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This week in kink: October 19, 2020

October 17, 2020 By Dexx 2 Comments

Everyone has been affected in some way by the pandemic!

Click below to learn how Jumbo’s Clown Room dancers in East LA are making the most of these trying times by offering virtual shows!

This article is brough to us by yahoo! news. Check out this empowering story now!

How out-of-work strippers made their show virtual and are 'taking the power back'
With their club closed, dancers from the East Hollywood hipster spot Jumbo's Clown Room form a collective and launch a successful virtual show.
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Pornhub launches “Not My Job” campaign to introduce their new sex toy line.

Their campaign is designed to advocate for their new line in a light, comical way by showing that household items are not the best option when it comes to finding ways to play.

Their new sex toys are sure to give everyone lots of interesting things to play with while we continue to be in our homes more than ever!

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Pornhub Launches "Not My Job" Campaign to Introduce New Sex Toy Line
"It’s time to give household items a break once and for all."
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Curious about exploring BDSM with your partner?

This week Well + Good gives four essential tips on how to bring kink into your relationship.

This article is littered with communication and interpersonal tips.

Click below to read more!

4 Tips For Proudly Introducing Kink Into Your Relationship, According to a Sexologist

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Bottoms – Do You Have Your Own Play Kit?

August 8, 2020 By Dame TylerRose. Leave a Comment

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As a top, I have always liked it when a bottom could hold out a back pack and say “You can use anything in here.” Whether or not I do depends on what’s in the bag, of course. 

If it’s a needle kit or rope, I won’t be using any of it. Not interested. If it’s a Tens unit, I might. I’ve used one of those on myself, for my bad back. 

Butt plugs won’t be used. I don’t put things in anyone’s ass. He can, however, go to the bathroom and slip it in himself. My cane may find the end of it for a number of smacks.

It is a commonly accepted thing. The top will buy the toys, have the toys, care for the toys, etc. Yes, I have quite the collection of things I personally enjoy using on other people. They are never used on me. They can be cleaned. Poppers are given to the person they were used on. But my kit is limited to what I am capable of carrying that day.

That sounds silly, I’m sure; but I live in NYC. I have to carry my kit up four flights of stairs just to begin to get to an event. Then there are another two to four sets of stairs to get out of the station when I arrive.

If I can keep my kit fairly light, bringing only three or four things, and can count on a bottom bringing his own fun things that are specific to him, together we have expanded our play repertoire without either of us relying entirely on the other.

I don’t have nipple clamps, unless you count clothespins or those very nasty clamps with bells (fishing line bell bobbin). I don’t have weights. 

Until recently, I didn’t have wartenberg wheels. I did, however, know a bottom who brought them nearly every time he came to an event I was attending. Through using them on him, I decided to buy my own pair. I’m rather looking forward to meeting up with him again, and using both pairs at the same time. Mine in one hand and his in the other should make for a terrific scene.

I know bottoms who bring their own leg spreader; their own ankle/wrist cuffs, their own penis ropes. Things not used on other people. In this time of plague, having a kit of things to be used solely on yourself is an important investment. You don’t know how clean anyone keeps their kit. You don’t go home with them all to see what they do with their toys after the party. You don’t know how many people have already had it used on them at the party you’re attending. You can’t know.

Protect yourself. You know where your items have been. You know how they were cleaned because you did it yourself.

I used the word “investment”. Some things can be costly. It’s best to build your kit up over time. Keep in mind that a smallish woman may have a hard time handling a monster flogger. Find a more medium sized flogger that is easier to deal with but still gives the impact you want. Canes are easy and can be reasonably priced. There are numerous sellers all over Fetlife, Etsy, Ebay, Amazon. Ban-sticks, in Fetlife, is my favorite. I’ve bought four sets from her, I think. Three sets in different lengths for myself and one set as a present for my former husband.

Clothespins can be thrown away after use if you want. They’re not expensive unless you’ve put in the work and time to dye them.

Raid the kitchen for the wooden spoons or go to the dollar store and buy an inexpensive pack. You can wash and keep them to use again or discard after use. I know people who love the meat tenderizing mallet as well.

Rope. It’s easy enough to put in a pillow case and then into the washer. Cotton line can be put into the dryer. If you’re not doing suspension, cotton clothesline is fine. Don’t let anyone be snobby at you about it.

My point here is to not depend on the top to provide all the toys. 

Plague or not, every bottom should have their own play kit full of fun things they like used on them.


TylerRose. is known as Dame Tyler in the NYC public SM/Fetish scene. She’s been doing this BDSM stuff for over 30 years in private and more than 10 years in public venues. 

