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This week in kink: January 18, 2021

January 17, 2021 By Dexx 2 Comments

This week Shireen Khalil writes about Sherry Lever, a 69 year old, thriving Dominatrix.

It’s true that age is just a number!

Click below to read more of Sherry’s riveting story!

UK grandmother shares inside look at life as a 69yo dominatrix after divorce – NZ Herald
She was once a chef, but when her husband left her she embarked on a racy, new career.
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BDSM has gotten more exposure over the years.

Whether you like the show or not, the Netflix show, Bonding is bringing BDSM and sex work more into the public eye.

With this being said, Showbiz CheatSheet, exposes the inner workings of this series.

Click below to find out more!

‘Bonding’: A Look at the True Story Behind Netflix’s Dominatrix Comedy

yahoo lifestyle! reports that BDSM is the most popular kink with folks over 60.

BDSM is definitely not reserved for the youngsters! Anyone and everyone is welcome!

Click below to read more about these intriguing findings!

BDSM the most popular kink amongst over 60s, study claims
A new study has delved into the sex lies of the over 60’s and some of the results may surprise you.
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Video: FIGGING: GINGER Anal Play For Masochists

January 3, 2021 By Kinky Assignments 2 Comments

Ever heard of figging?

Curious to know more?

Then, don’t miss this informative video all about the ins and outs of this intriguing type of BDSM anal play!

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How To Whip Yourself

November 14, 2020 By Dame TylerRose. 2 Comments

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I frequently see questions about how to play by one’s self. In this day and age of plague, it’s particularly important to take care of our own needs. I have always been able to do so, not relying on a partner to give me the pleasures I like most.

This third self-play article will cover an easy impact technique anyone can use with a belt, flogger, and even a short single tail.

First, get a leather belt. If you don’t already have one in your play kit, you can get an inexpensive one from any decent clothing store. Target regularly has them for under twenty dollars. I have found beautifully broken in belts at thrift stores also. They clean up easily enough with soap and water and some shea butter or coconut oil for conditioner.

The length of the belt doesn’t really matter so long as it’s not too long. Something in the 30 to 36 inch range is fine. When folded over, it will be the perfect length.

Standing is a better position so you can swing freely and not smack the bed, chair or sofa. But on your knees on a bed works too.

Start off swinging around your ribs to your back. You may be surprised how much effort is needed to give yourself a good smack. It can be a pretty decent arm workout.

Then over your shoulders. The movies make it look so easy, don’t they?  

Inner thighs are right there. Buttocks, back of thighs. Varying the speed changes up the force of impact.

A broken-in belt is easier than a new one, but a new one will be broken in after a few sessions. A studded belt adds another degree of intensity. Some people I know have liked to use the buckle end rather than the leather in the middle. Give it a try; see if you agree.

A game I have played:

Sit down to watch a show on regular television. Commercial comes on, pick up the belt and beat yourself with it until the show comes back. Sit back, watch the show. Commercial comes on, pick up the belt and beat yourself with it. The resting between lets the endorphins come forward into a delicious high – for me, at least. The high is my goal in the first place.

By the 45 minute mark, commercials created an almost Pavlovian response in me.

You can create your own games, such as “1 strike every time someone on a show says the word “the” or “and”, or says a particular character’s name. Then give yourself that many strikes at the next commercial break, or wait and add them all up when the show is over.

All of these things can be done with a short flogger also. Something fifteen to eighteen inches overall length will do. It needs to be hefty enough that the falls have impact. Too long and too thin is difficult to throw over one’s own shoulder and get the impact desired. Shorter is easier to control and strike where you want.

Guess what? You can use a short whip too! I bought a pair of mini snake whips from Highland Whip Design (Instagram – HighlandWhipDesign; Fetlife — https://fetlife.com/users/7280606) and they can absolutely be used to whip one’s self using the same around the ribs and over the shoulder techniques. In fact, while he was finishing them, I asked him if it would reach well for that and he did it on himself to confirm that, yes, absolutely, these will whip one’s own back.

Between these two how-to articles, you have four different implements you can use almost all over on your body. Start with the flogger for warming up. Move on to the belt and then the wooden spoon. Conclude with the whip for that final sharp sting. Hours of self-play are at your fingertips. 

If you aren’t too hard on yourself, you can do this every day if you want.

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TylerRose. is known as Dame Tyler in the NYC public SM/Fetish scene. She is an award-winning author who has written two “lifestyle”, four cartoon, and over 25 fiction books.

