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anniebear Interviews Justin Sayne Leather

February 22, 2016 By anniebear 2 Comments

I sat down with Justin Sayne in his downtown loft during his last week in Los Angeles. He was in the midsts of packing up his shop and moving back to Arizona to continue his work.

anniebear: We’re here with Justin Sayne of Justin Sayne Leather-see what he did there (laughs). So you craft fine leather toys and accessories. You’re pretty well known for that because you use some interesting materials, that being the crocodile skin. Is that something you’ve always worked with or did you sort of happen upon that material?

Justin: I came across that material a couple of years ago at a leather convention in Prescott, AZ of all places. I saw the tales from across the room and I’m like that’s a fetish toy. I wasn’t sure how and I wasn’t sure what, I mean it was thirty yards away and there was a table of them. From great big to small and I was thinking that’s brilliant, that’s the part of the animal that nature intended to be a whip-this is on! Coincidentally when I looked at it I realized I already made single tales in the same fashion out of latigo. Pretty much the stuff they make belts out of. A couple of other toys, little slappers were pretty much the same thing the only difference was the material and exactly what to do with the material. The parts we’re using it doesn’t really matter if its alligator or crocodile because the part is about the same on both animals at that point. I generally use farmed alligators because that’s what’s available a lot. But strangely enough we’ve gotten elephant, giraffe, the list is just so vast of what the exotics are right now and what’s coming. You’ve not seen anything unless you’ve seen an elephant trunk flogger.

Do you have one?

I sold it.

(Laughs) Was the elephant ill gotten?

No no no! They’re farming them and more than that we outlawed the import of trophies so the safari trade died. That’s where all the poaching material is going to anyway. Nobody told mom nature that we were going to quit taking animals. It’s not like we were hunting only the ones-there was still a controlled hunt in Africa. The poachers were taking too many. Well elephants and giraffes breed well. Rhinoceroses not so much, I can’t get rhino. But you tell mom nature that now you need the water and food and space not all of the animals that are but all of their offspring, their not going get knocked off they’re not going to be hunted and thinned out so you just don’t turn up mom nature. Now they’re to the point where the government is paying people to come and take them. On top of the farms. That’s what happened with the lion deal. There’re so many big animals out there this country says I can get more out of this used up lion by taking this animal the other males are going to push further and reproduce even harder.

So when I ran into the alligators, there’re tons of these, there’s plenty of them but not so many that everybody is going to be able to get their fingers on it.

Do you dye the leather yourself or do they come in those colors?

They come in so many colors. Seriously, this mix up in the Middle East has done weird stuff like they’ve been raising sheep and lambs over there for a long time, they still do it by hand. And we weren’t getting a lot of the import export trade out of the
Middle East for a long time so now we’re in a situation where all of these skins have hit the market and not only has it put the Asian, American, South American markets on alert because here’s a whole new continent putting out skin and not only the skin they’re producing now but the stuff that’s stacked up over so many years. So everyone is stepping up their game. The leather is just bitchin’ right now. I can get lambskin that look like a mirror.

A mirror?

Yes, you can see yourself in them.

Do you feel like the flogger and toy market has been more saturated because of that or has it kind of just stayed steady?

Well you’re seeing some of those materials in the custom market and strangely enough its giving us the leverage to compete with the “use it once throw it away” market. Before a guy with an idea and a cute little leather toy really kind of got chuckled at when he said he was going to make a living off of this. These days it may be beans and rice it may be very fancy beans and rice.

Do you work by yourself or do you have friends or colleagues?

Up to now I’ve worked with myself. I’m starting to add others and its kind of odd. There’s a lady from Indiana I met her here [in Los Angeles]. She’s actually looking at coming to Arizona to work full time as well, between the two of us I’ve got more shop space than both of our Los Angeles places combined. Another fella has been adding some support and he’s going to be around a while. So I mean people are starting to catch on and hang on you can kind of tell you’ve got something going when people start to show up.

Right, and support.

As opposed to “hey man high fives can I get a discount”?

So how long have you been working with leather in general?

I started, what is this 2016? I started in 09-10.

Quite awhile then. Self taught?

Yes and no. I had a really good mentor, Debbie and she actually hired me-it’s a long story. She hired me on a whim. I knew nothing about leather it wasn’t even to do with leather it happened to be her show season and when I was done with what she had me do she asked me if I could model a loin cloth. And I’m like what the fuck is a loin cloth. A couple of very uncomfortable pictures later she kind of figured I was a good sport and started showing me what I was doing. The fetish stuff actually came from-it started in her shop and being a single woman with a child in a small town and a quiet leather business she decided it was too much fan for her fire so she taught me everything she could at that time and mostly; 1. Don’t ever turn down a leather worker that really needs something ever. 2. Always teach someone that’s serious about cutting leather, never say no, no matter how much you don’t like them and, 3. Don’t ever make a mistake. Ever. If you break something lay it aside and see what its good for.

Like if you make a wrong cut on something because you can always parts of it later?

Well a mistake is something you didn’t mean to do that means that its different, that there’s potential there, its just not what you need today.

That’s a really good way of looking at stuff.

You see what I mean? It’s not like tearing a piece of paper, something had to die for that. So you make a bad cut you can’t throw it away but even on the floor I just sweep it up, the little tiny pieces in the nooks and crannies. I keep as much as I possibly can. I’ll find something for it. It’s something waiting to happen. Some of my best stuff as far as I’m concerned was junk that was lying around the shop that one day I happened to be straightening up and set them together and go GASP! It happened to me the other day.

My bandana was lying on the floor. I use these for shit. They’re fun. But girls especially are familiar with a nice soft cotton bandana. My stuff is expensive, I’m looking for stuff under $100, stuff under $100 made of leather-people don’t want it. They complain it’s too expensive. You hand them something that’s worth $100 for $50 and they’re like “but this $400 one is so nice.” So it’s a struggle. So I’m sitting here thinking what about blindfolds, what about gags. If you just fold these and sew them and maybe put a leather band around them, everybody knows how to use this as a blindfold, they know how to tie it, its comfortable. Do it a little further and you’ve got a ball gag. It’s beginner stuff, its cheap but they come in all colors. Point is, I’ve had a million of these. But the one that was laying on my table, I was like, look there’s my blindfold. It’s a mistake! I took my thing off and laid it on the table.

And then the idea!

That’s where it comes from. The bulk of what I’ve got that was cool either came from a mistake or trying to right a wrong or trying to fix something I broke. Even the leather convention I was at when I found the alligator was because I made the mistake of actually buying expensive leather. I needed something cheaper. I had to go digging that up. That was the last thing Debbie taught me. Make those mistakes home runs.

