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BDSM Scene Idea: Diaper Play

January 16, 2017 By anniebear 5 Comments

This scene idea could be listed under the category of “taboo play” because depending on the person, it dances along the lines of age play and infantilism which frankly can freak some people out who have very little experience or knowledge on the subject. Just remember to withhold any negative judgment, bearing in mind that what is taboo for one may be normal for another as long as it’s done in a safe, sane, and consensual manner.

For these scene tips, I’m going to use diaper play as a form of humiliation with a little bit of age play in the mix. There are those who enjoy going into full baby play mode but that is not the main source for this article and is not something I personally have experience with.

Diaper play as a form of humiliation
While you can purchase themed adult diapers that come in many colors or patterns, a good old standard is the adult diaper aisle at your local convenience store. In fact, you can send your submissive on an errand to purchase a pack for themselves! If you’re slightly less sadistic, you can order them online and “surprise” your submissive when you introduce this element to the scene.

Nothing spells embarrassment for me like having to wear a diaper in public. Picture if you will, a female submissive getting all dressed up in her finest lingerie, applying makeup, styling hair, arriving at a public dungeon or play party, only to be instructed to strip down and put on an adult diaper. My cheeks are red as I write this. The submissive is then lead around the party, perhaps by a leash for all to see and comment upon-under the direction of the dominant of course! Telling her she is a “good girl” and that she’s “being brave walking around all by herself” and similar sentiments touch on the fringes of “little” play but are not necessarily going full boar with it. If your submissive enjoys the littles headspace, by all means, keep going with it. Diaper play can be a sort of “gateway” to discovering a deeper level of trust and play between you and your partner.

You can also administer spankings or any other type of play whilst they are wearing their diaper. It’s all part of the fun!

Diaper play as a form of humiliation
I recommend trying this idea in the privacy of your home. Instruct your submissive to drink several bottles of water in a short period of time. You can do this while you leisurely watch TV together or maybe when you’re out and about. Once you want to begin the scene, “dress” your submissive up in their diaper. You can always place them in a punishment timeout. We are lucky enough to have a human cage on hand but a dog crate or even just seated on the floor in a corner will do. I think you see where this is going. The average person will eventually need to use the restroom after drinking a lot of water. If your sub asks to use the restroom, tell them they conveniently have the diaper on and can go right where they are! This does one of two things: creates humiliation and regret for ever needing punishment in the first place and also making the sub feel quite low because they are in fact, peeing themselves. For this form of punishment, it cannot get any worse than that.

These are just some basic starting points for introducing diaper play into your scenes. It’s not for everyone and as always, make sure to negotiate any new scene elements with your partner. I’m personally a fa of trying wacky (to me) new things in scene but others prefer a more traditional route. You also don’t want to accidentally land on a trigger.

Happy diapering!

anniebear is a submissive living with her partner Dexx in Los Angeles. She enjoys writing, modeling for friends, animal rescue, and teaching herself how to cook. You can catch her on Fetlife or Facebook.

Free the Nipples with BDSM

December 12, 2016 By anniebear 8 Comments

We’re big fans of less censorship at Kink Weekly, but this article is about a bit more than that! The nipples are one of the most highly sensitive erogenous zones in both women AND men. While we do pay close attention to this area when we scene, I think we can go outside the box and do a bit better than run of the mill nipple clamps. So, I present to you some fresh (and probably some old) ideas for spicing up your nipple play. Also keep in mind that many (but not all) of these ideas can double as genital clamps/torture as well. We love toys that do double duty!

Nipple Clamps
Yes, I know I just said these are so “average” but this is the best place to start your nipple adventures! Clamps range from gentle to “holy crap my nipple is going to fall off” and everywhere in between. It’s also good to keep in mind that it often hurts the most once the clamp is removed and the blood rushes back into the nipple. I learned this the hard way as a newbie, much to the glee of my play partner at the time.

