Sensual Domination with Goddess Victoria
Beautiful blonde bombshell shows us what she is truly capable of. We can’t wait to play with her sometime soon!
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The Alluring Mistresses of PKK Photography
Photography by Phil Kehoe aka PKK-Photography.
Phil started in the photographic trade when he was 19 working on professional darkrooms in London. He has had the pleasure of working with some of the best in the trade they taught him a lot of things. One of the greatest lessons he’s learned is that as a photographer you are always learning something new, a new style, lighting technique etc. He started shooting when he was 21 getting his first camera then working mostly in black and white. He used to spend hours just walking around London taking images then having the fun of processing and printing them. Working at the time for professional photographers and people who then had been in the trade a long time he learned his trade skills fast and discovered his love of concert photography which he did for many years. He had the luck of being published in Metal Hammer and Kerrang magazines on a few occasions.
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Get Your Own Damn Coffee!!!
From time to time I will answer provocative BDSM/kink questions instead of my usual opinion articles. Here is one that I found particularly unique.
I am a male submissive who has been given a training collar by my Mistress. I love serving her sexually, as a pain slut and as a house slave. But lately, she has gotten into diapering me, treating me like a baby and using me as furniture. Although at first I liked the experimentation, I have now grown to dread these activities. I have told Mistress my feelings, but she takes it as a challenge and insists on doing these activities even more than before. What should I do?
In all aspects of life, be it vanilla, unvanilla or anything in between, the operational word is compromise. Unless you are the one in a million person where everything dovetails perfectly with your partner, there are areas where you will have to give and take. To a casual observer of the world of submission, compromise is not apparent since the sub appears to gladly do all things required of him/her. On closer examination, however, the submissive is usually compromising – even if this concession is unconscious or instinctual. There is a line I often use in my live presentations where I say that submissives often think to themselves, “Get your own fucking cup of coffee” when they are required to get their Master/Mistress some java on a cold winter’s morning. Usually this is just a passing semi-rebellious thought that is quickly dismissed. After all, to express it verbally would jeopardize the relationship. But, that does not mean the compromising aspect of the early morning coffee run is illusory. It is real. It is in the execution of the task and the acknowledgment of the compromise and sacrifice that separates the real life interaction of a D/s couple and the fictional “never having to compromise” basis of an idealized, imaginary Master/slave construct.
Thus, the fact that you are having service conflicts is proof that your relationship is grounded in reality. Pushing limits and exploring new territories is part of your Domme’s task. If she only asked for things that you will readily do anyway, she is not really being Dominant. This is what I have called, in a previous kink weekly article, “Coca-Cola Dominance.” Demanding that your submissive only drinks Coke when she already likes it is not Dominance. Thus, you must expect your limits to be pushed and tested if you are in a true D/s partnership. Submission without compromise is not submission at all.
That compromise is the currency of all relationships does not mean that it cannot have deleterious effects on the union. Clearly, when compromise becomes painful and is required so often that is destroys the joy of serving, the relationship is put into peril. This is where the Domme must be experienced. You state, “…I have now grown to dread these activities. I have told Mistress my feelings…” You have done your best. In essence, there is nothing more that you can do. The ball is now in your Mistress’ court.
Think of your Mistress as the Captain of a ship. But as opposed to being on a ship, where rebellion is mutiny, your service is voluntary. A good Mistress knows this and listens to her slave, weighs in all the factors and then decides upon the course she would plot. It comes down to her, not you. If she pushes you to the point where the overall arc of your service is moving into the area of unhappiness, you have the right to ask for your release.
I would make your concerns doubly clear to your Domme. Do not soft-pedal your dread of certain activities. This is not topping from the bottom. It is communication – the bedrock of all human activities. If your Domme continues to push you way past your compromise limit, you can leave.
Hopefully, she will throttle back on demands that jeopardize your service, After all, a sexual slave, a pain slut and a house slave all rolled into one is hard to find. Hopefully, she will realize that and not risk the relationship. On the other hand, if you ask for your release, you will probably have little trouble finding a new Mistress. After all, you do have a lot to offer any Domme!