Switching gears a little, it seems like you’re pretty active in the LA scene.

I wouldn’t say I’m active. I appear.

You make appearances (laughs). So you hosted the slave auction and you’ll go to the market events with your leather. Do you really go to play parties much?

No. If I’m not working it, I don’t go.

How did you get into the stuff that you go to in the community? Did you just approach people and say hey can I host or did you already know people?

When I got to do the slave auction I was new in LA. I wasn’t even sure that I was staying. I was just lingering. My problem, the issue I had with moving here-there’s business and there’s pleasure and in my situation those too things massively overlap. So my thought was don’t go into a scene (into this scene) expecting to make the money and get the women and not give back. Because that’s really what it comes down to but that’s exactly how these people are going to see it. “Who is this guy? We’ve been building this scene forever. Now he’s going to come in here and earn off of us and get the girls and giggle?” No. That ain’t nice. So before I even busted out a toy or even told anybody who I was I went to the dungeon, I paid the cover I told them what I wanted.

First time I got toys out was in private with the boss. The first time I got a toy out in LA on this trip was out of request in private. That being said, I left those toys in that private room. Went to the club I paid to hang out in. That’s the way it was for the longest time. From those conversations actually I heard about the slave auction and went and begged for the opportunity. I had to straight out explain I’m a retired auctioneer. I’ve never done a slave auction. This was just great! What can I pay, I’ll donate stuff! And they asked me to come back indefinitely as far as I know. Its really just about giving before I expected anything. That’s how its supposed to be. I just got active by just trying to pay some respect before I expected anything and I don’t know if it worked but I tried. I’m sure I got my haters.

I haven’t heard of any haters!

Oh come on, at least one or two?

Nah.

Ok…I’ll try harder.

(Laughs) How long have you been kinky either actively or just knowing it was within yourself?

My mom bought a strip club when I was fourteen. And I got to work in there

When you were fourteen?

Yup.

You really got an education.

Yea, I wouldn’t have been able to define kinky when I started cutting leather. I really thought that I was just the naughty black sheep more than anything. I worked strip clubs my whole life. Gotten out of it, got back into it. Actually paid my way to auctioneer school from selling some stock and my tips from Christies. Everything that I did in life was from what I was making at the strip club. By the time I got cutting leather I’d gotten out of all that. My son was around full time, gotten a house in the middle of nowhere, little cottage. I was done. It was actually Debbie that said the market’s down I need for my RenFair material to turn black and have a line of toys so I can just double up easily. She just simply had this theory that the closest thing to RenFair material was bondage material and she would just simply cross over. She thought it would be seamless.

So I didn’t know what a flogger was. She sent me home to figure out a line of toys and I didn’t even know the definition of flogger. You could have shown that to me and I’d have been like oh that’s tickly! Now when I finally started going to parties I realized there’s something to this and where I’m from you don’t hit girls so that was a problem. And I kind of came out of the Phoenix scene and was extremely heavy handed. So you can see that from the toys, I mean they’re brutal. And I can’t say I always knew I was kinky but I do know that the journey when I figured out what kink was on accident, there was definitely a fit there, an outlet personally I had no idea I had an artistic bone in my body. You know the whole artists label is something that I try to shun. But people keep using that word and people could be wrong but I didn’t even know that existed much less creativity. I knew I could get through my life but some of the stuff I’ve seen come off my table I never dreamed of. I didn’t know I was kinky until in the essence of the word until I found a girlfriend that made me confortable. There I was dabbling, earning, designing, providing toys for people to be kinky providing stuff kinky had never seen before and there I was, “can you show me how to use this?”

This thingy I made?

No seriously, I had a string of Doms that would handle my shit and try it out because I had zero clue and had no problems saying so! And don’t want to, go on right ahead. I really didn’t know I was kinky until I was dating this fetish model that she sat down at my table and we made her a toy. And it was a slappy and stingy on one end and had a real thuddy handle and then it had a tickly tip on the other side. And that was what she wanted. She Wanted thuddy, tickly, and stingy. And we went through the whole entire process of custom making something just for her tender little needs. And by the time it was done I was dying to use it and it worked very well. (laughs)

I saw some of your stuff in The Black Room [a fetish leather store] in Vegas. That’s pretty awesome huh?

Yea I love those guys

How long has that been going on?

Franz [the owner] has been supporting me from the jump! That guy, that scratchy old German no matter how pissed off, busy, late, that guy has been a supporter from the beginning. As far as I’m concerned, there’ll be stuff in The Black Room until The Black Room Turns white.

Yes, we actually interviewed Tara while we were in Vegas but Franz couldn’t join us.

She is phenomenal, she works her ass off.

I know they’ve been having a hell of a time in Vegas with all of the drama with the dungeon. It’s a shame.

What’s worse than that, Tara took on that whole entire place so the globe would have an accessible dungeon to come and have and they could fly straight into Vegas. Her heart is in this. If the best place to put that would have been Berlin and she’d have had that opportunity she would have went there. The fact that it’s so easy to get into Vegas from every country on Earth, and just minutes from the airport in a place that size, the fact that she would take that on. The community should have busted their ass to make sure she succeeded, there should have been zero question.

It seems the local community there isn’t unified around any one thing.

I had a club in Phoenix, I don’t know what it is but it’s a real fractured community as well. Not as much now but it was then just like Las Vegas. Somebody new coming up now we’re gonna have a place to play. It’s not that it was up against the fifty others. Here’s a place you can buy a piece of leather you can get strapped to a cross, scream as loud as you want and oh yea if you get here before ten o’clock there was a Greek restaurant in the parking lot. I’d have free night and people wouldn’t show up. Now some nights the place was packed even if it was a twenty dollar bill to get in. When it came to hey lets make sure we maintain this space no matter who’s running it, nope not even a flicker and then everyone will complain that there’s no place to go. Not like in LA where if you don’t like where you’re hanging out there’s three others within driving distance. That has nothing to do with the house parties.

What advice would you give to someone brand new just starting out?

Take advice. We all give it, you should take it. You don’t have to take it and run with it but take notes. Maybe ask around. Take that advice to a munch or a party. Spread it out a little bit, asking will fill someone else’s ears that hadn’t heard it. I mean I could give “play safe” but nobody is going to listen to that. Take advice, We all have some. And as many Domly Doms that are out there that will chuck it out for free, suck it up, take it with a grain of salt if you have to. We’ve all had experiences. We’ve all fucked up, me first. We’ve all hurt people we didn’t mean to. Don’t hang your head and be like “I didn’t know.” We’re not all super Dom or super sub. Don’t be shy about stealing advice, dip into other people’s conversation. Butt in if you have to. I don’t think there’s anything better that can be said.

anniebear Interviews Tara from The Black Room

February 15, 2016 By anniebear 1 Comment

On our recent trip to Las Vegas for the AVNs, we sat down with Tara, manager of The Black Room a fetish leather store in the area. We talked about all things Vegas, dating, and the BDSM scene abroad.

anniebear: Your store The Black Room is kind of a fixture here in Las Vegas and I know you get a lot of tourist traffic as well and you and Franz are local community/BDSM figureheads?