Clothespins
The proverbial “poor man’s” nipple clamps; wooden or plastic, these can range in intensity depending on the material and tightness of spring. I love clothespins not only because they are thrifty but they are also disposable and easy to replace. Keep in mind that the unfinished wood clothespins are porous and cannot be thoroughly cleaned as easily if they come in contact with bodily fluids.

Nipple Suckers
This is exactly what it sounds like, mini suckers for the nipples. They are applied via a twist action, pulling the flesh into the tube. The sensation is quite interesting if you’ve never experienced it. You can add more sensation by flicking or jiggling the suckers once they are on the nipple. Extreme Restraints has a really cool pair and the price is right if you’re looking to try something new!

Chopsticks
Who knew such a harmless utensil could inflict so much torment! Simply take two chopsticks, rubber band them together and voila, instant nipple torture! Here is a great tutorial on how to make your own set. I’ve definitely heard tale of these being used on genitals as well. Once again, affordable, disposable, and easy to replace.

Magnetic Nipple Clamps
These things are amazing. I personally think they look so delicate and pretty: a great accessory for your next kink outing. These can be worn under clothing with only some minimal visibility on the outside.

Nipple Stocks
The sister toy to the nipple chopsticks, this clever device comes in the single nipple or long double nipple design. Feel like smashing your submissive’s nipples between two pieces of wood? This is the toy for you. You can adjust the pressure to make them as hard or soft as you’d like. Our friend Rope_Daddy hand makes this clever device.

Do you have any clever nipple torture ideas we need to hear about? Do you think this list is still too tame? We’d love to hear from you in the comments. Happy nipple play!

BDSM Scene Idea: Bondage Mitts

November 28, 2016 By Desdemona 1 Comment

You may have seen our buying guide from last week on bondage mitts. We wanted give you some user tested ideas on how to maximize this fun accessory into your scenes! Also I use the pronoun her or she in this article but these ideas would be suitable for any sexual orientation.

Sensory Deprivation
Aside from being blindfolded, having your hands restrained is arguably one of the most frustrating acts of bondage, at least this is what my submissive anniebear tells me. Well, me being the sadist I am, of course I’ll up the ante by both blindfolding her and restraining her hands in bondage mitts. That’s not to say I’ll leave her this way for the whole scene (or maybe I will) but I like to begin this scene with a blindfold and bondage mitts, clipping the mitts above her head so she feels completely exposed. She will then be open to any sort of fun things I have planned for her such as sensation play, nipple clamps, perhaps feeding her something that tastes terrible-the sky is the limit! I prefer leather type mitts that have a ring to actually lock the buckle and also an o-ring to clip the mitts together or to other objects. Basically, versatility is key. Giving your submissive a sense of helplessness or “I couldn’t get out even if I tried” puts them in a great headspace.

Assign a Task
Nothing is more hilarious than putting bondage mitts on your submissive and then assigning her any number of nearly impossible tasks. For example, have them prepare you a snack from the kitchen and then stand back and watch the hilarity ensue. Don’t want to hear her whining throughout the task? Throw a ball gag in her mouth. You could also have them tidy up the house or fold clothes. They’ll probably have to redo the task at a later date which is all the more frustrating for them.

Give a Massage
Have your submissive give you a massage while wearing bondage mitts. It’ll be a terrible massage, but (if this has been negotiated) you can remind them what a terrible job they are doing and for every minute they do not improve will be an additional minute of discipline.

Draw a Picture
I have a very modest play partner who blushes at the sight of pornography so I like to find the nastiest photo possible and then have her draw her own version of it with limited use of her bound hands. Of course I’ll then proceed to grade her “work” and likeness to the original photo. I tend to circle the “mistakes” I find and then add them up at the end for the number of strikes or duration of punishment for said mistakes.

Pick Up Objects
This is a fun idea I observed at a dungeon once. The Dominant threw a box of toothpicks onto the floor and then required the submissive to pick them up, while wearing bondage mitts. Depending on the type of mitts you have your submissive in, this task could be nearly impossible. We watched for nearly ten minutes as the sub struggled and thought of every way in which she could pick up the toothpicks, eventually resorting to using her mouth. The Dom finally took pity on her and moved onto something else. But it was hilarious and fun watching her struggle!

