy, which it is ultimately.
Whatever the catalyst, she had a new experience with the cane that left her more aroused by the experience that she was at any time in the past.
By the time she got caned during our High Protocol scene, she had already experienced multiple orgasms, oral, anal and vaginal, and she had been flogged perhaps 500 times with two heavy floggers in preparation. Despite that, she shared, after the experience, that at the time, she had a consideration that she was not sufficiently warmed up and, in some ways, nor was she mentally prepared for the marking to occur at that moment. Even so, her experience of the marking was, surprisingly, one of being sexually aroused by the caning.
“This new experience of feeling arousal during my marking occurred to me newly during this most recent marking day. I found my caning bearable and was able to feel the energy move through me and back to my Daddy. Not quite sure I fully understand how to replicate the scenario, but I do think the suggestions relating to energy transfer with the caning helped me reframe the experience. Our scenes have only been getting hotter and hotter. I feel closer to my dominant more than any other person on earth. I think all combined, we have access to a door to Nirvana that few experience. I am grateful to be on a path with such a sexy sensual sadistic dominant who pulls and demands the masochist inside me to meet him toe-to-toe. He creates me and I create him. We are only at the beginning, and I am excited to see where we will go next!” – Lady Petra
This is a big deal in our dynamic. I am not sure if its due to one reason or another, or if her experience was created by several combined aspects of the experience. Probably the latter. What I know is that as a sensual Dom, I wrap my sadism into my sexuality and now I have confidence that as a masochist, she wraps her masochism into her sexuality, including our marking scenes, and it brings us closer together and aligns us to an even more precise degree. We are now even more aligned than we were, and to a degree that I thought impossible with another human being.
From the start, I set out to sexualize our dynamic and to a large degree I have been successful. Naturally this could not occur without Lady Petra’s full enrollment and participation. She is my 24/7 collared slut. She is always prepared to serve me. And now, our journey has taken a turn as it does in the rabbit hole.
We set out to explore our sexuality and to seek ever more fulfilling sexual encounters. Over the years, the twists and turns in the rabbit hole have surprised us. We always say that if we take new actions, the outcomes are unexpected.
If I had told you 3 years ago that in 3 years, she would find caning arousing, you might have raised your eyebrows if you had had a chance to interview her back then. But now, three years later her experience of herself as a masochist has transformed. The crucible that this has occurred in is that over 1,000 iterations, we have distilled our sexual encounters down to a series of the most exciting, most erotic, hottest actions and interactions from hypnokink, to impact play, to 3-hole penetration, to a give and take that keeps us both in a state of primal lust and now, because of her most recent experience, our High Protocol Scene has become scalding hot.
“I love a woman when she has abandoned her moral center and teachings…when she’s cast aside her façade of propriety and lady-like demeanor…when I have so corrupted this fragile thing and brought out a writhing, mewing, bucking, wanton whore for my enjoyment and pleasure…enticing from within this feral lioness…growling and scratching and biting…taking everything I dish out to her…at that moment she is never more beautiful to me except for when I realize that I have now helped unleash a lioness into the world…”
−Marquis de Sade
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