Tara: To a degree. Not as much as some people think. In the last few years we have made more in roads but sadly in Vegas its very divisive. And we have found that when you kind of get involved with one thing even if you’re doing it with the best of intentions another group will be upset with that so to make everyone happy we really do keep our distance. That’s why we don’t really affiliate with a single group here or there. It’s a very unique place Vegas. And the community as I said there’re all these little niches and you just try to make everyone happy. I found that that’s really hard to do because last year at this time I had a dungeon here in town. And sadly it closed and I’m not angry about it but I am disappointed about it but I really never had any local community support to keep it going, which I found very surprising. I really did. I really thought- I don’t want to say you build it they will come but I thought it would have had more local people than I did.

Dexx: That was Faust right? Can you tell us more about that?

The idea behind Faust was I always wanted a dungeon based on a European model. I’d been to many places in Germany and Holland and things like and what we wanted to do was give a place to play that people who were new to the scene or very much into it or very experienced could come to a place that was for fetish only. Faust was not a sex club. It wasn’t like a lot of the other places here. That’s fine that’s there thing but that’s not what we were about. We were about play. When we opened, we had a fantastic opening night I mean it was brilliant and we had an 8000 square foot place. I had a building that was 20,000 square feet and I had plans to expand if things had gone well and I really had this idea of doing it the way no one had ever done it before I mean it was much more than just having a cross here a flogging table there. I really had a lot of stuff planned. But I invested quite a bit of my own money, what I could afford. I had a partner from Belgium, Roger Muiller. Roger and I both had that same vision. And if you go on Faust on Facebook, I still have my site up and you can see photos of it. We had a really wonderful lounge area where people could just relax before they played or after just to get them in the mood or to wind down. In the lounge area no play was allowed-but it didn’t work here in town. I think part of it, like I said lack of community support and part is because I had to be very careful how I advertised. The city didn’t give me a hard time. But in this city you also have to be very careful how you do things. And if I’d have been like in your face kind of like a lot of the nightclubs are they would have shut me down quick. So I was trying to work under the radar but again metro knew about me metro came in on a number of occasions, never had a problem with it but it was a glorious failure as I’d like to say.

anniebear: I did visit the space it was beautiful.

You know I had some interesting nights. I wont deny it. I did have great memories but it just didn’t work.

anniebear: And how did The Black Room come about?

[The Black Room] owner Franz, he had this place in Irvine, CA. He was there for fifteen years and he had it in the back of a jewelry store his wife owned and was quite successful. But it was much more of a local community kind of little shop. His wife sadly passed from leukemia in 2010 and he came out here. He started in October 2010 here with basically all he had which was whatever he had placed in storage because he had closed the business to take care of his wife. So we had that and I came on about four months after he opened. And we just tried everything you can think of for advertising, we had some pieces that we brought in here that we thought would be great sellers, didn’t sell at all. Other things that we knocked heads about, sometimes he was right sometimes I was right. (laughs) For instance late last year we instituted a line of adult baby and it is flying off our website! We cannot keep stuff in fast enough. We get lots of hate letters from people who are waiting and we’re trying to get stuff in as fast as we can!

anniebear: I thought you were going say you get hate letters from people saying that they’re against the store (laughs)

Yes, they’re just in tears (laughs). Now I have nothing against infantile play, its great people love it but I didn’t think it was as popular as it is. And that surprised me, happily. That has really taken off for us, we I think have a good reputation on the quality of stuff that we sell. We try to bring in as much from Europe as possible. I won’t deny that we do have a little bit of what I would call inferior quality for beginners. Because obviously beginners don’t want to spend a lot of money but I still want to sell to them so I bring in the “fifty shades of gray” line, the stuff that’s very basic. You may get one or two uses out of it. You may buy a flogger that costs you $10 and the purist in me doesn’t want to sell it I hate it but business is business and it does sell. But for those who are more knowledgeable or have more experience they really do like our stuff and that makes me very happy. I am one of those people I won’t sell something to you if I just don’t think you’re ready for it. And I will tell people that straight to their face, you’re not ready for this. If you really really want it I’ll sell it to you but if you’re asking my opinion you’re not ready for that. And I think that has shown that we’re very honest with our customers.

I read things on Yelp and it’s usually nice things but somebody wrote one time that they said, “I came in there a stranger and I walked out a friend.” And that that makes me happy because those are customers which are going to come back. Even with tourists I won’t just sell something to a tourist thinging, “well I’ll never see them again.” And that have proved to be nice because we have had a lot of return people. I’ve had people from Australia, New Zealand, even Germany that will come here and will say we came to Vegas, yea we’re going to have the “Vegas experience” but our first stop was your store. That really makes me feel good because that tells me we’re doing something right.

Do we make mistakes of course, do we get people mad at us of course. That’s business. Its like I was trying to tell Franz one day the more you sell online the more you’re opening yourself up to criticism because he hates to see criticism but you have to roll with the punches. I say if you’re selling ten pieces and you get one complaint, it’s 10% of your business. If you’re selling 100 pieces and get 10 complains its still only 10%. So you have t look at it in that perspective.

anniebear: How did you meet Franz then?

It was funny, I had come back from Ireland. I’d come here in the early 2000’s got a little homesick and went home. Then the economy crashed in Ireland and I thought well there’s no way I want to stay here and live on the dole so I came back to Las Vegas, I have family here. And I was actually working in a sex club as a bartender. It was very funny because a sex club is not my personal kind of thing and I just stood behind the bar and it was just a meeting place. I always had people say they came in there just to come talk to me even if they never got lucky in the club they still had a good time because you know I have a talent, if you would for making people laugh.

anniebear: I’m sure you make a great bartender.

I met Franz, he came in one time. We got talking and then he had come in a few other times and we just hit it off. And he said to me “if you ever want to come work for me let me know and I’ll hire you on the spot.” And I said “yea ok thanks, etc.” I finally had gotten tired of the club it wasn’t me and it wears on you those places always do just like I always hear escorts say they can do it for so long and then just burn out. I was in this [BDSM] world myself as a player and I’d been a pro-Domme for more years than I care to admit but he found out I was no longer working there and I didn’t contact him or anything but he gave me a call one day and said do you want to come work for me and I said yes!

anniebear: And do you usually get along?

