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Incubus

May 21, 2018 By sleepingirl 8 Comments

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Dreams are funny, fickle things.

She woke with the memory of large, masculine hands pushing her down roughly, but in such a wanted way. Pinning her as the weight of his body began pressing down on her own. His legs  straddled hers, and just that pressure on her hips was enough to make her come undone and push up to try to grind against him.

It was a tiny snippet of a dream memory, but it was so vivid and so outrageously explicit compared to what she was used to that it played in her mind all day. Distracting her through work, through her commute back and forth, and through the quiet dinner by herself in front of the TV.

She knew what her friends would say about something like this — “It’s been too long since you’ve been laid,” or “You should really get back out there,” or “This is what you get for never really learning how to masturbate.”

Oh well. Maybe it was a sign of some sort. Maybe she should go out drinking with the girls this Friday. Get the social juices flowing. She wasn’t going to have a one night stand — really not her style — but a bit of flirting here and there wouldn’t kill her.

As she lay down to go to bed, she couldn’t help but think once more about the heat of another body on top of hers.


“Give me a little taste.” A rough whisper went straight to her pussy. She was disoriented, head fuzzy and swimming, but her mouth opened into a soft moan as though her control over her body had thoroughly eroded.


Again, she felt warm weight on top of her — much more tangible than yesterday — with the tantalizing addition of his hot breath against her ear and neck.

“Come on, baby.” A knee shifted its way between her thighs, nudging them apart. “You want it bad now, don’t you?”

“Yes…” she felt herself whimper. Her voice sounded so far away with a tone so unlike her own. But her body was yielding to this man, humping against his leg as it settled in at her cunt.

“’Atta girl,” he growled, and began kissing and biting at the soft skin on her neck. His mouth felt like the most intense, electric point of contact. It was as though her entire world narrowed down to it; she was obsessing over his tongue and teeth. Her pussy clenched and tingled, arousal taking over as her hips began snapping up against him. Her mind fuzzed at the edges even further as she began to lose her grip on reality…

“Just let it all out. I bet you taste so sweet… Let go to me. It’ll feel so good…”

She moaned softly as her legs spread, and everything darkened around her.


When she woke, she was so, so wet and tingly that she actually pressed a hand between her legs in a desperate attempt to relieve some of it.

She was so sensitive that it shocked her, and she found herself so tempted to continue. But outside, it was still pitch black, the dead of night. She was exhausted, and the morning would creep up on her.

With a breath, she rolled over and closed her eyes, this time slipping into a dreamless, deep sleep.

The next day was no easier than the day before. She went back and forth from her door to the car three times because of things she left on the counter. There was always the option of calling in for a sick day, but it seemed ridiculous to take the day off because of… Sex dreams.

She took her lunch break at a coffee shop nearby, hoping that a change of scenery would jolt her out of her fantasy land or split through the haze that seemed to cover her mind. Instead, she found herself still distracted, staring off into the distance, fixing her gaze somewhere and forgetting to move it.

Worse still, she was noticing all of the men in the shop more than she ever had. She had no urge to have sex with each one, but just their presence seemed to remind her of the feel of those hands, that mouth, that…

She blushed and sighed while gazing into her hot mug of coffee.

The rest of the day passed her by as though she was in a sort of trance. She was on autopilot from her return to work all the way to parking in the driveway. When she got home, she thought about finishing what she started last night, but the thought of touching herself seemed too embarrassing.

Maybe that was part of it too; Masturbating would be showing weakness. Lack of control. After the day she just had that was the last thing she wanted to feel.

With a small smile and a sense of pride, she went through her nightly rituals: dinner, TV, shower, tucking herself into bed.

Secretly, or not so secretly, she was looking forward to sleep.


“Who are you?” she whispered. Dazzled by his eyes, his touch, his skin. It was like he was made to bring her to ecstasy — or perhaps she was made for his touch.

It all blended together as he chuckled.

“You know what I am,” he murmured as he slid down to be able to take one of her nipples between his lips and tease it. Hot sparks shooting down to her belly. “Deep down.”