These are just some starting points for you to go off of. The scene ideas are endless! Remember to always negotiate with your play partner before starting the scene and to have appropriate safe words in the event it does not go as planned. Here is our buying guide with some true tested mitts. Happy playing!

Writer, photographer, hedonist, Dom. After years of at-home BDSM, Dexx finally embraced the kink community and met many fantastic fellow kinksters in the scene. Along the way, it occurred to him that it would be just super if there was a magazine-style web site which catered to people interested in BDSM, and he recruited some of his friends to help create it.

BDSM Water Sports

November 21, 2016 By Baadmaster 3 Comments

We here at kinkweekly.com strive to present all forms of BDSM, D/s play and kink. If water sports isn’t your cup of tea, then you should “wait ‘til next week” — to paraphrase a sports adage.

Water sports – or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) – is defined as playing with pee. It can be peeing on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink pee or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”; I think it does. But whatever its classification, water sports has elements of extreme BDSM and D/s at its core. Although we can’t say that water sports is BDSM play, more often than not it contains within it a form of extreme submission.

There is relatively little danger in water sports. Now what is “relatively little danger” you ask? That is debatable. But water sports do not, by definition, present the physical safety risk that breath play does. Or knife play. Or fire play.

But piss play is still a very extreme form of BDSM play; there can be serious elements of humiliation and other serious psychological aspects involved. Thus, as with all other play, it must be consensual. And the sub must have a safe word if he/she decides the play is too much to bear – whether physically or mentally. Obviously, where there is no intake of pee, there is no danger of bodily harm. (Other than staining a sheet or a rug, a pee bath is pretty safe.

The most basic form of water sports is where the Dom/me orders the submissive to pee and watches. Many Dom/mes love to give their submissive a good pee bath – or peeing in their slaves’ orifice, often with a funnel – as a show of Dominance!

As with all other BDSM scenes, combination scening can add variety to your play. (Just like vanilla relationships, even BDSM ones can suffer from boredom. “Oh, no, not pee again! That makes 30 days in a row!”) Thus one must be inventive. Bathtub bondage – where a bound submissive is immobilized in a bathtub – is pretty inventive. As is piss enema play; I have even heard of players combining piss and wax play!

Once actual ingestion of pee is contemplated, health concerns do arise. Fresh piss is generally sterile and safe to drink in small quantities; the reason genital piercings heal so rapidly is due to their being flushed with piss. However, ingested in larger quantities, urine can pose a health risk. It does contain harmful chemicals (such as uric acid) and bodily wastes in it. So use caution if you get the idea to substitute pee for his/her Coke or Gatorade. Moderation is the word here. As is drinking water for days so the piss is mostly water.

The use of catheters – which we covered in a recent kinkweekly.com article — takes water sports to a more extreme level. Catheters are long, thin, flexible tubes used in medical procedures. They are inserted into the urethra of woman or men and the pee flows through them. One must be quite knowledgeable in the art of catheter play; it is not for the newbie. Not only are there sterility concerns, but physical damage can result from rough or inaccurate insertion of a catheter. Doctors study for years to master these types of procedures. So one should learn from a Master of the catheter before attempting it. Here we see a catheter being inserted.

The range of water sports is very wide. And although it can be very extreme from a BDSM point of view, if one uses a modicum of caution and common sense, it is generally safe. Considering the extreme play to risk ratio, you get a lot of D/s “bang for your buck” in water sports.

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Medical Play, the Next Level!

November 7, 2016 By Baadmaster 2 Comments

This is kinkweekly.com’s second article on medical play. The first one – “The Doctor Is In: Medical Play” — was basically an introduction. We not only examined the inherent D/s roots of medical play, but we also explained basic play for beginners and listed much of the entry level equipment — examination tables, speculums, Wattenberg pinwheels, tongue depressors, bandages, thermometers, reflex hammers, scopes, etc. Using most of these medical toys and role-play scenarios are pretty self-explanatory. Just tie your slave to the examination table, spread the stirrups and play away. (With a safe word, of course!)

