Marking in BDSM

“Marking,” in our lifestyle, is a very broad term. It can refer to the temporary marks of the cane, it might mean writing something like “Master’s Slave” with a Sharpie or it could mean a tattoo or brand of ownership. The technicalities of all three differ widely; but the implications of all of them are quite similar. Temporary markings are usually caused by the use of a … [Read more...]

Bastinado: Foot Caning

As we noted in last week’s installment on fisting, we are kink weekly – thus we cover all aspects of debauchery. One kinky play – and one that has a very shallow learning curve while being incredibly effective – is the “bastinado.” Bastinado was originally a Spanish word for the act of caning, in the literal sense of beating with a stick or similar implement. It is … [Read more...]

Joining the Kink Community

Discovering the world of kink can be a fabulous and overwhelming experience. So where do you go? What do you do? This can be especially nerve wracking if you are coming in like I did - unpartnered and clueless. In my opinion Fetlife is the best way to find events in the scene. Most event coordinators will promote there whether or not they promote elsewhere. So the … [Read more...]

Domination Without Humiliation

With the proliferation of Pro Dommes on the Internet, one would think Domination always entails humiliation. Granted, the Pro Domme community might be the one group that is keeping the traditional protocols of BDSM alive – surely the “Fifty Shades” Millennials are not doing it. Nevertheless, to the casual observer, it would appear that humiliation is an integral part of all Fem … [Read more...]

BDSM Scene Ideas: The Interrogation

I’m a big fan of getting creative with BDSM play. Rope is great, and impact is fine, but what I love most is power exchange, and putting some thought and preparation into creating a great scene can go a long way towards heightening that dynamic. In this article I’m going to describe one of my favorite scenarios – The Interrogation. It borrows from the genre of captured spy, … [Read more...]