It’s funny because you know believe me we have some knock down drag outs but what’s really good is that we do leave it at business. Before he had his new fiancé, many times we would go out on a Saturday night after work and go to dinner and go do some karaoke or something. He’s like a big brother. And Franz is very knowledgeable, he has some really good contacts in Germany and because of that Franz gets his stuff direct and it eliminates a middle man which obviously gives us the ability to sell stuff at really what I consider reasonable prices. We have very much beginner stuff that’s very cheap and we have some really high end stuff and it can be expensive. But for the most part if you look at the pieces and the quality of it it’s reasonable.

anniebear: Have you spent much time in Germany?

I have been there on a number of occasions but I’ve never lived there. The last time was in 2001. I had to visit the Kit Cat club and if you haven’t been go!

anniebear: When you were a professional Dominatrix, that was in Ireland?

No that was in Holland. I was very much my own enterprise. I never believed in working under other people like that because the more people that are about the more likely you’re going to get in trouble. Just like if I did it here I wouldn’t do it as a group or under anybody else or have a website because the police troll those things in Vegas. Even though no sex is involved, if they want to bust you they will. But I had very interesting clients in Holland. It was a little bit different, the late 80s early 90s, tastes changes just like styles change but I when I was doing it it was much more what people would call the run of the mill play. I never had anything really unusual, in my mind. I’m sure a lot of the stuff to vanilla people would seem unusual but it was –your basic floggings, whippings, anal play, CBT, piercings, things like that. I had basic clients, some people who were local politicians at the time. That was the biggest thing I always noticed. It always amazes me how many professional people are in this lifestyle, maybe because they’re more open minded or have more time or funds, I don’t really know. Most of the people that I knew in Holland were very much professional people.

anniebear: We’re always interested in hearing about what the scene is like in other cities and countries.

In Europe what surprises me too, Vegas is such a visual town when you go it’s “I’m in Vegas I’m going to do myself up,” it surprises me when I first came here you see that we [at The Black Room] are more about fashion and clothing than we are about equipment though we have been bringing that part of it too. It really surprises me about the number of people who are local that really don’t dress up and for us when you went to a dungeon or club that’s what it was all about. I mean yes everybody played but you saw the stereotype people, in corsets the men in suits, special rubber suits or leather or latex, masks. And you really don’t get that here. The most you seem to get is people who will wear a black t-shirt maybe biker boots and a vest as far as the men go. A lot of the women just get naked which is fine to each their own. But in Europe it was all about the image was part of the fantasy. Part of the atmosphere of the club that’s really lacking here.

anniebear: In LA I feel that people dress.

Dexx: It varies from event to event, but some people do.

anniebear: It seems like Vegas has a lot of old school players or people that have been in the scene for years and years and don’t really deviate much from those rules to the point of not being inclusive.

They do and people have a right to do and believe what they want. I don’t have any issue with that. What I don’t like and I’m just speaking for me personally, I’ve never sat there and called out anybody on this, what I don’t like is how many times I’ll hear the chatter online that if you don’t do it this way or that way you’re just dabbling your not really serious. Or you don’t know what lifestyle play is all about. Who anointed them the “S & M guardian.” To me if you’re thing is getting tied to the bed and getting spanked a few times before you engage in sexual play, if that’s your kink then that’s your kink and there’s nothing wrong with that. So I really don’t like when people do that. And I hear a lot of that. I don’t know if goes on like that in LA but I just saw so much criticism about the way people play. I get annoyed when I hear some club say we’re a male dominated society and our group is all about male dominance. Ok that’s fine I don’t have problem with that but for somebody who is new to the scene or doesn’t understand it when they come to their group, they’ll turn around and insult them, “oh you’re a switch or a male submissive get out of here.” That’s just rude, I’m sorry. I always thought we were about educating each other as much as the pubic at large and I hear a lot of that.

anniebear : What advice would give to someone brand new starting out exploring the lifestyle?

Be careful. Ask loads of questions; don’t be afraid to ask questions. I also say that if there’s something you are interested in, try to find people that you first trust and who know a bit about what it is you’re interested in. And let’s say for instance you’re into electrical play, play with more than one person. If possible-I’m going from the aspect that you’re not attached to anybody. You find somebody you trust, you play. If you really like it fantastic. If it’s not what you thought it was don’t just discount it. Try somebody else and see how they do it because everyone is different in their techniques. So you may find, ok I like it but that first person just wasn’t good at it or you may try it with two or three different people and you just don’t like the experience. You say ok that’s not for me. Use your head, just be intelligent. I’d like to think that most people that get into this are fairly intelligent. Someone who’s willing to be submissive say, wouldn’t play with someone without asking questions. It’s a dangerous pastime if you don’t take your precautions. Just ask loads of questions and be smart and if something in your head says this isn’t right you stop, walk away. Don’t feel like you have to prove anything to anyone.

For somebody who is new I’m always leery of the people that say “I don’t do the munch thing because I find them to be ridiculous” that kind of red flags me. When people around these public sites say that. Not that you have to do a munch but the great thing about them is if you’re a regular attendee most people kind of know you and you know them so if you’re somebody new and you can meet them at a munch and ask around. It lays the ground work.

Dexx: What do you think it’ll take before Vegas could have another public dungeon again?

Well, Franz and I have talked about this and we have a plan in place if the cards fall properly. We would love to do something in the space next door to us. We would like to turn it into a weekend play space. I think what it takes is it’s hard –the most ideal way to do it in this city is in a private residence. But the trouble with most private residences is that if you want the perfect place it’s going to cost a ton of money to rent and the trouble is with most houses is the rooms are too small. And then there’s parking or upset the other residences. It’s tough. It’s a shame that Vegas is a little bit tight assed but they are. I always laugh and jokingly say this town loves the nickname but they don’t like the actuality. Yea we’re Sin City the adult playground of the world. Come spend your money but you can’t do that you cant do that.

Dexx: Keep your panties on there! (laughs)

Like the AVNs it’s a porn star thing or the Fetish and Fantasy Ball and everyone knows what its about and yet people get so bent out of shape when they see boobs, even if the nipples are covered, they see boobs; and oh my God! It’s what it’s about.

anniebear: It’s the American way to have that reaction.

You know Ireland is still a very conservative place and they say oh you have such freedom in Vegas you can do what you want and I’m like really? I can get in better trouble in Dublin than here. It is what it is.

anniebear: So, are you seeing anybody right now?