She is an award-winning author who has written two “lifestyle”, four cartoon, and over twenty five fiction books that you can find on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/TylerRose./e/B00HCPLSP2

You can find more of her work in Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/305828
FB Fan Page — https://www.facebook.com/TylerRoseGethis/
FB Regular page —  https://www.facebook.com/TylerRoseAuthor

She enjoys crochet, coffee, and baking, and will no doubt die with a thesaurus open on her thigh.

Tagged With: aftercare, bdsm, bdsm play, bdsm toys, bottom, Dame TylerRose., dom, domme, fetish, impact play, kink, master, mistress, Paddles, power exchange, sex, sex toys, slave, Spanking, submissive, Top

10 Fun Ways to Spice Up a Long-Distance Relationship

August 3, 2020 By JC Way 2 Comments

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Long-distance becomes a challenge for people that are in relationships. Couples that are many miles apart must work diligently to spice things up and keep the love connection strong. Those that are serious about maintaining a relationship with their mate will look for ways to keep the fire burning. There are many ways to do this. Creative couples can always find fun ways to connect, even when they are not physically together. 

1. Phone calls

In the world of social media, it has become so easy to get lost in those text message only relationships. People can find themselves drifting apart because they’re not having conversations. Some text messages get lost in translation. It is advantageous for anyone that is engaging in a long-distance relationship to consider making phone calls. A sexy voice in the middle of the night can be alluring. People that put their time into making calls are also reassuring their partners of their love. 

2. Remote Control Sex Toys

Another thing that helps people that are in long-distance relationships are remote control sex toys, especially vibrators. It should be no surprise that sex toys can be great for video calls. It is easy to watch one another with remote vibrators and experience intimacy even when there is distance. There should always be an outlet for expressing intimacy between couples, and it is essential to put these remote sex toys to use regularly because it strengthens the bond. 

3. Watching Movies Together 

It is easier to watch movies together in the age of video streaming. You can engage in conversations about movies as you watch something at the same time. There are so many movies that you can stream, and this makes it easy to find apps that have movies that both of you can start simultaneously.

4. Virtual Reality Video Games 

Playing virtual reality games together can also be something that spices up a relationship. There is a wide multitude of gaming options for those that are interested in the virtual world.

There is no shortage of gaming possibilities when it comes to playing action games and simulation games. Couples can feel like they are genuinely connected and in the same room with one another when they dive into these virtual reality experiences.

5. Video Calls / Dance Together While Apart

Participating in video calls gives you a chance to see one another. Seduction can occur this way. A little cleavage or a bit of undressing through a video chat can be a massive turn on that can open the doors to a stimulating evening.

6. Raunchy Text Messages 

This teasing with live video footage can be enhanced with raunchy text messages as well. Sending sweet text messages to one another during the day is nice, but a couple of sexual innuendos help couples shift gear and spice things up.

This is great because it is a short and simple way to let your partner know that you are thinking about them. The sexy text message is a break from the usual good morning or goodnight text messages. It heightens the level of arousal between long-distance couples and builds up the passion in the relationship.

7. Snail Mail 

Couples that think outside of the box see the beauty of the snail mail. They know that they can send beautifully crafted letters to one another that is much deeper than a text message. Crafting a letter takes time. It is showing extra effort. Letting writing is a lost art in the love department. Sending letters where you express your feelings can be something that can turn on your partner. The ability to have a letter that they can hold on to as a keepsake will go a long way.

8. Sending Gifts To One Another

It is also good to consider using the postal mail service to send gifts to one another. Sending a gift that is a surprise can be something that turns up the heat when it comes to a long-distance relationship. A package with sexy remote toys and other things like candy or your partner’s favorite music can be very useful in spicing up a long-distance romance. Everyone loves to get a gift and giving people gifts that they can use with you will be a great way to connect when you contact one another. 

9. Music

Listening to music together is something that can truly enhance the relationship as well. Some apps allow people to create playlists that they can upload and share with another. Take the time to video call one another and dance together to your favorite songs. Love songs that you share make for some of the best relationship memories. 

10. Planned Trips / Spontaneous Trips

Every aspect of the relationship does not have to be planned. Spontaneity is the spice of life in the relationship world. Sometimes it is good to decide to meet up spontaneously. Making a trip to see one another face to face can keep the momentum going in a long-distance relationship. Sometimes it is just good to hold one another, and taking the time to travel to one another will spice up any relationship. When you plan to meet, you can heighten your excitement by anticipating the trip to see one another.

You may even be able to surprise the person you are dating by simply showing up in their city or state. This is the element of surprise in a long-distance relationship that brings about excitement, and this type of excitement makes the relationship thrive.