But now let’s take it a little further. First on tap – The “TENS” unit.

The “TEN” in “TENS unit” is actually an acronym for Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulator. It is a specially modified electrical pulse generator that was originally intended for actual medical use.

A TENS unit causes low levels of intermittent pain which appears to produce endorphins. Since a rush of endorphins is presumed to cause the phenomenon of subspace, and a TENS unit can stimulate the body’s production of endorphins, it was only a matter of time before some Dom/me tried it on his/her submissive. Amazing! And what better place is there than your “medical office” to use a TENS unit? Just do not course the current across the heart area.

Needle play in a medical scene is a natural — although needle play is not solely done in medical scenes. Often called “play piercings,” these are temporary piercings.

In any medical scene with needles, your approach to sterility should mirror that of an actual doctor. Sterility is essential, from the needles you buy to the play areas in your “office.” When you buy your piercing needles, some medical supply houses offer ethylene oxide gas sterilization. Once sterilized in this way, the items are sealed in plastic and are germ free until you use them. (Always use needles ONCE and throw them away as medical waste.)

Before you start your play-piercing session, wash your hands thoroughly with a hospital quality anti-bacterial soap. Latex examination gloves should be placed on both hands immediately after washing. The submissive’s skin should also be toweled with alcohol or an anti-bacterial wash. You should have all these products on hand, neatly arranged on your medical table, so that the doctor role-play and sterility precautions merge seamlessly. In needle play, sterility isn’t everything, it’s the only thing!

Now it’s time to get really deep into medical play. (If you want to!) We’re talking about urethral play – using penis plugs and urethral sounds! And although I will describe this type of play, it is wise to learn it from an experienced Top. That said, here is a good overview.

A penis plug is a smooth metal rod designed to be inserted into the urethra. In the hands of an experienced Top, a penis plug makes the penis more sensitive and intensifies orgasm. This is usually done in the context of medical scene; it can really add to the Dom/sub dynamic.

But it is in a urethral sounds scene where medical role play can truly approximate reality – after all, sounds are actual medical devices; they are used for dilating the urethra for medical exams. (Note: in both penis plug and sounds play, do not skimp on the lube – and always have a safe word!)

Urethral sounds can also be used to magnify sexual pleasure; many subs get off on the feeling of having their urethra stretched and played with. Being longer and slimmer than the penis plug (sounds are sold in sets of assorted widths and lengths), they can even reach and stimulate the bladder. As these are truly medical devices that require major skills to use, working with an experienced Top would be a great place to start.

As we have explained in our previous article, the fun of medical role-play is that the Dom/sub dynamic is already built in. When a real life doctor (or nurse) says, “Time to examine your urethra,” you let the doctor do it. This hierarchy continues into BDSM medical role-play – without the constraints of a real doctor/nurse/patient relationship.
The world of medical play runs from “hot nurse role-play” all the way to needle and urethral play.

But I have to go; it’s time to give my submissive a medical exam!

Responsible Fear Play

October 31, 2016 By Jenn Masri 6 Comments

Fear play is not usually something people jump into right away when they’re new to the scene. Although, even if you think you’ve never done any fear play, you might be wrong. Fear play runs on a long spectrum much like most other things. Ever been spanking a bottom again and again and again then suddenly stop and give pause, only to surprise them with one hard smack! That pause, even though it’s subtle, can cause momentary fear in the bottom. Not knowing what will come next – for example putting a blindfold on them – can cause fear. It may be showing them a scary toy, then blindfolding them and, in reality, using something that merely feels like you might be using the “scary” toy but you’re not. As you advance to certain implements, like single tails or dragonstails, or even canes – you may strike it or crack it hard nearby to make them jump. All of these things can be considered fear play. Heck, sometimes just making them think you’ve left them alone on the cross or bench can be a total mind fuck – yet we know that a responsible Top would never actually do this.