Read her books on her Amazon page — https://www.amazon.com/TylerRose./e/B00HCPLSP2

You can also find more of her OP/ED work in Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/305828

FB Fan Page — https://www.facebook.com/TylerRoseGethis/

Twitter — https://twitter.com/DameTyler or @DameTyler

She enjoys crocheting and baking, and will no doubt die with a thesaurus open on her thigh.

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How To Use A Wooden Spoon On Yourself

November 7, 2020 By Dame TylerRose. 2 Comments

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I frequently see questions about how to play by one’s self. In this day and age of plague, it’s particularly important to take care of our own needs. I have always been able to do so, not relying on a partner to give me the pleasures I like most.

This second self-play article will cover an easy impact technique anyone can use. 

First, get a wooden spoon from the kitchen if you don’t already have one in your play kit. 

Sitting upright is easiest for reaching most of the body. Start wherever you like. I’ll describe an easy sequence that starts with the inner thighs.

Experiment with how to hold the spoon. Tight isn’t always the most advantageous. If you hold it loosely and allow the spoon to swing an arc of several inches, you’ll get more pain out of its inertia than the strength of your arm.

I don’t do one hard whap at a time. I let it swing and strike over and over and over, rapidly but with moderate force. This builds up the stinging sensation. When I get a hit that is at my upper range, I move to the other thigh. 

Ranging to the outside of the thigh changes the sensation significantly. The outer is used to be rubbed against clothing. The inner is more sensitive.

Moving up the belly, yes you can strike on the belly. You’re not going to hit hard enough to do any damage. Up to the breasts/pectorals. Men may find they really enjoy impact to the chest.

You can reach over your shoulders as well, to your upper back. Leaning to one side, you can strike your own buttocks and down the length of the back of your thigh. Lean the other direction to get the other side.

You can turn the spoon around and hold the scoop and use the stick end to strike. This changes both the impact sensation and the concentration of pain.

If you find yourself aroused, get a dildo or jack yourself as you would during any other masturbatory session.

I’ve given myself quite a lot of pain stimulation. A great deal of pleasure. I’ve almost never given myself bruises. Bruises have never been the point of my self-play. Any redness has always been gone within a couple hours.

Self-play isn’t necessarily about getting your extreme pain needs met. To me, it’s about obtaining my perfect level of pleasure; getting myself off; satisfying my immediate arousal.


TylerRose. is known as Dame Tyler in the NYC public SM/Fetish scene. She is an award-winning author who has written two “lifestyle”, four cartoon, and over 25 fiction books.

Read her books on her Amazon page — https://www.amazon.com/TylerRose./e/B00HCPLSP2

You can also find more of her OP/ED work in Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/305828

FB Fan Page — https://www.facebook.com/TylerRoseGethis/

Twitter — https://twitter.com/DameTyler or @DameTyler

She enjoys crocheting and baking, and will no doubt die with a thesaurus open on her thigh.

Tagged With: bdsm, fetish, impact play, kink, masochism, power exchange, sadism, sado-masochist, sadomasochism

This week in kink: July 2, 2018

July 2, 2018 By Dexx 5 Comments

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Check out Ayzad’s book titled BDSM: A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism

ABOUT THE BOOK

BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism is the English-language edition of the best-selling Italian work on kink, first published in 2004 and since considered the reference book for enthusiasts and professionals alike. More specifically, this is the adapted translation of its Fifth Edition, revised and updated in late 2016. The book features 230 photos (150 in the digital edition) by leading Italian fetish artists including Roberto Baldazzini, Hikari Kesho, Giuliano Grittini, Marcello Mangano and many more. The selection and layout are by famed book designer Paolo Prenestini.  

The 18 chapters of the book cover every aspect of BDSM, from the natural instinct for domination and submission shared by all mammals to the reality of 24/7 relationships, from the finer psychological games to the most intense forms of physical play. Each subject is treated realistically and rationally, featuring practical insights along with hard data and an eye to safety. 

Click here for a free preview:  Kindle | Epub | PDF

The first 20 readers who join Ayzad’s newsletter (subscribe at http://eepurl.com/cCPiaX ) will receive a free digital copy of BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism


 

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Peter Tatchell believes children should learn about sadomasochism in school and other various essential things concerning sex education

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Ever want to learn more about the Leather Community and Leathermen?

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This week in kink, May 7, 2018

May 7, 2018 By Dexx 5 Comments

Check out the on-going debate about consensual sadomasochism vs. violence and how our legal system handles such things. Click here to read more.

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San Francisco votes to recognize its Gay Fetish Leather District. Click here to find out more.

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Be sure to check out DomCon this weekend if you are in Los Angeles. Click here to check it out.

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Academia submits its final report for Consensual Relationships Policy. Click here to read more.

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