No I’m not and it’s hard for a number of reasons and you’re going to laugh at this. I just like regular run of the mill, straight fellas and I’m a post op so it’s hard to find regular straight fellas who are A) comfortable with my past, B) are at least interested in this lifestyle, or C) because they know I work here it scares the hell out of them. Its like oh I don’t think I could handle her. She’s gonna be too much or too wild for me.

anniebear: Are you a switch do you prefer domination?

To say I’m not would be a lie, I am a switch but the way I say that is I do pro Domme occasionally. I do have some clients that come into town a few times a year, not a ton. But for my own personal play I’m a bottom. I can do the Domme role, I’m good at it but I don’t get the excitement I get out of being a submissive.

Dexx: Are the Germans as kinky as their reputation would suggest?

Yes. It’s a good thing! Franz said this once to me and I don’t know if he was really joking about it or meant it-the Germans when they approach their business, the business days are very straight forward, very proper, all the T’s are crossed, everything is efficiency. So I think when they have their down time according to Franz he says that’s when we let our hair down and that does make sense because I do have loads of friends who are Germans and they’re kinkiest you’ve ever met. They don’t broadcast it but they don’t conceal it, where I have friends who are really kinky in Ireland, I mean Irish men are trust me the kinkiest things going but they all deny it.

Whip Essentials

February 15, 2016 By Baadmaster 4 Comments

“Whip and Chains.” You’ve heard this phrase a thousand times. It’s what made BDSM famous. (Well, almost.) The chains part is pretty straightforward. But whips… that is another matter entirely. So, Kink Weekly will try to give you an introduction into this exciting aspect of the kink world.

Trying to present an online course on single tails in one article would be like attempting to train an Astronaut in one day. Whips – especially bullwhips – are an advanced form of BDSM play and the skill level required is quite high. That said, you have to begin somewhere — and that somewhere is right here, at Kink Weekly. Here we will try to give you some basics about the single tail that will make your journey into this exciting area of BDSM play a little easier. And, if you are already knowledgeable about whips, this can be a good refresher course!

Whether it is the circus “Ring Master” or the BDSM “Bondage Master” cracking the whip, it is a sound that is awe-inspiring. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the whip, the “cracking” sound is made by a nylon or polypropylene “cracker” that is attached to the fall at the end of the whip.

The bullwhip is typically made of rawhide or kangaroo leather and has a leather-covered hard wooden handle that makes it easy to wield and throw accurately. They usually run from about five feet to twelve feet in length. Snake whips tend to be somewhat shorter in length, which makes them ideal for indoor use. The snake whip is basically a bullwhip with a flexible handle, rather than the rigid one of the bullwhip. Experts like the black snake whip because it offers a lot of control; beginners prefer it because it is easier to master than a full-on bullwhip. The stock whip with its long handle is also easier to crack. But, for our basic overview, we will concentrate on the bullwhip.

When you purchase your first whip, we suggest you buy a fine kangaroo bullwhip. We do not advise buying the twelve-foot Indiana Jones model. Rather, a shorter whip, such as a four-to-six footer, is the way to go. You must also buy two sets of protective goggles – one for you and one for the submissive. You only have two eyes and you cannot risk an errant throw injuring one of them. Also, do not be unnerved when you hit yourself; that is part of the learning curve!

We would recommend you initially practice learning how to crack the whip. It is a wrist-based motion – much like casting a fishing line — that does not require a lot of strength. All it requires is a ton of practice. Maybe even several tons! Once you learn how to consistently crack the whip, you are ready to use it in a “mind fuck” scene. If you are playing in public, remember that a four foot whip requires AT LEAST a fourteen foot diameter safety circle — twice the length of the whip and six feet for your swinging arms — around you. Safety is paramount; the bullwhip is not to be taken lightly. Blindfold the submissive, tie her/him to the cross and crack the whip near her/him being careful not to hit the submissive. After a couple of scary cracks, you can then use your favorite implements – floggers, paddles, etc. – to continue your scene with. Even though you are not ready to use the bullwhip on the submissive, we guarantee the whip crack alone will add an adrenaline rush to any scene!

Now comes the hard part – throwing it perfectly enough to use on a submissive. This, technically, should not be part of any article; hands-on instruction by a “whip master” is the best way to go. But let’s give it a shot!

One great way to start perfecting your whip technique is to use a stuffed animal as your practice target. (No, not the $10,000 original Beanie Baby you were saving for your kid’s tuition!) In this way you can observe changes to the fur to see where your whip is striking. Another targeting concept is to use a pillow with cornstarch smoothed into it. This will help you gauge the impact of your strikes. But whatever target you use, you must practice, practice, practice. You must not only know where your whip will land, but also how hard the impact of a given throw is.

Before you even think about using a whip on a submissive, you must get to the point where you can crack the whip on the target perfectly. This can take months. After all, the bullwhip can really cause injury if it misses its mark. When you first start working with a submissive, we suggest you practice on one who is wearing leathers to protect her/himself – and aim for the butt. (Become an expert on hitting the butt before you aim for the back.) Always err on the side of safety – especially where whips are concerned. Of course, safety goggles and a safe word are essential.

Once you become an expert, you will find the whip is one of the most rush-producing toys we have in our BDSM arsenal. From the crack of the whip to the sting of the lash itself, it is S&M personified. It is not for everyone. It takes a lot of dedication and practice. But, it can be very rewarding.

Some important tips: If your cracker draws blood, throw it out and replace it. Ideally, you should replace it after every scene, blood or no blood. Care for your whips. They are expensive. Treat them like the fine leather tools that they are. Keep them clean, keep them dry and keep them supple with a good cream leather dressing such as Pecard’s.

Finally, and most importantly, never forget aftercare at the end of a single tail scene. It can be physically draining for the submissive and aftercare is absolutely essential.

By Baadmaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

How to “kink-up” your Valentines Day

February 8, 2016 By anniebear 1 Comment

February 14th is just around the corner! You know what that means, it’s the one time of year when vanillas go just a little kinky to spice up their bedroom habits! Out come the fuzzy handcuffs and edible lube but here at Kink Weekly, we can do better than that. In honor of the holiday that causes the most fights, proposals, and babies out of the whole year, we present five fun tips for “kinking” up your Valentines Day (suitable for both vanillas and kinksters alike!).

1. Pain can be pleasurable

While I’m a firm believer that most people are either born kinky or not, it can still be fun to explore some new limits. The most common techniques for beginners would be biting and light scratching of the skin. You can get a bit more technical with some nipples clamps-don’t be scared! With the right type of clamps, you can adjust for how much pressure is being applied. Communicate with your partner while you’re applying them. If they are scared, try the clamps on yourself first to show that your nipple does not in fact, fall off from clamp use. Follow up the clamps with some ice, which if you’re not expecting it can almost “hurt” at first.