Some types of fear play I don’t recommend unless it’s with a trusted and long term partner. One example of this is a story I know of a female Dom with her slave and the slave had a hard limit of breaking his skin. She first showed him a knife then blindfolded him. She’d done non-cutting knife play before so he thought nothing of it. Using a toothpick and warm honey she pretended to “accidentally” cut him. Scared the crap out of him. He didn’t know it wasn’t real until after the scene. People have also used fake versions of real phobias to create fear. For example, if the bottom is arachnophobic (spiders) then using plastic spiders in the scene can cause intense fear. Even if they know they’re fake – it’s based on a phobia which amplifies the emotional response. Making them hold them or placing them on the bottom’s body could be scarier than the whip or staple gun in your hand!

Now, this brings me to an important point. In the case of a real phobia DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT use or do the real thing. Using the example above, never put a real live spider on a bottom who is arachnophobic. If someone is claustrophobic be VERY careful about using sensory deprivation and especially things like hoods or gas masks. Even if something seems harmless to you, these are illogical, yet real, fears. To the bottom this type of extreme fear play can cause traumatic psychological results. Plus they probably won’t ever want to play with you again!

So while fear play can be awesome, remember that there are different levels. Base what you do on the experience and trust you have with your play partner and always do it responsibly. While I appreciate getting new clients in my therapy office, this shouldn’t be the reason!

Jennifer Masri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in Alternative Lifestyles for individual and relationship issues. She also teaches the BDSM 101 class series at Sanctuary LAX in Los Angeles every Monday evening. We are delighted to have her as a columnist for KinkWeekly, offering particular insight into some of the common challenges that kinky people face in their relationships and journey in the lifestyle.Read more about Jennifer on her blog, A Kink Shrink.

Humiliation/Degradation in BDSM

October 3, 2016 By Jenn Masri 2 Comments

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Many, if not most, players in the scene know that humiliation and/or degradation can be a part of play. However, some may not realize that there are different types. If you are negotiating this as part of your scene – being specific can be extremely important. First I want to define what these things mean.

Erotic humiliation: “consensual psychological humiliation in order to produce erotic excitement or sexual arousal. This can be for the person being humiliated and demeaned or for the person humiliating, or for some spectator. It may be part of BDSM and other sexual roleplay or accompanied by the sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. Humiliation is a subjective issue, and is dependent on context. It does not need to be sexual in nature; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings that are obtained from the experience that are desired, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. Erotic humiliation can be done verbally and/or physically, and can take place privately or publicly. Some individuals assume an acting role and others prefer to be spoken to in a degrading way. A classic technique that can be used to put the submissive into a bottom mind space is to humiliate them while also providing them with sexual stimulation. Select individuals who desire this form of humiliation also use it to acquire emotional release.” (Wikipedia)

Degradation: “the act or process of damaging or ruining something; the act of treating someone or something poorly and without respect.” (merriam-webster) In BDSM play this can often involve objectification which means acting as if the bottom is an object, like a table, footrest, ashtray, etc.

The two sub-categories I usually use are sexual vs. non-sexual humiliation/degradation. Sexual humiliation and degradation may include calling the bottom things like slut or whore. It can also include speaking to them in a way that suggests promiscuity. “You like it when I make you squirt in front of all these people, don’t you?” or “All you’re good for is being used as a cum dumpster”. (for example)

Non-sexual humiliation/degradation may include calling the bottom things like stupid or fat. Perhaps telling them they were only put on this earth to serve others and get used like a punching bag. Perhaps using their body to rest your feet on or including golden showers (human toilet) as part of your scene. (again, just some examples)

For many bottoms this type of play – just the use of one humiliating word, can trigger them and put them in a bad head space or even end the scene. This is why I think it’s important to be a bit more specific when negotiating this. While one bottom may be fine with “all of the above” when it comes to this type of play, another may only be ok with sexual humiliation/degradation. Another may take this type of play off the table completely. Be mindful that this type of play can include physical aspects, but also goes beyond that to the psychological/emotional. This is not a realm you want to mess around with – especially if the bottom is new or they are a new partner to you as a Top.