She wasn’t confident she knew anything at this point except her desire for more, more, more. She wanted him. She wanted his cock inside of her.

“If you want something you have to ask for it.” There was a glint in his eye that was entirely unsettling.

Again, her mouth moved as though she had no control over it. It was as if her voice was being forced out of her:

“Fuck me,” she moaned. “Please…”

He drew up immediately with a laugh, gripped her thighs, forced her legs apart, and pulled her closer so that her pussy was obscenely pressed against the bulge in his pants.

“You want this,” he said as he slowly ground his pelvis into hers.

She didn’t care what he was saying. Everything he was doing was making her hot. Dimly, she became aware that her mouth was chanting, “Yes, yes, yes, yes…”

“You want my cock. You want me to consume you. Nothing else is good enough for you.”

His clothes were suddenly gone, and she cried out as she felt his bare cock sliding up and down her pussy lips, hot and hard and huge against her.

She needed it inside of her. Some alien desire had nested itself in her mind and wouldn’t release her. She was obsessed. Her hips bucked against him. He took hold of his cock at the base, and slapped it against her cunt a few times. It felt like she would go delirious with need.

Swiftly, he gathered her wrists, and pinned them above her head in one large hand. With the other, he lined his throbbing dick up with her pussy. She could feel the blunt head of it threatening to breech her. She gasped, frozen in that moment in time like it was going to last forever.

His eyes flicked from the sight between her legs up to her face.

“You have willingly accepted me into your body,” he growled, slowly, so slowly pushing his hips forward to open her up. “Now I will feed on your pleasure until I am full, or until you are lost.”

She heard none of it. Her pussy was being stretched around his huge cock, and the sparks of heat in her belly were overwhelming her. Time slowed as she threw her head back and moaned and shook, helpless to do anything but let him sink into her. It should’ve hurt, but there was no pain, no discomfort. Just a deep, intense fullness.

When his pelvis was flush to hers, he leaned down with a satisfied groan.

“You taste so good, baby…”

Her thighs quivered as he pulled out slightly and thrust back in. Then again… Finally, he released her hands and gripped her hips as he fucked into her with earnest. The friction of his cock against her insides sent her spiraling down into a feeling of pleasure she had never known before.

She could feel herself growing weaker as he fucked her at a brutal pace, but even that seemed to arouse her further. Moans tumbled out of her lips. It felt as though she was permanently building up to an orgasm that would never come, or perhaps she was just continuously having one and couldn’t tell the difference. The head of his dick was hitting some deep spot inside of her that she couldn’t get enough of. Her legs were beginning to flop uselessly.

“Yes, yes, give it all up to me…” His voice had taken on a more guttural tone, and she tried to hold her head up to look at him to see him — to see what he was. Through her blurred vision, she seemed to see the outline of his body shifting and changing. But she had no strength, and her head rolled back down again; she was stuck helplessly laying there, getting fucked by someone — or something — completely foreign to her.

His grunts and moans were addictive; she wanted nothing more than for this man or this creature to pleasure itself with her body. She could feel her consciousness slipping, and she struggled to hold on just to stay here, to keep feeling this good. She had lost total control of her voice — her own groans and gasps echoed in her ears.

His deep thrusts became even more violent, shaking her entire body until she finally lost her grip on her awareness… And finally, eventually, she blacked out.


She woke suddenly, startled, in a cold sweat. Shaking almost violently. The kind of sudden awakening where even though she was in her own bed, she forgot where she was for a few, long seconds.

…Oh, fuck. That dream. Oh, fuck.

She glanced at the clock on her nightstand. It was only 3 AM. Thank God. Plenty of time to sleep before work. She gave a shuddering sigh and leaned back on her headboard. Her body still felt weak. Her pussy was still tingling from the dream.

As she reached over to ensure that her alarm was set properly for the next morning, her hand brushed against something — a small, folded piece of paper. Curious, she picked it up, and turned the light on to investigate.