The Final Verdict

You ultimately need to realize that the long-distance relationship works much better when you see how much sexual stimulation can be achieved even when you are not physically with one another. The ability to spice things up regularly with remote sex toys can be just the right amount of excitement needed to help you maintain intimacy when you are apart from one another.

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About the Author

Writer & Reviewer for The Sex Toy Collective, JC Way has covered everything from Butt Plugs to Fake Cum, sprinkling his dry British wit into all things sexy.

Tagged With: long distance, power exchange, sex toys, sexting

Interview with Michelle from the Pleasure Chest

July 2, 2018 By slave_bunny 3 Comments

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Can you tell us a little about how the Pleasure Chest got its start?

The Pleasure Chest started in 1971 in New York, at the height of the sexual revolution. Founders Duane Colglazier and Bill Rifkin started out selling waterbeds, but found unexpected success in selling erotic novelties like mood lighting, cock rings, and handcuffs. They decided to turn the store into a full-fledged sex shop.

The company’s first location in the West Village in 1971, challenged convention by refusing to block out the store windows with XXX, which was standard for any store with adult material. Its founders aimed to create a department store feel. This simple principle continues to guide and set the Pleasure Chest apart today, now under the leadership of Duane’s nephew Brian Robinson.

What is your job title for the Pleasure Chest? How did you begin working there? What is your background concerning the Adult/Fetish Industry?

Currently I am a Sex Specialist and Sex Educator. The road here starts with me (as a Theater Education major at the University of Puerto Rico: Rio Piedras) putting myself through college working in the adult industry as an exotic dancer and nude model. About three years later, I moved to Miami and eventually transitioned into doing burlesque and teaching pole dance fitness. Upon relocating to California five years ago, I returned to stripping after a break up that left me broke and almost homeless. A burlesque performer I was dating at the time suggested I apply at The Pleasure Chest since I was looking for something with more regular hours. I interviewed and got the job, knowing that becoming a Sex Educator was my primary goal.

What do you love the most about working there?

I love having the opportunity to help people find the tools they need to better love themselves and each other. I love empowering people to feel comfortable in their sexual experimentation, exploration, and expression of themselves. Redirecting sex negatives attitudes and teaching people about consent is very rewarding for me as well.

In your opinion, what would you say are the company’s core values?

Sex positivity, pleasure based sex education, inclusivity, and adaptability.

What is the Pleasure Chest’s overall mission? How does the company go about accomplishing this?

To provide a non-judgmental, safe space where individuals are free to explore lifestyle products that will enrich their sex lives, regardless of spending capacity. We do this by hiring folks that are not only personally invested in their community, but are also actively a part of it, by carrying a wide range of products from low to high price points (which allows us to maintain accessibility to every demographic), and by offering free sex positive, pleasure-based, workshops and events to support and build up the community.

What is unique about your company and store? What do you feel customers can gain/experience uniquely there?

I believe the level of training we receive first and foremost sets us apart from other adult retailers in this industry. Not only from vendors, but from social justice groups as well. As the language around sexuality and gender has evolved, we have had diversity trainings to better serve all facets of the LGBTQ Community. We make a conscious choice to use gender neutral language, whether it is on the sales floor or in our classes. At the LA location, the team is really more like a family. With this being said, customers are met with friendly, compassionate, and knowledgeable staff. We hear them out, we laugh together, sometimes we cry together. We make sure they leave with what they need, knowing how it is used as well as how to clean and care for their product. They get a curated experience that you won’t find in many other stores or online.

Can you elaborate more on your events and classes that you have at your store? How do they help achieve the company’s overall goals?

For our sex education programming, we try to have a decent amount of variety of topics and instructors while still maintaining staples like Suck It, Live It, Love It (an oral sex class for everyone) and Butt Sex Basics as a regular part of our repertoire. Classes are a great way for people to experience a different facet of the store while they are learning something new or expanding on what they already know. Our workshops are always free, and if customers fill out a feedback form we offer them a 15% discount after the class. They get to buy a product(s) that they might have seen featured in the class at an accessible price, and we learn how to make our workshops an even better experience every time.

We also do community building events like “Performance Anxiety,” which is our comedy night, and Cirque Sexualle, a bi-monthly free burlesque show that showcases POC performers. These events all help the Pleasure Chest to achieve its goal of being more than just another adult retailer. We want to be a hub for the community as well, and a safe place to gather, learn, laugh and get turned on in ways that we aren’t typically privileged to in our usual lives.  

What types of products do you sell? What companies in your opinion are the best?