2. Try some sensory deprivation

For those of you newbies out there-this means depriving your partner of their senses. This can be accomplished by use of a blindfold, ear plugs or ear buds with music, and bondage (you can touch things if you can’t move your arms) just to name a few. Some couples go all out with this theme, creating elaborate and intricate scenes to both terrify and titillate their partners. If this is new territory for you, start with the blindfold. You can still communicate with your partner and then build the scene with different elements from there. You can take advantage of your partner’s limited capacity to explore some sensual play. Use a feather or for the more daring, a light slapper or crop. It all comes in bits and pieces and what you both are comfortable with.

3. Have an open conversation about a fantasy you’ve always had

This all goes back to the open and honest communication we tout on a regular basis in our articles on Kink Weekly. We believe the biggest problem plaguing most mainstream relationships is a lack of honest communication. Instead, people often fall into a trap of not fully disclosing fantasies and desires for risk of judgment from their partner. Tis’ the Valentines season to throw that old and tired thinking out the window. Sit down with your partner and agree to put judgment on the backburner (or completely get rid of it!). Then disclose that deep, erotic fantasy you’ve always had. It doesn’t even have to be very elaborate. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to lick your partner’s feet or maybe you feel your breasts need more TLC the important part is to actually say this out loud and see what happens. No fantasy is too stupid or taboo. I bet you’ll be surprised by what your partner has been keeping from you. For those of you who may be in a heavy D/s relationship or just enjoy kink in the bedroom, this would be a good time to have a relationship inventory to make sure you are both on the same page or discover that your slave is super interested in something they may have seen at a dungeon or online.

4. Go someplace naughty together

This could be as simple as the local sex toy store or if you’re a regular BDSM
player, you and your partner could visit one of the more taboo parties or a swingers club. I know plenty of couples that just enjoy going and watching the “festivities.” In the end, you may find that it’s not for you but it’s fun to try new things with your significant other and will only strengthen the bond you share.

5. Play with food

I know what you’re thinking, zzzzzzzzzz (that’s you falling asleep while reading this). But hear me out! If you have not yet discovered, food can be one of the most erotic or humiliating scene accessories one can use. I mean, imagine being smacked across the face with a limp hot dog or having chocolate sauce licked from head to toe. Those ideas probably elicited very different responses form you. The ideas are limitless. Heavy scenes involving food elements are called “sploshing” –which is a new term to me. Lay out some plastic drop cloths on your bed and get down and dirty. You can make this an erotic experience by using foods you and your partner enjoy or if you really want to be a sadist, use foods that “hurt” like spicy peppers or things that smell terrible. This also gives you a chance to revert back to your childhood self because playing with food is fun! Sploshing also has the added advantage of just being able to hop in the shower when it’s all done. No permanent marks or bruising (though I’ve heard of ways that you could but that’s for another article).

For those of you celebrating, I hope you all have a fabulous Valentines Day with someone rad. We always want to hear about your adventures (and misadventures) so please let us know how it goes in the comments! xo- anniebear :)

Erotica: Alone in the hotel room

February 2, 2016 By Phi 2 Comments

I feel the burn and press the wand more firmly against my clit.

“They can come off as soon as you come.”

The wooden clothespins are fastened to my nipples, but it isn’t enough. After a week of this I’d grown accustomed to them and I found a way to level up. Now, the pins are firmly secured by the metal tong-like nipple clamps. I tug at the chain and my nipples burn.

“That’s it. Spread those whore legs. Show everybody. They can all see everything.”

Tug.

The pain is distracting and it’s harder to drive the orgasm onto the ledge. I move the wand around. Spread my legs wider.

“We could make it more interesting for them. Shove this dildo into your ass and make you hold it.”

I squirm. Tug.

“That’s it. Just come for me and off they come.”

The moan escapes me and echoes against the papered walls. “Just look at how beautifully you suffer.”

The build begins. The burn gives way to pleasure. Tug. Tug.

My knees quiver. My thighs spread wide. My pulse echoes in my head.

“That’s it. Come for me. Give it to me.”

As soon as it’s over the burn returns. I remember that it hurts. I drop the vibrator, still running and carefully remove the clamps and the pins. My release stings then becomes sweet again.

I reach back down and turn off the vibrator. It’s not much of a fight when the sleep takes over. I’m barely aware that it’s arrived.

A “goodnight” text rolls in.

“I was just thinking about you,” I text back with a sleepy smile.

Erotic fiction writer. Phi (pronounced “fee”) came into kink at early age and renewed her connection with the lifestyle in 2014 after a decade-long hiatus. A somewhat popular and undeniably avid blogger on fetlife.com under the name phi-is-me, she lives in the suburb of a suburb in southern California with two cats and six pillows.

2016 BDSM Events

January 5, 2016 By anniebear 7 Comments

UPDATE: Take a look at the comments section for even more events from our readers!

I’m personally extremely excited about this year’s activities! From coast to coast and around the world, it seems our kinky cohorts are pulling out all of the stops and presenting some super intriguing events for 2016! I wanted to compile a list for everyone to enjoy. A lot of these happen to occur in Los Angeles which is arguably a mecca of kinky activity but we’d love to hear about major BDSM events in your neck of the woods so make sure to let us know via email or in the comments below. I’ll be updating this list throughout the year.

JANUARY

Adult Video News Awards a.k.a. The AVNs
Originally reserved for porn stars and adult entertainment enthusiasts, this event now boasts a whole area for BDSM and kink education. Live performances by some of the best kink entertainers can be viewed as well as BDSM after parties. This event brings together all aspects of sex positive with the merging of kink, adult entertainment, and swingers.

FEBRUARY

Sin in the City
This Las Vegas event hosts the International Person of Leather contest but if that’s not your thing there is much much more. There’ll be workshops, socials, and of course play parties!

Dominant Training Series
Master Gabriel will be hosting the very first Dominant Training Series at Sanctuary LAX. This multi-series class will cover many subject on dominance and the skill sets there within. Are you an experienced Dom? This series will give you some eye opening new perspectives you may have never considered. You’re never too experienced to stop learning!

Westcoast Bound
Vancouver has a strong kink community. Join them and many other folks from around the world for Westcoast Bound. This event has multiple tracks for those with differing experience and skill levels and of course, play parties!

MARCH

Kinkfest 2016
Portland, Oregon will host this annual kinky convention. This is an all encompassing event covering many areas and orientations of kink. Vendors will be showing their wares in addition to a line up of classes.