One word was scrawled on it, in black, barely legible cursive:

“Delicious.”


About the Author:

sleepingirl is a passionate writer, presenter, and podcaster who has been active in the public kink community since 2012. She is a switch who lives happily together in a polyamorous 24/7 D/s triad with her Master and her slave, and teaches at events across the US. With a love for erotic hypnosis and all things psychological, she frequently writes erotica about this deeply hot, intense, and cerebral play, as well as educational or erotic nonfiction about her real life experiences with brainwashing and trance. She also has more broad interests in kink, including rope, sadomasochism, CNC, and service dynamics, which find their way into her blogging and teaching. Along with her slave, she hosts an erotic hypnosis podcast, “Two Hyp Chicks”, where they have a couple drinks, speak on a topic, and do live trance sessions in each episode.

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Punishment

May 21, 2018 By Baadmaster 9 Comments

eva-2Mistress Eva with sub. Check out more pictures at https://www.youwillpleaseme.com/

One of the most popular — and exciting — features of D/s is the training of a submissive by a Dom/me. Usually this entails the use of both positive and negative reinforcement – the negative side typically being punishment. I had covered the technical aspects of punishment in two previous articles here on kinkweekly.com – The Punishment Manual Part 1 (https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-baadmaster/punishment-manual-part/) and The Punishment Manual Part 2 (https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-baadmaster/punishment-manual-part-ii/ ). But I wanted to address many questions that remained with regards to punishment.

I also wished to add a warning that BDSM life in the year 2018 would require. Unless you are in a long-term D/s relationship – and even if you are – I would take one important step before you start to train any submissive. Make sure you have a signed and/or videoed consensuality agreement with the submissive you are training – especially if you are using serious physical punishment in your schooling. In this day and age, one can never be too careful. Now back to the topic at hand!

Ideally, when a Dominant starts to train a submissive, the object is to mold the sub to the Dom/me’s specifications. The traditional BDSM  – and most effective — way to do this is though the judicious use of punishment…and reward. Contrary to myth, punishment (meaning something the submissive truly hates as opposed to a spanking which he/she may secretly enjoy) by itself will not train a submissive or a slave successfully. Or at least not as effectively as the use of both punishment and reward.

In general terms, the Dominant trains his submissive to please him or her. One of the most fun things in BDSM (and surely the most popular) is training a submissive in ways to please the Dominant sexually. The Dom/me might train his/her submissive how to pleasure him/her orally, how to dress in a way that turns him/her on, how to make-up and even how to walk.  So let’s peek into a submissive’s diary to see what being “trained to please your Master” really entails. (This is an actual slave’s diary!)

Sir called me over to present myself for inspection. I knew the routine well. After all, he had been training me to do it exactly his way for a month now. And his punishment for getting it wrong – sitting in the corner for an hour – is just too painful to bear. I spread my legs – bare, wearing five inch high heels and no panties as He had instructed – and stood in front of him, eyes cast down. He touched my pussy. He felt it. He put his fingers in it, into “his property” as he called it. I felt a rush of pride until he told me that I hadn’t done an acceptable job shaving my pussy.  

He stared at me in silence, then he punished me by slapping my face once. It did not hurt; but it was so humiliating. I do not think I will ever forget to shave to his specifications again.  It was that humiliating.

He then had me suck his cock.  I did it exactly the way he had trained me, the ways he likes it.  I was scared I might displease him like before; but he told me “good slave” as he got hard as a rock. Sir then had me use my hands to make him cum. Afterward, he praised me and told me how much I pleased him. This was made me feel so wonderful.   I love pleasing Sir so much.

(Note: if this slave ever had “buyer’s remorse” for the face slapping, you will be glad you have a signed and/or videoed consensuality agreement. It is not ironclad legal insurance, but it sure helps if problems arise.)