By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.
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Video: Spanking Play with Liz
I love the aesthetic of this video. I’m personally a fan of the hairbrush spanking. We hope you enjoy what Liz has to say! -Dexx
Photography: Mistress Porcelain Midnight, Continued
Photographer: Vice Erotica Model: Mistress Porcelain Midnight and Vic
Mistress Porcelain dominates in part two of our photography series. In case you missed it the first time, here is part one. Enjoy!
Photography: Mistress Thorn
Photographer: Dexx Model: Mistress Thorn
Los Angeles-based pro Dominatrix Thorn Kelly is a not to be trifled with. Don’t let her youthful beauty deceive you – she is an experienced lifestyle dominatrix who trained under some of California’s most well-known Dommes. Mistress Thorn will take great pleasure in tying you, teasing you, and subjecting you to her will. I sure had fun shooting these pics with her at the beautiful Ivy Manor in downtown LA. To find out more about Mistress Thorn, or to contact her, visit her web site: www.thornkelly.com.
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Domestic Bliss from Duke
Elita Darling breaking in her new submissive companion.
Bottoming From the Top
This article is addressed to the more advanced Masters/Mistresses among you, especially those who are involved in – or want to be involved in – Master/slave relationships. As opposed to many of my other articles, this one is mostly my own personal opinion. You might or might not agree with my observations; but I am presenting it as food for thought. (For the purposes of this article, I will use Master, Mistress, Dom, Domme, slave and submissive interchangeably. I have covered in kinkweekly.com – and will cover in more detail – the differences between these terms.)
On the surface, Master/slave relationships seem pretty simple. But the dynamics of maintaining them can be a bit tricky. In previous articles, I have addressed the many common problems of maintaining BDSM relationships. Here I will discuss a more obscure problem I have noticed in some Master/slave relationships. I call it “bottoming from the Top.”
In any relationship, be it vanilla, D/s or M/s, both participants want it to work. This seems pretty obvious. But how you make it work is the trick. Theoretically, in a Master/slave relationship, the Master requests, the slave obeys — within, of course, the negotiated limits. And except for times when the Master makes an asinine demand outside those limits — like the “bus question” (below) — this should work just fine.
(For those of you unfamiliar with the “bus question,” which I referred to in a previous kinkweekly.com article, I will repeat it here:
The infamous BDSM question, “Would you walk in front of a bus if your Master ordered you to?” is usually answered, “Yes, but Master would never ask me to do it.” That is fine in theory. It sounds good. It works great online. But in reality, ask your submissive to walk in front of a bus and the answer will be “F*ck you, Asshole.” Notice, the word Master was quickly replaced by Asshole. Make a demand that can’t be honored, control can disappear in a N.Y. minute.)
But the obverse of making insane demands — “bottoming from the Top– can create problems, too. In this scenario, the Master/Mistress only asks for things they know the bottom will like or are easy to execute. “Master orders you to drink Coke, not Pepsi.” If this is done occasionally, then there will be few problems. It is when the Master/Mistress is constantly skewing his/her requests in such a way to please the slave that problems arise. Being a “Coca-Cola Dom,” as I put it, eats into the dynamics of the relationship and takes the “top” out of the Top. There must be some challenge for the submissive; predictability and dullness are not what BDSM should be about..
So why is “bottoming from the Top” as widespread as I have observed? Most times I have noticed this is done out of fear of upsetting the relationship; fear that if the Master screws up and asks for something the slave will refuse to do, he will lose the relationship. It is a totally justified and human fear and a hard one to overcome. To a greater or lesser degree, this fear is always present in any relationship. But being a Master or Mistress requires the ability to work around this tendency.
Naturally, a Master/Mistress should not ask for things that the slave would find abhorrent, even if not pre-negotiated as a hard limit. On the other hand, the Master should not be constantly thinking of only “what the slave will like.”
Ideally, Master/slave means the Master asks without guile, without over-thinking the request and without skewing his/her demands out of fear that the given request will not be precisely what the slave wants.
