Into bondage?
Identify as a rope bunny?
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Metal Bondage 101
In spite of the community’s attempts otherwise, the universal symbol for BDSM/bondage for most is a pair of handcuffs. In the vanilla world, handcuffs are a thing. I can’t even begin to count the number of people I’ve anecdotally encountered who have handcuffs hanging from their rear-view mirror. Then there are those who wear handcuff earrings, necklaces, and other jewelry who’re otherwise entirely vanilla.
Which is crazy because, in so many ways, handcuffs suck; certainly they’re not a very good entry-point type for BDSM restraint. I’d generally consider them advanced play, as they have many disadvantages which could well turn people away from bedroom bondage play forever.
I’m as guilty as anyone who’s begun heir bondage activities by securing a girl with handcuffs. I acquired a pair of “real” handcuffs at one those pseudo headshops so prevalent in the ’80s. I played around with them, understanding the principle of double-locks, and even figured out how easy it was to open them with a paper clip. They were fascinating, an implacable way to bind someone, securely and inescapably.
A few days later I used them on my girlfriend and she had nothing good to say about them. I’d cuffed her hands behind her, gagged her with four strips of duct tape (even then I’d figured out that duct tape gags required more than the single strip shown so popularly in movies and television) and began to enjoy some mutual fun. But, unlike the rope we’d used previously, she was not happy with these bonds.
The problem was, of course, lying down, they were horribly uncomfortable, pressing into both her wrists and back. Additionally, they had virtually zero “wiggle room”; that is, there was no way to make herself anything resembling comfortable. And escaping was impossible.
Of course, it’s precisely that utter implacable inescapablity that can be the appeal for handcuffs and other metal restraints. There’s no chance of wriggling free; you’re locked up, utterly and completely fucked. You’re going to need to dance to your top’s tune or you’ll be staying this way, forever.
If you want to start with handcuff bondage, then it’s easy and safe to start your journey at WalMart, where they sell metal handcuffs in the toy department for $3.99. While these certainly aren’t secure, they’re a good entry point as they mimic the real deal pretty well. For more fun, buy a couple of pairs, maybe even a half-dozen, and lock them all on at once.
If you find that appealing, then it might be time to move on to the real deal. While you may have any number of local merchants peddling them (those pseudo head shops still exist, and adult toy stores carry them as well; last I checked Spencer Gifts carries them as well), my personal go-to is HandcuffWarehouse.com. There you’ll find a mind-boggling array of cuffs, many of which you probably didn’t know existed.
They have the “normal” sort of cuffs you associate with police, but they also have any number of “hinged” or “solid” cuffs. Neither has the chain between them; the former have a hinge, and the latter are simply two loops which close over the wrists. Both offer a greater level of security than regular cuffs. But the fact that they’re so inflexible can offer an array of potential problems and dangers you should certainly consider before purchasing.
And then there are thumb cuffs, which can also be repurposed as toe cuffs. And any number of leg irons, waist chains, and antique-styled historical cuffs if you want to subject someone to the indignities of the past.
It should also be pointed out that they have a number of cuffs available in a variety of colors, and even offer free engraving!
There are a few basic rules for using metal restraints. First, keep keys handy at all times. The majority of cuffs use the same universal key, and you can purchase extras very inexpensively. Many of the speciality or historic cuffs utilize a unique key. Do not lose this!
Regardless of the cuffs, you do not want to have to release someone without keys. While you can, indeed, open regular cuffs with a paper clip, it can be difficult and time consuming. Meanwhile, speciality cuffs can be much trickier to jimmy. So, really, do not lose the keys!
Next, always double lock the cuffs. A regular cuff closes via a one-way ratchet; that is, it can be tightened easily, but not loosened. The double-lock prevents them from getting tighter. If someone’s wriggling around in a scene, the potential for them to accidentally tighten is great, and this will put an end to things very quickly. So you’ll want to double lock.
Finally, one of the best things about cuffs is their weight. It can be fun to collect a series of cuffs and stack them, leaving someone shackled in literally pounds of metal. It can be a heady experience, and a visually appealing one as well. But if you do this, do not leave the keyholes facing each other; stack them bottom to top. Trust me, if you leave the keyholes facing each other, you’re going to have a very difficult time unlocking them, and your sub will (wisely) never let you use cuffs on them again.