In this above case, both punishment and reward were used so that the Dominant could get his slave to do things exactly the way he desired them. The punishment, in this case, did not entail extreme pain. A simple face slap did the trick because this Master understood his submissive well enough to know what she truly hated. Many times a Dominant automatically thinks a spanking or even a caning is the proper punishment. This is not necessarily the case — and surely not for a “painslut” (slang for a submissive who enjoys pain). The best punishment is that which the submissive hates. But the Dominant should never forget reward, either.

This use of both punishment and reward applies to non-sexual tasks as well. In BDSM “discipline” training – which ranges from proper use of etiquette to complex presentation rituals — the principles remain the same. A Dominant who only uses punishment as a training tool is using only half of his arsenal.

Of course, the obverse is true. Reward alone, too, is usually an inefficient training tool.  When a submissive fails in tasks or training, swift punishment is perhaps the only way to call attention to this failure.

The Dominant, much like a parent, should strive to make all punishments consistent.   And they should be administered in a calm manner. The Dom/me who loses his/her temper and punishes out of rage will lose his submissive’s respect. And maybe his submissive too!

 

About the Author:

After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

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The Initiation of Cora: Part 3

May 14, 2018 By Ernest Greene and Nina Hartley 7 Comments

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For Part 2 click here 

For Part 1 click here


Wherever there is enough money there is a woman willing to do nearly anything to get it.

Tonight was Daniela’s first public appearance since losing her final hunt. I can imagine why she’d stayed out of circulation for a while after that gruesome experience.

Herrmann slowed down a bit and we turned into a parking area in front of a well-lit pub. The parking lot was huge. On a Saturday night it was bustling with about a dozen small and large semi-trucks, many motorcycles and ranks of cars.

Herrmann took his time finding a spot while Daniela squirmed miserably in her seat. He finally parked and got out, walking around the vehicle and opening the sliding door to the middle row. Since Daniela sat to the far left we all had to climb out with her. I wasn’t standing next to the car for twenty seconds before someone whistled loudly and a man’s voice shouted something in Slovakian.

Daniela clasped her gown in front of her to cover her naked breasts and looked to Herrmann for help. He motioned with his head for her to follow him and walked toward the pub. The man who had whistled gathered up some of the others standing by their motorcycles. A crowd began to form, cutting off Herrmann and Daniela. It was difficult for Daniela to hold her gown shut in the front but she did her best, too well aware of what could be revealed at the slightest misstep. The urgency of her pent-up need made concentration even harder. Not a great condition to be in when entering a place like this.

I turned to Federico.

“Do you really think this is a good idea?”

He peered after them, just like Franklin and the Consigliere. He waved away my concerns with a casual hand gesture.

“You don’t have to worry about this, Princess.”

My insides frequently boiled with anger when Federico and Franklin were together. They brought out the worst in each other. Often Alexander’s good sense kept them out of serious trouble but I always worried about Federico’s impulsiveness and what consequences it might have during a momentary lapse of Alexander’s attention. I saw Herrmann and Daniela stop and stand in front of the group, but due to the noise from the traffic, I couldn’t make out what was being said. I mean, Herrmann was two meters tall and about as wide, but against these six or seven guys he was really going to have some trouble if things got serious.

Cora nudged me. She was able to hold the gown together at the top to hide her breasts, but if you were to have looked closer, you could have seen her naked pussy.

“Can Herrmann speak Slovakian, or who is in charge now?”

I shrugged my shoulders carefully, clutching at the front of my own gown. Just meters in front of us, two juveniles walked by and stared at us blatantly.

“No idea. Really, no idea.”

The men suddenly burst out laughing. Daniela pulled up the gown in the front. Everyone stared at her as she displayed herself.  That seemed to work, as Daniela closed her gown and disappeared into the venue with Herrmann following slightly behind. The crowd, however, seemed to be waiting for her return. Cora and I stood next to the car, clasping our clothing and hoping this small interruption would soon pass. I had a bit of experience with these “open” sessions and knew how fast something like this could get very uncomfortable. Cora was cold and nervous about her approaching initiation. This situation wasn’t helping with that either.