Symbolic Submission

September 6, 2016 By Baadmaster Leave a Comment

There is an old saying that “the biggest sexual organ is the one between your ears.” That statement can be updated to state that “the hottest BDSM toy is the one between your ears.” The most important aspects of BDSM are purely mental. Even subspace, while often arrived at by physical means, is a pure cerebral state. (Subspace is a whole other topic, which has been covered, in previous kinkweekly.com articles.)

Since there is such a significant psychological component to D/s, there are many triggers that can reinforce the power exchange – whether in a relationship or in a scene. Many of these “triggers” are symbolic. As opposed to a slave contract or a lifestyle collar, these are often temporary symbols of submission. Temporary or not, these symbols can be very effective in raising the intensity of your power exchange. (I will cover “symbols of Dominance” in a future kinkweekly.com article.)

I have assembled a list of symbolic embellishments that can add to your D/s dynamic. You will likely already be familiar with most of them. However, I would bet that you have overlooked at least a couple that could be useful. Obviously, not all of them are for you. But just thinking about symbolic ways that you can add to the D/s hierarchy is an exercise that will keep your union – or play – fresh. That said, the envelope please!

1. Leash and collar. Just walking your sub around on a leash and a collar reinforces the power disparity between the Dom/me and the submissive. The implications are largely symbolic. Most Doms are not going to walk their sub around 24/7 like a dog. (Although some do!) But, if you add this to your weekend arsenal – or just use it occasionally – you will strengthen the D/s aspects of your life. Leash and collar with a naked submissive at a dungeon party can be a great symbol of Dominance and submission.

2. Writing. Just the simple act of writing “slave,” or even “slut,” on your submissive’s body is a powerful symbolic D/s energizer. If you have not done this, give it a try. A marker and a little imagination can work wonders. It is not for everyone. But it is truly a powerful example of “symbolic submission.”

3. Kneeling. Many high protocol Doms require the slaves to kneel almost all the time they are around them. For the rest of us, this is either impractical or it does not float our boat. But even if you are in a “no-protocol” D/s relationship, requiring your sub to kneel occasionally is a powerful display of D/s.

4. Sir or Ma’am. Even if your protocol does not require you to address your Dominant with “Sir,” “Ma’am” or “Master” – or a similar honorific – all the time, you should try to do if for specified occasions. An evening, a weekend or at a bondage party. It might not seem like a lot, but it does add D/s pizzazz (yes, pizzazz) to your situation.

5. Insertables. Being made to wear an insertable in a vanilla situation can be awesome in terms of “symbolic symbolism.” Wearing a butt plug for even a quick foray into a supermarket can awaken ultra-submissive feelings in any sub. As the saying goes, “Try it, you’ll like it.” No underwear carries similar symbolic implications of submission.

6. Greeting ritual. Even if you have no rituals, try using the greeting ritual – where the sub kneels and kisses the Dominant’s feet – at least once in a while. Watch the effect such a simple symbolic act of deference can have on both the Dom/me and the sub!

7. The play collar. This is obvious; it only bears repeating in that you might overlook it. Going to a play party – or just around the house – wearing a collar is symbolic submission at its most basic level. Although recently, many wear it as a fashion statement; if there is a power exchange meaning behind it, it will work like a magic charm.

8. A baby pacifier. This clearly is only for a select few. But, if your submissive is into humiliation play, making him/her wear a baby pacifier can be incredibly effective. Especially in public.

9. Furniture. Requiring a sub become “furniture” for a short period of time is yet another example of “symbolic submission.” Like the baby pacifier, this is not for everyone. But, for those who wish to make a symbolic statement of their power exchange, this is one way to go.

10. Maid’s uniforms. Cosplay aspects aside, just wearing a maid’s uniform puts the sub into a submissive headspace almost immediately. It also illustrates how symbolism can affect headspace.

As stated earlier, much of dominance and submission is mental. After all, you cannot make anyone submit by physical means if they mentally reject it. Once you accept that D/s and BDSM are cerebral exercises, any symbolism that increases the power exchange is very useful. And any way you can augment “submissive symbolism” will make your relationship – or your scenes — that much more exciting!

