How About A Little Personal Responsibility Here?

I am going to start this off by dispelling some rumors, and I am sure people may get upset with me, but oh well. So be it. We all came to like kink because we "Chose" to participate. I know, what a concept, right? I know you are all nodding your heads right now. Now, here is where I get myself into trouble. Whatever role you decided to be was a "Choice". Don't make me bold … [Read more...]

This week in kink: September 10, 2018

Don't miss Back To School Camp: Submissive Edition event happening this Sept 15 1:30-5:30 at Lair de Sade! Classes, crafts, food, raffles, and more! More info on the event page: Buy your tickets now! The Kink Community, like any other community, has its own language and its own … [Read more...]

BDSM Burnout

As many of my readers know – and many here at – I am in a long-term D/s relationship. Although we are talking more than seven years, it has not been a totally smooth ride. As with all relationships, arguments, tension and boredom enter when you least expect them. That is the bad news. The good news is that – as opposed to vanilla dynamics – it is much easier to … [Read more...]


Brian Vox- In a previous edition of, Slave Bunny offered a terrific piece ( ) on rituals. Since rituals in BDSM are extremely important, I thought I might present some additional thoughts that illustrate how essential they are in our lifestyle. To paraphrase some football … [Read more...]

A Special Treat for Donna: Part 3

Click here for Part 1 Click here for Part 2 As we sat back and languidly sipped our drinks, a series of attractive young men summoned the courage to approach and ask to join us.  Madame had the ones she approved sit close to me so I could go to work on them. This was my night to be a bad girl without fear of provoking Madame.  I had full permission to flirt and tease … [Read more...]