MAY

DomCom LA
This is exactly what it sounds like; a convention for everything BDSM related. Hosted by Sanctuary LAX and some of the hottest FemDoms in the world, this event has everything you can think of including classes, vendors, a human pony show, and much much more! Make sure to come by and say hello to Dexx and anniebear at the Kink Weekly booth.

Frolicon
An Atlanta based convention-this educational oriented event hosts different creative tracks to choose from. Not just for BDSM, this is a melting pot of creativity and personal expression and the choice is up to you for which one you’ll decide on!

Camp Crucible
Though I have not yet attended, Camp Crucible has me extremely excited! It’s kinky camp, it can’t get better than that. Based in the woods in a secret location outside Washington D.C., this camp for adults hosts classes, games, auctions, and more! Clothing is optional and you can come for all or part of this nine day event.

AUGUST

Equus Pony Show
This event hosted by submissann is a dedicated human pony play competition. Come view all of the pony’s and their handlers as they compete for the top prize ribbon! Curious about pony play? This is a great event to watch experienced pony players in action.

Let us know about major kink events in your area!

Five Kinky Toys for My X-Mas Vacation

December 21, 2015 By Desdemona 2 Comments

I’m taking anniebear to Mexico for five nights over the Christmas holiday. So as I pack, I thought I’d share with you the five toys that are getting packed in the suitcase to keep us entertained. Sneak preview – I found some pretty unique new toys at Edgeplay Gear that I’ll be test driving. If you want to snag some for yourself, don’t forget to enter promo code “kinkweekly” during checkout to get a 10% discount.

Cat Claw Skin Scratcher

The great thing about this is that it can be used for very different effects. Stroke it lightly along the skin and you have some incredible sensation play on your hands (literally). It causes the whole body to tingle and draws the bottom into a state of warm fluffy desire and anticipation. Pull a little harder along the skin and they will know you mean business as it becomes a scratchy painful sensation. Push hard enough again and you could draw blood – so make sure to keep it sterilized and only do that if you have negotiated it for your play. Can also produce some interesting sensations with a poking motion instead of scratching. Bonus effects when used on pink sensitive areas.

Hands up! Suction cups

It’s bondage Jim, but not as we know it. If you fancy having your lover helpless at your mercy in the shower, then look no further. The great thing about shower bondage is that all those dirty, messy things you wanted to do but didn’t want to ruin the sheets suddenly become so much more appealing. Like smearing her in peanut butter, for instance. Or dousing her in olive oil and yourself in balsamic and making sweet, sweet vinaigrette. Too weird? Ok fine, just turn the shower on her and alternate between hot and cold until she begs you to do whatever you want her to beg you to do.

Lead them by the nose shackle and leash kit

Did somebody say nose play? No really, did somebody say that? No – it was just me… oh, ok. Well, there’s something particularly humbling about a submissive being led by her (or indeed his) nose. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but it’s at least a little bit piggy-ish, don’t you think? Put her in a loose hog tie and make her squirm around and make oinking noises, perhaps. Add some drinking from a trough, and some rolling around in the mud, and you’ve got yourself a pretty damn awesome pet play scene. Simultaneous bacon frying optional.

Forced Orgasm Belt

OK, so the premise here is pretty simple. The hitachi gets held right on the subject’s fun bits. The powerful vibrations wash over them as their pesky arms and legs are suitably restrained. Helpless to resist, an orgasm builds, and builds, and arrives! Moans, screams, curling toes… But the vibration doesn’t stop. Damn, make it stop, it’s so sensitive… ahh, ahh…. Ohhhh. And then it starts to build again. Another orgasm, how can this be?

And so on, orgasm after orgasm, punctuated with the agony of post-orgasm vibration torture in between.

The great thing is that, once the Dom has set this up and switched it on, very little effort is required. So you can focus your efforts on kissing, or caressing, or heck – maybe a little pain to accompany that pleasure. Or you can just blindfold her and sit back and enjoy the view. And let’s face it, with this particular toy, the sub pretty much has to be a “her”.

Stainless Steel Lips and tongue press

No… F-ing… way. I’m still processing this thing. Is it really what it appears to be? Is it devious, maniacal, diabolical? Ingenious, incredible, amazing?

OK, I’m going to be honest now. Of all of the toys I’m writing about, I haven’t actually tried this one yet. But I stumbled across it online and sat gaping in awe, trying to decipher the fleshy protrusions – what was lips, what was tongue? Made of pure metal and dominance, this is an object of awe and alien beauty.

I can only imagine the special brand of gag-talk that this bad boy will produce.

anniebear had better watch out, because a jolly fat man in a UPS sleigh just delivered this and it has her name written all over it.

Writer, photographer, hedonist, Dom. After years of at-home BDSM, Dexx finally embraced the kink community and met many fantastic fellow kinksters in the scene. Along the way, it occurred to him that it would be just super if there was a magazine-style web site which catered to people interested in BDSM, and he recruited some of his friends to help create it.

Kinky Stocking Stuffers for Christmas

December 14, 2015 By anniebear 2 Comments

Stocking Stuffers for Kinky Christmas

Ho, ho, ho! anniebear the elf, assistant to Santa Dexx here to offer some naughty stocking stuffers, just in time for the holidays! Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you if your Top/Dominant happens to read this and buys these torture pleasure devices for a happy new year! We know it’s for your own good ☺ You can also get 10% off each of these items by clicking the link and using “kinkweekly” at checkout.

I present to you my top five picks for a very kinky Christmas:

1. BEGINNER HOG TIE SYSTEM

I’m a big fan of being bound! While a hog tie is not for the weak (make sure to test flexibility and range of motion prior to attempting for safety!), it gets the job done by entirely immobilizing your willing victim. The ingenious center connector is the perfect way to detain and torture. This is a great substitute if you’re not an expert rope rigger.

2. LOCKING STEEL FEMALE CHASTITY BELT

Though it won’t fit in a stocking, I couldn’t leave this beauty off of the list. Dexx surprised me with one of these…and by surprised I mean I was horrified, humiliated, and turned on. Like the chastity belts of centuries past, this modern day version is sure to keep your pet in check. No way to let fingers wander and permission must be asked before being able to use the restroom. The sky is the limit! It comes in sizes small-large and has a rubber trim for “comfort.” Have no fear, there is a version for men as well! We don’t want anyone to feel left out!

3. OPEN MOUTH GAG

I’m a big fan of this style of gag. If you have a bottom who is worried about suffocation or someone who is not used to gags, this is a great compromise. It also has the added bonus of creating an excess of drool (you know, if you’re into that) because of the open front. I also prefer this style as opposed to a spider gag because they look scary. Remember to use alternative forms of safe “words” when your partner is unable to talk such as hand signals.