Damn, this article is already too long and I haven’t even gotten into more exotic metal restraints, such as fiddles, yokes, even gag-types such as branks or scolds bridles. Perhaps another article is warranted?
Regardless, metal restraints (or cuffs) can be a fun addition to your intimate playtime. As always, utilize common-sense safety precautions, but enjoy yourself while you explore consensual kink!
PirateStan has been involved in his local BDSM community since 2007, after having had a lifelong inclination towards it. He currently lives a contented life in Southeastern Virginia with his girl, zeirah, while working by day for a Major Metropolitan Publication.
This week in kink news: December 21, 2020
BDSM has been featured more and more in mainstream media over the years.
There are pros and cons to this depending on how kink is being portrayed.
This week Victoria Myerscough sheds some light on the normalisation of kink in the media.
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Curious about bondage, but don’t know where to begin?
Then, you’ve come to the right place!
This week woman&home gives us the skinny on everything bound!
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Want to spice up your home with some sexy furniture?
Then, check out this comprehensive guide that is sure to help give you and your partner(s) the scenes of your dreams!
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This week in kink: November 2, 2020
Need to spice up your relationship?
Curious about Shibari?
Has the pandemic brought to light that you need new ways to connect?
This has proven true for a lot of couples during these uncertain times.
With this being said, The Shibari Academy has brought couples closer together as it teaches people how to engage in Shibari safetly.
Click below to read more from PRNewswire!
Aftercare is often only thought of when engaging in BDSM and/or kink-related activities.
However, many people that engage in the more vanilla sexual actitivies may want and/or need aftercare as well.
Click below to learn more about this potentially essential aspect of sex from Well + Good!
Domme recently brings sub on leash into LA market.
This became somewhat viral and a discussion on consent/whether it is appropriate to bring your kinks into public without the public’s consent ensued.
Decide for yourself by reading this interesting article from VICE!
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Erotica: Alex And Her Master: An NC Fantasy
***all pieces of erotica are based on safe, sane, and consensual practices. We never condone anything that is NOT consensual.
The pretty blonde girl in the red scoop-necked dress stared from the window of the old barn, her heavy-yet-firm breasts resting fully on the window’s ledge. Her pale blue eyes looked out a thousand yards, seeing nothing, and not wishing to. A soft breeze rustled her more-than-shoulder-length hair as she dreamed while awake. Sad dreams…
Life was too difficult. Painful at times. But normally just overwhelming.
So lost in thought was the petite beauty, that she heard nothing as footsteps crept up behind her. She felt something, though, an infinitely long microsecond before the damp rag clamped hard over her elegant, perfect nose.
“Mmmm-MMMM!”
Strong arms bound her as if by bands of steel. One arm trapped at her side by her assailant, she nevertheless flailed her free arm uselessly in a pitiful attempt to escape. Her fingernails clawed the air as the harsh hand holding the rag over her nose and soft, full lips clamped down even harder still. The sweet smell overwhelmed her. Sparklers began appearing in her eyes, and then the rag went away.
Vaguely conscious, she tried to resist as she felt herself lowered to the rough wooden floor, but her limbs reacted as if made of clay. Her fogged mind ordered them to fight, to resist, to get up and run, but her traitorous limbs refused her orders.
She felt her dress sliding off, her bra, and then her panties. Her fevered brain tried to remember where her shoes were, and then remembered they were on … her feet. She shook her head slightly, trying to clear her mind, and received a reward: another whiff of the rag and its powerful chloroform.
Alex wanted to cry for help. Her newly fogged mind gave the order. She opened her mouth to cry for help. For anyone, anyone, please to come help her…
“Glllllmmmmhhhhh…”
She heard a foreign sound, as if standing outside herself, watching her captor gagging her. She wondered who the pretty girl was, naked but for her shoes, being gagged on the floor of the barn. The tiny corner of her mind that remained clear told Alex that the pretty girl on the floor of the barn, being gagged, was … herself.
Her breathing restricted, her limbs useless, and now what little remained of her piteous cries stifled to silence, Alex collapsed. All resistance ceased as she felt her arms being bound cruelly behind her. First her elbows were cinched and bound ruthlessly tight, so tight that they touched. And then her wrists were bound side-by-side, multiple turns of rope cross-cinching them.