The closer you can come to this ideal — and it is an ideal — the closer you will come to a solid Master/slave relationship.
By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.
Slave Contracts: Part One
“The elephant in the room.” You’ve heard that expression a million times. For us at Kink Weekly, the “elephant in the room” is Fifty Shades of Grey. It has brought a kinda-sorta BDSM consciousness to the masses; its effects, both good and bad, cannot be ignored. This article will not address the pros and cons of this film, but rather it will expand on one of the most discussed aspect of it – slave contracts. While BDSM styles, protocols and rituals come and go, slave contracts endure. Slave contracts, to this day, are an integral part of many D/s and BDSM relationships. Why?
First, they are sexy. One cannot get hotter than a paragraph that says, “I will devote myself completely and totally to the pleasure and desires of my Master…”
Second, they remind the Dom/me and the sub of their duties during the term of the contract.
Third, they do render a small amount of legal protection were issues of consent to arise. (One cannot legally consent to being beaten; but a contract with the word “consensual” in it can mitigate some legal concerns.)
Finally, they are fun.
As an exclusive to Kink Weekly, we have compiled a number of slave contracts. After all, one size does NOT fit all. Surely, with the selection we are presenting, you will find a template that fits your needs. And remember, these contracts are subject to negotiation!
This first contract is the one I use. It is not open ended, has some great general rules and contains a safe word. (Although some High Protocol Masters eschew the safe word, I always use it.) This contract covers a lot of the bases – especially addressing “Work Rules of Conduct.” And the “I” is in lower case to reinforce submission!
Master/Mistress and Slave
Of my own free will and out of a desire to express my love and devotion to the man (woman) i love and adore, i offer myself in slavery to my Master for the period beginning on __________ and ending at noon on_____________.
Although i consider myself to be slave full-time to Master, during the time period expressed above, i will devote myself completely and totally to the pleasure and desires of my Master, without hesitation or consideration of myself or others.
General Rules
The slave agrees to obey her Master in all respects. his/her mind, body, heart and time belong to Him . The slave accepts the responsibility of using her safe word (red!) or safe signal (to be agreed upon) when necessary, and trusts implicitly in her Master to respect the use of that safe word. If a condition arises in which the slave needs to use the safe word or gesture, her Master will assess the situation, and determine an appropriate course of action.
The slave shall keep her body available for the use of her Master at all times. In addition, the slave agrees that her Master possesses the right to determine whether others can use her body and what use they may put it to. The Master will discuss all such instances in advance with the slave, to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits. The slave shall demonstrate her acceptance of her role of service and availability at all times while at home and at other times and places specified by her Master. The slave acknowledges that her Master may use her body or mind in any manner He wishes within the parameters of safety. He may hurt her without reason to please Himself. The slave enjoys the right to cry, scream or beg, but accepts the fact that these heartfelt expressions will not affect her treatment. Further, she accepts that if her Master tires of her noise, he may gag her or take other actions to silence her.
The slave will answer any questions put to her honestly and directly, and will volunteer any information her Master should know about her physical or emotional condition. While her Master expects His slave to speak honestly and forth rightly about anything that bothers her, she is not to interpret that as permission to whine or complain. she will phrase her concerns politely and respectfully, and then gracefully accept her Master’s judgment in these matters without further complaint.
The slave will always speak of her Master in terms of love and respect. She will address him at all times as either “Master” or “Sir” (see Public Rules of Conduct).
The Master may give the slave “free periods” in His presence during which the slave may express herself openly and freely. There will be no punishments applied during “free periods.” It is understood, however, that the slave will continue to address her Master with respect and love at all times and that deviations from the rule are subject to punishment at a later time.
The slave agrees that severe punishment may be assessed for any infraction of the letter or spirit of the contract, and will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment shall be at the Master’s pleasure, and the Master shall make it clear to the slave that she is being punished when punishment occurs. The Master shall endeavor not to inflict physical harm upon the slave that might require the attention of anyone outside the relationship. Master and slave agree that in extremes either may activate a free period by using the safe word. The free period will continue until both parties agree that the problem(s) concerned are resolved.