Daniela and Herrmann emerged from the building side-by-side after about ten minutes, the time it usually takes for a woman to use the restroom. Everything seemed to have gone well inside. In front, however, the men with the motorcycles were still waiting. I looked at the Consigliere and then to Federico. Alexander leaned on the open passenger door where he carefully observed the situation. I knew some things about Alexander’s past that were slightly reassuring. He was no stranger to tense encounters.

Federico and Sir Franklin went on discussing trusts and paying little attention to what was happening outside.

My eyes met Federico’s. He detected my irritation at what I felt to be a completely avoidable and possibly perilous interruption of our journey.

“Relax, Princess. Herrmann has things under control. If you annoy us, I will think up something very special for you during the Soiree tonight, understood?”

I knew this threat from Federico was to be taken seriously. He wouldn’t hesitate to make good on it, possibly resulting in a great challenge for me. My sore ass was a cautionary reminder of what that could mean. I don’t know and will never know if I ever really loved Federico, but at that moment I was quite sure I hated him.

At the same time, what he said triggered a surge of fear, anticipation and horniness in me. I had been hot between the thighs all day. Familiar with the soirees, I knew I would be had by many men with plenty of crops, whips, wax, and more to cause me pain or pleasure at their will.  

As always, these prospects inspired a delicious fear hard to describe. It was exactly this edgy apprehension that made my cunt drip like a leaking faucet. My dark desires.

Herrmann and Daniela stood in the middle of the group for a few moments. They were all laughing and talking in Slovakian. Again, I was reminded of what a useful man he was to The League Herrmann was. The guys all laughed now, one of them rubbing his crotch. We were not safe yet.

Herrmann stepped behind Daniela, pulled her gown apart, removed it and laid it over his arm. He took her by the wrists and held them behind her head. What remained of the dress now presented her breasts and pussy perfectly. For ten minutes the hands of the lead motorcycle guy were all over her. At one point I heard her scream out shrilly. She told me later that the guy in leathers had rammed three fingers all the way into her cunt.

Fortunately for her, ten minutes was all they got. Herrmann pushed the mob to the side and Daniela, stumbled on uneasy legs across the parking lot towards us. She was shaking hard when she got in the car.

“Let’s go ladies,” Herrmann said. “The show is over.”

Cora and I helped the still-trembling Daniela back into her costume. She looked none the worse for her ordeal but the memory of terror lingered in her eyes.

We drove south from Bratislava in the direction of the Danube. In a small and unremarkable village, Herrmann suddenly turned up a narrow but well paved alleyway. After about a kilometer the asphalt ended at a wrought-iron gate, which stood open.

Spotlights had been affixed on both the yellow-painted stone pillars to light the entryway. Between the two pillars stood six men in black suits. Their heads were all shaved and the smallest of them was the size of a refrigerator. Their purpose in being there wasn’t hard to guess.

Herrmann uttered a code word to the chief security guy, who had a headphone plugged into his ear. Herrmann showed him our six invitations. We were waved through. Yet another security guard showed us to our parking spot. The three of us women teetered along the white gravel, followed by our Mentors, toward the entrance. Torches burned everywhere. Their warm light mixed with the long shadows poured into the courtyard, creating an unearthly golden glow.  The house was long and large with a flat roof in the contemporary style. It oozed wealth, typically for the locations of soirees. The wind was bitterly cold under my gown. My feet were like blocks of ice in those sandals, but comfortable compared to yesterday’s harrowing hike through The Castle’s fields.

A final security detachment greeted us at the entrance, checking our invitations one more time. Nothing here would be left to chance except our fates. The double doors opened and we stepped into the warmth of a sprawling hallway. The melody from the 1975 film starring the wonderful Corinne Clery drifted from hidden speakers.