And then, her prostrate body lifted, as if by itself, and more rope passed around her flat, hard abdomen, around twice, then cinched tight. Alex grunted from the compression, exhaling hard, and her gag almost popped loose. She groaned a tiny, mewing groan as the cloth was wedged back between her jaws.
Rope attached itself to the rope around her waist, and then passed deep inside her soft nether lips. Alex whimpered when the rope was snugged tight, and then passed once again into her delicate, private opening and tied far too securely to budge. A loose end from her crotch-rope secured itself to her wrist bonds, anchoring her arms so tightly that she could no longer move them at all.
More doubled strands of ropes around her firm, muscular thighs, above her knees. Alex’s head began to clear…
Still time to escape… she told herself.
And then more doubled strands of rope wended around her ankles, binding them so tightly together that she whimpered when bone touched bone.
Rolled onto her back, fingers pushed her gag fully past her perfect lips, past her glistening white teeth. She thought she might choke, but the expert fingers relented well before that happened. Her eyes fluttered open as she regained more consciousness, and she saw a tall, powerfully built man staring down at her, a broad strip of tape in his hands… She knew he was going to silence her completely. Alex willed her mouth one more time: call for help!
The tape went over her mouth before even the tiniest squeak came forth. And then three more broad, sticky strips, at all angles. A fourth…
Alex knew she was captured and helpless, her mouth sealed shut beyond hope. And no one knew she’d come to the barn. She’d told no one where she was going…
The man picked her up and slung Alex’s limp body over his shoulder. Now half-conscious, she saw the trunk of her car. Open. He laid her gently inside the trunk, and packed blankets and foam all around her. Her hazy thoughts wondered where those things had come from.
“Don’t fight, Alex. And don’t scream. You’ll have plenty of air in here as long as you lie here quietly.”
Alex’s half-fogged brain allowed no response. The man retrieved her clothing and purse, stirred their tracks on the barn floor into an unrecognizable hash of dirt and old straw, and deposited Alex’s things in the trunk with her, then closed it, leaving her in the pitch-black darkness. Alex whimpered quietly, wondering what would happen next.
She felt the front end of her car go up, felt it moving, and then the sound of a tow-truck winch became clear to her.
I’m being kidnapped!
A minute later, perhaps two, she felt the motion as the tow-truck drove away.
To be continued…
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BDSM Scene ideas – Bondage with leather
My girl and I engage in a great deal of bondage play, the vast majority of it leading to either coitus or some form of mutual orgasm (multiples for her; alas, a single one for me). And while I can certainly appreciate the artistry and eroticism involved in the slow, determined application of elaborate ropework/shibari/kinbaku, the few times we’ve personally engaged in such activities we’ve found ourselves frustratingly stymied by the inevitable.
It’s like this; if it takes an hour to get her wrapped up in all that rope, it takes damn near and hour to get her out. With an equal amount of focus and attention. And while there may well be an erotic appeal to all that time involved in getting her wrapped up, when it’s time to get involved in some erogenic frenzy, we both want her freed from her bonds tout de suite. And it’s not as if we’re going to be taking a knife to those hemp ropes we both spent so much time and effort washing, conditioning, and treating.
This being the case, we’ve found any number of quick alternatives which create both the close constriction she finds appealing, as well as the bondaged security on her which I crave. In short, they’re any number of quick bondages, easy on/easy off, although the former can be drawn out for an extended period for the previously mentioned erotic appeal.
Of course, I’ve already talked about several of those here; cling film, duct tape, zip ties, handcuffs, they all have their appeal, their advantages and disadvantages. Cling film, in particular, is especially versatile (notably when combined with duct tape) as it can be used for mummification-type bondages or cinched up into an improvised rope.
But the thing I’ve been using for the 30-some-odd years that I’ve been actively tying up intimate partners is leather, specifically belts, mittens, armbinders, and other assorted paraphernalia. And I have to say that during that time, I’ve accumulated quite a collection, one I wouldn’t recommend anyone try to duplicate in a short time (unless you’re Christian Grey levels of rich).
I’ll take a quick time-out here to indicate that pretty much every girl I’ve bound in leather has found the experience to be extremely pleasurable, with many going directly into subspace. Additionally, those who’re otherwise experienced with rope found the leather bondage to be a very different one.
