On first glance, this might seem a question that is way out of my field of expertise.  But on closer examination, it is actually in my wheelhouse. And with the current acceptance of gender fluidity, it might be an important question to attempt to answer.  Well, here goes: Reader: I'm transgender and identify as a Domme, and have been contemplating hypnosis as a way of … [Read more...]

Occasionally questions are submitted to me that, although not a common problem, cannot be ignored. You might call them “break your heart” type queries. The following issue was very heartfelt, and was so very specific to the BDSM world, that I thought I might be of some help.  So here goes: Reader: I’ve been without a Master for two years. I’d love to be back subbing, which … [Read more...]

As one who met my current slave, and many lifestyle friends, online, I believe the Internet is the greatest tool ever devised for meeting fellow kinksters. In my case, for example, it would be difficult to approach a woman at a supermarket and ask, “Are you a submissive?” At best, I would get a blank stare. I would probably have to use this line on a hundred women before I … [Read more...]

I really like questions that have no easy answers.  It gives me a challenge. The latest one is a real “doozy”, for want of a better word.  Let’s get to the question ASAP. Reader: I’m a contracted slave of two years and just learned that my Master cheated on me. As we do not have an open relationship, this is a clear violation of our contract ("Master will never lie to … [Read more...]

The following question is a variant of a popular “where do I begin” type question.  But the key word here is “variant.” Within this question is the common dilemma of a couple that must learn at two different speeds.  Thus, my answer should be instructive to beginners regardless of how steep their learning curve is. Reader: My wife and I have both discovered online BDSM … [Read more...]