Here is a submitted question that really is in my wheelhouse. I have tried poly over the years with varying degrees of success.  From it all going PERFECTLY to having one of the subs throw – and break - a chair at the Rio Hotel in Las Vegas. So let’s try to help out this slave! Reader: I’m a fulfilled alpha slave, but I worry about my beloved sister slaves. They say they’re … [Read more...]

Now here’s a doozy (now there’s a word I never used before!) of a question that was submitted to me.  I guess this must be a common concern as even I have pondered this dilemma. So without further adiex – or something like that – here is the question: Reader: I’m a Dom and I love giving head, but I don’t want to come across as submissive… it’s such a submissive thing to have … [Read more...]

One of the most intriguing aspects of BDSM is marking. And I am not talking about just caning type bruising.  The question this in this edition of ASK BAADMASTER is about permanent markings. So without further jibber-jabber, the question: Reader: "I am really turned on at the idea of permanently marking my slave, but I am concerned about knowing how far to go. What are your … [Read more...]

As BDSM becomes more popular – especially among an edgier, more experimental crowd – the tendency is to try the untried. What is the last frontier?  That changes constantly. For example, today’s accepted tattoos would have gotten you a job in a circus a hundred years ago. Regardless, what still seems “on the cutting edge” is fisting.  The question: Reader:  Please elaborate … [Read more...]

Reader: I have a question about how submissiveness and co-dependence coincide. Is there a dilemma between the two? Or are they basically one and the same? Is co-dependency inherently destructive as so many of my vanilla friends say? Baadmaster: Anti-BDSM forces often use the co-dependency argument in an attempt to make our lifestyle seem deviant or somehow wrong. Deviant we … [Read more...]