To start with, there are the belts. You can accumulate quite a collection from your local thrift store very inexpensively (one store in town has all of their belts priced at $2.00). You can use them for wrapping wrists, ankles, arms, and legs. Thin belts can be used to cinch the wider one for extra tightness (or you can just use shoelaces). It’s amazingly easy to make belts pleasurably tighter by tugging for that extra notch (it also isn’t a bad idea to acquire a leather punch to add holes along the entirety of your belts).
You can take your time wrapping your girl in belt after belt after belt after belt, creatively finding new places to strap them into place, always tugging them tighter and tighter until she’s practically bulging around them, like a sausage. And if she finds them to be too tight, it’s a very simple matter to loosen or remove them entirely without disturbing the integrity of the bondage as a whole.
Best of all, as your intimate play progresses, you can progressively, easily, remove strap after strap until she’s entirely free. At which point she’ll likely go crazy on you.
I moved on from thrift store belts some years back and these days almost exclusively utilize the “Lexus” of belts made by the inimitable “Leather by Danny” (https://leatherbydanny.com/shop/en/). Not only are his straps the best on the market, he also manufactures a back binder which makes securely adding multiple straps to someone’s upper body remarkably easy. I’ll personally vouch for the quality of his merchandise, as well as his personal service in standing behind his products.
I suppose it goes without saying that leather straps can be used quite effectively in combination with the inevitable leather cuffs most people keep in their toybags. These, combined with any of the myriad of carabiners and other connectors which are easily (and inexpensively) accumulated from your local hardware store leave you with a variety of opportunities limited only by your imagination.
Moving on from simple belts and cuffs, we get into more advanced bindings, such as gloves, mittens, armbinders, and armbags, all of which are rather pricey but which leave a girl hopelessly and helplessly bound. Some lace up, some buckle, some have both, but all have the advantage of keeping a gal’s mischievously probing hands and fingers well in check, amping up the frustration factor considerably.
Finally, for the ultimate leather bondage, there’s the bodybag, or sleepsack, which will keep someone tied-up, strapped in, and strapped down like some sort of leather mummy. Even I don’t have one of these… yet. Watch this space.
In the end, leather bondage can be a lot of fun, a unique, pleasurable experience, easy-on and easy-off, and one which, while it can be tested inexpensively, can ultimately be a real budget buster. Give it a try and you may find those ropes collecting dust in no time.
PirateStan has been involved in his local BDSM community since 2007, after having had a lifelong inclination towards it. He currently lives a contented life in Southeastern Virginia with his girl, zeirah, while working by day for a Major Metropolitan Publication.
This week in kink news: September 14, 2020
A lot of universities are throwing events through the Let’s Talk About Sex series to de-stigmatize sexuality, BDSM, LGBTQIA topics, and so much more!
In our opinion this is a great thing for students to be exposed to.
NUS’s rope bondage event was recently cancelled that was put on by this series due to claims saying that the event “promoted violent sexual fantasies.”
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New California bill states that an individual doesn’t have to be labeled a sex offender if the age gap is less than ten years between offendee and offender.
The bill does not legalize sex with minors, but rather gives judges the ability to evaluate whether or not an individual be charged as a sex offender.
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Victoria Rage, a Seattle-based Dominatrix, talks about her recent request due to the pandemic.
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This week in kink: September 7, 2020
Into impact? Curious about being spank? Have a burning desire to consensually spank a partner?
Then you should check out this awesome list of paddles from Refinery29! Click below to learn more!
If you’re into documentaries and/or sex you won’t want to miss this extensive list of Netflix’s best sex documentaries brought to you by Decider After Dark.
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Fascintaed by Shibari?
If so, definitely check out this awesome article on Tension, Montreal’s Shibari studio!
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This week in kink: June 4, 2018
A lot of people struggle with telling their partners about their kinks. Click here to read advice from Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, about this subject.
Don’t miss the Kink Community featured in the New York Times! One of their reporters pays a visit to the Eulenspiegel Society, and presents an honest, non-biased view of our community.
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A Mom of two has launched her own site, called Brazen, dedicated to the exploration and education of swinging, domination, and rope bondage.
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Mistress Eva- https://www.youwillpleaseme.com/
Mistress Eva- Jean Paul Gaultier brings Dominatrix apparel to the ballet.
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