The slave is permitted to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by the contract or by later edict of the Master. All rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to the Master, and He may exercise them as He chooses.
Private Rules of Conduct
On days when her Master is at work, the slave will greet Him wearing her collar, wrist restraints, and a shirt belonging to her Master. She will wear no underclothes in His presence unless given permission. On days when the Master is home, the slave will wear whatever is deemed appropriate by her Master. When in the same room as her Master, the slave will ask permission before leaving the room, explain where she is going, and why. At mealtimes, the slave will serve her Master, and sit at His feet while He eats. Food for the slave will be given by the Master at His discretion. When speaking to her Master or being spoken to by Him, the slave will assume a demeanor of alert attention and will meet her Master’s eyes directly, unless instructed to do otherwise.
Public Rules of Conduct
The slave will conduct herself at all times in such a manner as to not call attention to Master and slave. she will call her Master/Mistress by His/Her name only if the use of “Master” is inappropriate. The slave will defer to her Master in public. The slave may dress herself, but must seek approval of any clothing she wishes to wear in public. Unless specifically stated otherwise, the slave may not wear panties.
Work Rules of Conduct
No part of the agreement is intended to interfere with the slave’s career. The Master wishes the slave to work hard and honestly, in general to conduct herself in a manner calculated to bring honor and respect to them both. During periods of work, the slave is permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary. During periods of work, the slave may answer the telephone and discuss business without the expressed permission of her Master. With my signature below, i agree to accept and obey all preceding rules as well as any rules my Master may choose to issue at a later date. i gratefully consign by body and soul to my Master for His pleasure and use for the contract period noted above.
_____________________________________________ slave __________________ Date
I accept My slave’s desire to serve Me more fully, and take responsibility for her well-being, training and discipline to more perfectly serve My will.
_________________________________________ Master/Mistress _________________ Date
For those of you who wish a shorter, more general and yet more sexually based slave contract, I offer the following:
Slave Contract
This contract sets out the conditions of mutual consent under which _________________________ is to be held in sexual bondage and the terms of her enslavement.
Of my own free will, I offer myself in slavery to my Master/Mistress for the period beginning on __________ and ending at noon on_____________.
This contract also affirms that she/he shall be offered the use of a safe word (safe word: _______), the use of which in any situation whatsoever automatically stops any activity at that time.
Slave also has the right to cancel any and all conditions of this contract at any time.
Conditions:
I accept sexual use and abuse of my body while under discipline for any purpose.
I accept that I shall be placed in and kept under strict discipline within the negotiated time limit.
I accept any form of punishment meted out to me while under discipline.
I accept any form of restraint and chastisement, administered as Master desires.
I accept that the various forms of torment to which I am to be subjected may cause suffering. I wish it to be known through this document that I am aware that any such suffering is part of my training program.
I accept that I am subject to the absolute rule of my Master and those to whom he delegates that rule. This may be taken to mean that I am subject to sale, exchange, or loan without redress to those of corresponding status with my Master, but only within the context of this contract.
I accept that subtle rebellion is expected of me, and lack of it taken to the point of docility is likely to terminate this contract.
I accept that no form of disobedience will be tolerated when in the company of my Master, other Masters or Mistresses and slaves and that I must conduct myself precisely as instructed on each specific occasion.
I accept that I remain under the disciplinary code imposed by this contract at all times and am bound by it’s terms and conditions in all situations, whether closely supervised or not.
I _________________________, do set my signature to this document of my own free will, thus becoming the property of _____________________________, in full understanding that I may be used for any sexual or disciplinary purpose whatsoever, without prior limits.
SIGNED: _____________________________________ slave Date: ____________
SIGNED: _____________________________________ Master Date: ____________
Next week, we will be presenting two more slave contracts, one of which will include collaring. With this selection, we hope you
can find the right slave contract for your relationship.
By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.