Objectification: Part Two

August 1, 2016 By Baadmaster 1 Comment

Objectification, as noted in last week’s article, has a built-in power disparity that works great in a D/s context. Since objectification play is more a mental exercise than a technical skill, it is ideal for those new in the lifestyle who want to establish, or reinforce, a power exchange. This practice can take many forms, but at its heart is the aim to strengthen the power disparity that is the core of any D/s interaction. And it is fun too!

So here is a list of eight additional Objectification scenarios that can add excitement to your BDSM – and sex — life.

The submissive as the Master/Mistress’s footstool. “Submissive as furniture” is probably the most popular form of objectification play. Often the submissive is required to be a footstool for the Dom/me. Or, the bottom can be turned into a table, on all fours, with dishes of food on his/her back. You can take this “slave as furniture” concept anywhere you want to. Slave as toilet. Slave as room decoration. Slave as ashtray.

Enforced Accessibility. This set-up is great for couples with an objectification fetish that want to reinforce the sexual aspects of submission. Different that the “sex doll” objectification in that the Dominant selects a particular period of time when the submissive must be available for sex, regardless of other considerations. During these specific periods of time the bottom knows that the Top can demand any sexual act from him/her and is required to be ready for such demands. Many couples find the both the anticipation by the bottom of such periods and the sexual objectification inherent in such a scenario to be incredibly exciting.

Forniphilia. Making furniture with a bound submissive is known as “forniphilia.” (There is a name for everything it seems!) Be forewarned. Don’t keep the sub in “furniture bondage” for too long. Watch for cramping. In this type of scene, a safe word is in order.

Combining BDSM with objectification. There is no rule that says objectification must be a stand-alone act. Tie a submissive to a St. Andrews Cross and talk about her/him in the objective case, hang a sign on her/him or put items on her/him are objectification scenes I have actually witnessed. The key is always making sure that the bottom is being objectified as opposed to just being scened with.

Objectification combined with humiliation play. An interrogation scene, where the submissive is treated as a nameless prisoner, is one way to go. This is likely to involve gags, blindfolds and verbal humiliation. Interrogation scenes, by their very nature, have a way of becoming harsh; care must be taken to respect negotiated limits.

Hood play. Just putting a hood on a submissive is exquisite objectification. She/he is, by definition, faceless and becomes nothing but an object. This is an extremely safe, yet incredibly effective, way of objectifying a submissive. Just make sure the hood is fitted properly and the slave can breathe easily.

Puppy play. This is another extremely popular activity. There might be a debate whether this is pure objectification; it might me more “animalization” if you wish to be technical. No matter, it is a very popular BDSM activity. In fact, there are national “puppy play” competitions. In this scenario, the bottoms become puppies; the “Master/Mistress” is often referred to as a trainer – as in animal trainer. Plush puppy paws, chew toys, puppy suits and leashes are items that “puppy players” use to take this style of “objectification” play to its highest levels.

Pony play. Again, one can debate if this is “objectification” per se. In pony play, the Dominant trains the submissive to walk, trot and act like a pony. The proper gait – from a slow trot to a cantor – and perfect pony posture are two of the aims of the serious pony trainer. The “show pony” is beautifully dressed in headgear, elegant footwear and reigns, often pulling a cart. This is a very safe – and pricey! — way to objectify one’s submissive, hence the large number of pony play aficionados.

Objectification runs the gamut from “human sex doll” to “slave as toilet,” from “hood play” to “forniphilia,” from “light verbal humiliation” to “heavy degradation.” Because of this wide range, it is one of the most popular forms of BDSM play. It doesn’t require years of practice to learn; you can get the same rush with objectification play as you can with a bullwhip. Just remember that you must always keep the psychological well being of the bottom in mind. Don’t push objectification to such a point that you can damage the submissive’s psyche. Have a safe word that the submissive can use for any reason that she/he feels her/his limits have been passed. Those safety considerations aside, this is a great way to have fun within your tastes and limits!

