The following question is a variant of a popular “where do I begin” type question.  But the key word here is “variant.” Within this question is the common dilemma of a couple that must learn at two different speeds.  Thus, my answer should be instructive to beginners regardless of how steep their learning curve is. Reader: My wife and I have both discovered online BDSM … [Read more...]

With a whole new generation of lifestylers coming up, we would be remiss if we did not address their concerns.  I am in a unique position to answer millennial’s concerns as my live-in submissive is -- surprise! – a millennial.  And though I hate to generalize, one is more likely to encounter the dreaded “brat” among the newer lifestylers than in the more experienced (read … [Read more...]

Here is an amazing question so nuanced that I had to ponder the answer for a while.  I am not even sure this is the right answer; thus you can file this under “Opinion.” Reader: Here is a problem, as a fellow Dom, you might be able to help me with. Recently I went to a dungeon party with my collared slave. A small argument escalated to the point where she said, loudly so … [Read more...]

Here is a submitted question that really is in my wheelhouse. I have tried poly over the years with varying degrees of success.  From it all going PERFECTLY to having one of the subs throw – and break - a chair at the Rio Hotel in Las Vegas. So let’s try to help out this slave! Reader: I’m a fulfilled alpha slave, but I worry about my beloved sister slaves. They say they’re … [Read more...]

Now here’s a doozy (now there’s a word I never used before!) of a question that was submitted to me.  I guess this must be a common concern as even I have pondered this dilemma. So without further adiex – or something like that – here is the question: Reader: I’m a Dom and I love giving head, but I don’t want to come across as submissive… it’s such a submissive thing to have … [Read more...]