4. MIGHTY MAGNETIC ORBS

All I can say is ouch! These guys pack a punch. Anything that can hold itself onto your nipples with the power of magnets is not going to feel like a massage-though legend has it, there are masochists out there who thoroughly enjoy this sensation and have a much higher pain threshold than this little brat. These are super for nipple torture punishment and are so darn cute and cozy that they’ll slide right into that stocking.

5. HEART TIP CROP

I’m in love! Personally, I think this crop is suitable for all sexual orientations. Who wouldn’t want to leave little love marks all over their partners behind? This crop is perfect for beginners or advanced players as the striking distance and weight can be easily adjusted depending on your partner’s experience and comfort level. You’ll need to trick wrap this stocking stuffer so the surprise doesn’t get spoiled. Or blindfold your partner and surprise them Christmas morning with some love whacks!

Any of these naughty presents can be yours and more at Edge Play Gear. Make sure to use “kinkweekly” at checkout for 10% off. Our present to you!

The 99 Cent Store BDSM Catalog

December 14, 2015 By Baadmaster 2 Comments

As the holiday gift-giving season empties our wallets, many of us (at least those without a helicopter) don’t have extra cash for expensive BDSM toys. Is the five hundred dollar Violet Wand outside your budget? Is the three hundred dollar Gallagher Custom knife beyond your reach? Is the two hundred dollar flogger now out of the question? Have no fear, Kink Weekly is here – with the solution!

As most of you know, there is a chain of “99 Cents” and “Dollar” type stores where everything costs a dollar or less. And there are lots of these “buck and under” stores all over the country. Many of the items sold at these stores can be used – or adapted for use – in BDSM and fetish scenes. And at these prices, you can stock up on toys – without making a dent in your budget!

So here it is (drum roll)…Kink Weekly’s spanking new holiday catalog of “dollar and under” BDSM toys.

Spring-loaded paper clips — The small ones make great nipple clamps, the larger ones…wow!!!

Hair brushes — Great for spanking on flat side, light torture on the bristle side.

Rubber bands — Great for nipple play and CBT.

Wooden clothespins — Buy a hundred of ‘em for a buck and go to town.

Plastic clothespins — Style conscious? Play in style with multi-colored plastic clothespins.

Miniature plastic clothespins — Neat, huh?

Duct tape – the ole’ BDSM stand-bye. And it comes in colors too!

Loofah sponges — The “use anywhere” abrasive tool. Just rub on nipples, clit or balls…OWWIE!!!

Spatulas — Spatulas make great BDSM toys. The slave can also use them to make breakfast.

Knives — Stainless steel knives of surprisingly good quality are occasionally available here. How can that be? One, they are closeouts. Two, they are made in China (as is most of the stuff in these stores.) If blister packed, sterilize, use once, then throw away!

Wooden spoons — These make great natural paddles! A few bucks and you can be the Spoon Master/Mistress!

Cutting boards — These also make great paddles. The plastic ones often come in colors!

Rolling pins – An exceptional torment device for under a dollar.

C-clamps – Paired with wooden clothespins, this scene’s budget comes in at under two bucks. 0% financing available.

Pickle pinchers — Used to pick up pickles, can be used to pinch a submissive in interesting places!

Funnels — If you ever pay more than a buck for a funnel, you should wear one on your head! Great for funnel play (duh)!

Candles — The cheap candles are the best and a Benjamin here makes you the King or Queen of Wax Play! Smart to buy a bunch of dollar-store candles for future use.

Plastic curtain liners — These are great to put on your bed when you play with hot wax. The dollar-store variety are usually butt-ugly, but what the heck? Use once and throw away.

Bottle brushes — Yikes! The old bottle brush. Less than a buck for this tool of terror!

Dog food bowls — Also available at the pet shop. Other low priced items that duplicate the pet store but are sometimes available at the Dollar type stores include leashes, dog collars, etc.

Karabiners — These nifty devices are spring-loaded links that can be put together to form a chain of any length. They usually come in packs of three for a buck at these places. Simply awesome!

Baby pacifiers – Age play, humiliation, punishment…this is the toy of a thousand uses.

Sandpaper — The choice of the Masters for abrasion play! Whether purchased here or at a hardware store, you get a lot of bang for your buck with sandpaper.

Steel wool — Steel wool, without the soap in them, is a another great abrasion play toy.

Scotchbrite – Here is another cool abrasive for less than the magical dollar. Steel wool sans the steel.

Mousetraps — Generally available in five-packs, one buck gets you a whole night of great scening. They look a lot more sadistic than they are. Open carefully, apply gently. Never snap them.

Enema supplies — Although the pre-packaged Fleet-type enemas line these stores’ shelves, we have seen more exotic enema equipment here from time to time.

Rope — Rope is generally the fiefdom of the Home Depot type store (where Fifty Shades’ hardware store Goddess worked!), but pre-packaged nylon rope can be found at these “buck and under” emporiums. The selection is shoddy; use only as a truly last resort.

Role-play Items — The “toy department” has costume-y stuff you can use in cosplay games. Toy paddles, jumping rope and age-play accessories abound here. Even some funky blindfolds can be discovered here.

Icy Hot — Some Dommes I know swear by Icy Hot. The actual brand is pretty inexpensive at a retail drug store. But you can save a couple of dollars by buying the generic here. If you use a lot, it might pay!

Self-heating pads — These hot pads can be awesome when put on the right spot at the right time. Here at the right price!

Hair clips — Dollar store hair clips can be put to a zillion uses!

Feather dusters — What a fun toy!

Rubber gloves — The toy of a thousand uses. Although I cannot think of any!

Alligator clips — All kinds of neat clips can be found here in the “auto/hardware” departments.

Plastic locking pliers — My personal favorite. A cheap knock-off of metal locking pliers, they come in a variety of sizes, including “mini-me,” and are much lighter than their metal cousins. Great for nipple play and all sorts of BDSM fun. Although sometimes hard to find, when you do, you have hit the jackpot! Truly the toy star of the Dollar type stores.

Supplies — Cotton swabs, disinfectant wipes, alcohol, band-aids, baby oil, betadine swabs and other generic pharmacy supplies line the shelves at these bargain stores. Wet wipes are great for wiping down equipment at the dungeon after you use it. But don’t buy lube or condums here. Get the real deal!

Not all of these items are available all of the time at these stores. These dollar-type places tend to be catch-as-catch-can affairs. But as you wander the aisles, the only limit is your imagination. Remember, a dowel to one person is a cane to another!

It is probably impossible to make a complete listing of “BDSM-for-a-buck” toys. So, if any of you have found additional items, I would like to hear from you. I will add it to this ever-evolving “catalog.”

By the way, this catalog, too, is under a buck!

After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.