Literally everything! Novelties, lingerie, lubricant, massage oils, personal care items, condoms, books, dvds, couples toys, vibrators, dildos, harnesses, anal toys, masturbation sleeves, cock rings, kink implements, electro-play devices. I mean, it’s endless. In my opinion, companies that focus on sustainability and ethical production practices without sacrificing the quality of their product are best to me. In my book, that happens to be Fun Factory. All their products are made by hand in Germany where they employ locals who are unionized, are paid a living wage, and have healthcare. They don’t use any harmful chemicals in the production of their devices, or the devices themselves or the packaging. So, their environmental impact is neutral. That is a major turn on for me.

What do you feel the community at large faces right now? How can/does the Pleasure Chest try to help with this?

I think the greatest challenge the adult industry and sex worker community faces is dealing with the ramifications of our government creating regulations like FOSTA/SESTA, which only builds stigma around the sex worker industry, and makes it more difficult for sex workers to survive, rather than “prevent sex trafficking” as it claims to. Framing sex work as real work and supporting sex workers is something that the Pleasure Chest has always maintained a firm position on.

In your opinion, what is the best way to safely explore your fetishes?

Do your research. Read books, both instructional and erotic fiction to get a well- rounded perspective of what the expression of this fetish can look like. Identify what aspects of its expression resonate with you-what turns you on? Try things by yourself first so you don’t have to worry about what you look like in front of someone else. Once you get a good idea of what a ‘scene’ looks like for you, discuss with a partner, negotiate desires and boundaries, and above all else have fun! Give yourself permission to laugh and enjoy playing in new ways, it doesn’t have to be super serious.

In what ways can the Pleasure Chest help with sexual exploration?

I think this is where our workshops really come into play. We take topics from oral sex to g-spotting, to advanced anal, fisting, bondage and impact play, and present them in a way that is very digestible for folks still trying to decide whether or not they are into it. By demystifying and destigmatizing the different ways in which human beings can experience pleasure, we help take away people’s’ fear and shame around the experience of exploration by making it lighthearted and enjoyable.

How is the Pleasure Chest specifically tied to the Kink Community? Do you feel that most of your customers are kinky in some way?

In its early days, a huge part of the Pleasure Chest customer base were those of the gay leather community, and later the store became well known for its yearly “Glory Hole” parties. As time has gone by and BDSM has become more mainstream via mediums like the “Fifty Shades” series, our role has shifted in terms of facilitating conversations around what healthy D/s relationships and consent actually are versus what is presented in the media. One thing I have learned from these conversations is that “kinky” is a sliding goalpost. For some people blindfolds are kinky, whereas for more experienced folks it might not be. For some people, just the act of wearing a condom or doing it doggy style can be kinky. Our job is not to decide what is kinky or what isn’t -because it is truly unique to the individual. Our job is to be a resource people can turn to for receiving the tools and information about how to go about their kink in the most satisfying and safe way.

What does the Pleasure Chest want to offer in the future?

A major priority for us is having an even greater supportive presence in the LGBTQ and POC communities in the outreach that we do. We want to make ourselves accessible to those who face the greatest marginalization because of their sexual/gender expression. I think we understand that we have a responsibility, especially to this younger generation that is growing up during the #MeToo movement, to not only educate, but also lead by example in actively pushing back against the perpetuation of the sex negative, toxic masculine, rape culture.

What current projects is the company working on?

Most recently, we have started becoming more accommodating to our 420 friendly customer base. The legalization of cannabis for recreational purposes has created a unique opportunity for crossover into the adult erotic lifestyle product world. The way that we are responding to this growing trend is by exploring the varieties of quality hemp based products to carry as well as expanding our smoke shop section. I believe the integration of cannabis and the adult retail business is a great opportunity for evolution within the industry.

Any closing words?

I believe that the human body is an incredible biological miracle, and the possibilities for human sexual expression are as infinite as all the people that have ever existed, and will continue to exist as long as we inhabit this planet. Therefore, I believe it to be imperative that we never lose our curiosity towards exploring and unlocking all the many ways our bodies are capable of experiencing pleasure-ways we may have never imagined before, until maybe seeing a movie, or reading a book, having a conversation, or stepping inside the Pleasure Chest.


About Michelle LaBelle

Besides being a 10 year veteran to the burlesque and Cosplay Community, Michelle LaBelle has also used her voice as an activist to create greater visibility for the Bisexual Community. In addition to being a dancer, actress, singer and writer, this proud Puerto Rican native works as a sex positive sex educator, empowering individuals to seek out their most fulfilling sex lives through consent and pleasure-based education.
IG: @themichellelabelle
Twitter: @TheMLaBelle
http://www.facebook.com/michellelabelle86
IG: @pleasurecheststores
www.pleasurechest.com

 

 

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