The Doctor is In: Medical Play

July 11, 2016 By Baadmaster 2 Comments

When writing for an audience that spans beginners to advanced and from weekend warriors to 24/7, it is often hard to find an area that will interest most of our kinky readers. Medical play appears to fit the bill.

Of all the BDSM scenarios I have written about, medical play is the one of a few – such as wax play — where “no experience is necessary.” Except for the more edgy medical scenes, this is one BDSM activity where you can, in the words of Nike, “just do it.”

The beauty of a medical scene is that it is nearly impossible to ruin the D/s structure that is inherent in it. In real life, when the doctor tells the patient to do something, the patient does as told — within proscribed legal and ethical restraints. The doctor is, by definition, the Top; the patient is the bottom. Similarly, in medical play, the “doctor” (or “nurse,” if that is your scene) is the Dominant and the “patient” is the submissive. Other than negotiating limits to be observed during the scene, the D/s structure is automatic. Set it and forget it!

Another wonderful aspect of a medical scene is that elaborate equipment is not necessary to create an awesome medical play space. An ordinary table with a white sheet on it makes as good an examination table as I have seen in some real doctors’ offices! Get a desk (at a yard sale!) and put some 99Cents Store “doctor stuff” on it — cotton balls, bandages, latex examination gloves, Vaseline, alcohol, betadine wash, swabs, etc, — and you have a “doctor’s office” right in your own home. Since medical play is role play, don’t skip the small details. A medical smock with a nametag – or the nurse’s uniform – gives the scene an air of authenticity that many other roleplays lack. Hang a stethoscope around your neck and the doctor is in! (I have no idea what those circular mirrors on a headband are for, but if you are a stickler for details, go for it.) I have heard of a Dom who recorded hospital noises (“Bing, bing…calling Dr. Marx”) on his smartphone and plays them during his medical play sessions. This might seem a bit extreme – but I bet their medical sessions rock!

The range of medical scenes appears limitless. Just a simple “examination” has almost infinite variations and possibilities. Personally, I love giving the breast exam. And what caring doctor wouldn’t also give a vaginal exam to go with it? Or a penis exam with a male sub. But why stop there? A cervical exam with a speculum should be part of any doctor’s exam. But there are other cavities that might need checking. Some doctors and nurses are insistent that there be a full anal prostate probe or a scrotal check-up. And no doctor would forget to take the patient’s temperature rectally. Of course, these reality-based examinations can be expanded into fantasyland. . Other than negotiated limits, you can take this play anywhere your imagination leads you. Alien abduction and examination — including the legendary extraterrestrial anal probe? No problem. Want to play the “mad doctor?” Get your Doctor Doom mask and torture away. There can be prison doctor scenes. A nurse administering an enema, a doctor full-body wrapping a “badly wounded” patient or a nurse taping up an “injured penis” are more scenes that come to mind. And within each scene, you can select a wide variety of BDSM and sex toys to use.

There are terrific medical toys available. The Wartenburg pinwheel (used to test nerve reaction) is a particular favorite of mine. Used on the nipples, the pinwheel can be deemed a modern medical play marvel. And don’t forget the old reflex hammer. The “cupping” machine is great for “suction pulling” nipples and labia. Once a late nineteenth century medical treatment for just about anything, cupping is now almost exclusively used in BDSM play. Funny how they were so ahead of their time! Of course, don’t forget the speculum, the sin qua non of medical BDSM toys. And clamps!

Although beginners can do most of the scenes I have discussed, medical play also encompasses edge play as well. Needle play is often done in the context of a medical scene. What better place to do needle play than in a “doctor’s office”? After all, it is clean and well stocked with antibacterial scrubs and washes. Note: needle play is a very advanced edge play and should not be attempted by a novice.

I think we can all agree that medical play offers a very wide palette of D/s based scenes, some with a very shallow learning curve. In fact, other than the fact that you can’t get paid to be a BDSM “doctor,” it sure is a hell of a lot more fun than being a real one. Or a real patient for that matter!

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