In front of a mirror on the back wall stood a woman of fifty-something in breathtaking O garb and a golden mask. She greeted us with an elegant curtsey. She had large, natural looking breasts with dark areolas and erect nipples, supported by her bodice like ours. From her fully shaved triangle hung silver chains that jingled softly as she moved. The woman introduced herself in English as Nadine and ushered us into a side room while the men were taken into the bar area by another blond woman who seemed to appear out of nowhere, dressed identically to Nadine. I recognized her but not from The League. It was not unusual to run into guests familiar from elsewhere at these events, but bad form to mention it. I was still trying to figure out who she was when three men dressed in livery appeared in the deep, narrow coatroom. Each held a thin fiberglass cane in hand. Nadine spoke softly.

“These men will do the inspection, ladies. Remember the rules of an O. They are taken very seriously here and the punishments are harsh.”

With that, she was gone. I looked down obediently and listened as her chains jingled off into the distance. The men with the fiberglass canes circled us, closely checking out every detail of what we wore, how our faces were made up, our postures and the neatness of our trimmed foliage. We must have passed muster, as we were shown out into the vast, high-ceilinged entry hall.

On this chilly March night, not far from Bratislava, Cora would or would not become an O of The League. Federico and I had only been to a “Nuit d’ O” once before. At such events the elements of the novel and film weren’t merely mimicked. They were literally reenacted. The women at this soiree all wore beautiful dresses like ours – the garments worn at Roissy: expensive materials meticulously fitted, tightly laced bodices and strategically draped-open skirts. Everywhere I looked I saw naked breasts, exposed pussies and bare asses. Most of the women were shaved completely, though some had small, trimmed triangles or “landing strips” as the Consigliere liked to call them. Many of the women wore rings or chains on their nipples and bits. Some had tattoos on their breasts, pubic mounds, or derrieres with the symbol of O, or some design indicating ownership by a certain man. I saw at least four women with brandings on their tailbones or shoulders. I was spared such things primarily because Federico understood the ins and outs of the modeling business and knew that tattoos, piercings, and brandings would have ended my promising and lucrative career.

All of the women wore very high, very beautiful and very expensive shoes. Many also wore silk stockings. I think Cora and I were the only women with naked feet in sandals. This may have had something to do with the time of year, when the cold always reminded us of how easily we could be made to suffer, but more likely our lack of stockings reflected the love for beautiful feminine feet shared by Federico and the Consigliere.

I found this kind of initiation much more elegant and dramatic than the ones held in The Castle, which were less formal and more practical. I really liked the exquisite costumes, the splendid house, the elegant atmosphere, the candles, the music and, of course, the champagne.

The liveried men instructed us sternly in Slavic-accented German. We were to keep our eyes averted in the presence of all men and were only allowed to speak if spoken to. We were to keep our legs apart at all times and forbidden to cross them under any circumstances. Our painted lips were to be slightly parted at all times, whether to receive a tender kiss or a hard cock.

If any of the men present, including all guests and servants of the house, showed even the smallest interest in us, we were to touch our breasts, asses or pussies and encourage further exploration. The degree of our availability was signified by the colors of our collars. The liveried men explained the meaning of each color, though Daniela and I were already familiar with how they were coded.

Green collared O’s were not to be used prior to the midnight ceremony, although they could be touched and examined everywhere. The only green collars were worn by Nadine, the wife of the owner of the house and organizer of the event, and by Cora. A black collar meant only sexual play was allowed: no restraints, no suspension, no whipping. For blue-collared O’s, torture of any kind was permitted but no sexual use. Not surprisingly I saw only two of these. Either the wearers were extreme masochists or their owners had purely sadistic motives.

Red-collared girls like me were assured of a busy night. We were subject to nearly unlimited sexual use – oral without a condom, including swallowing service, (thanks, Federico.) as well as vaginal and anal penetration with protection. I was happy with the last part because this wasn’t always the case in The League.

I knew I could and almost certainly would be tortured in one way or another. I felt a little shaky in the knees at the thought but also a fresh upwelling of heat through my sore cunt. My body thinks with more than one organ at a time it seems.

It was the job of the liveried men to assure that any misunderstandings were taken care of discreetly and that the rules were followed to the letter.

All of the attendees seemed aware that tonight was Cora’s initiation and that she would receive her ring. She was congratulated by many of the other women and assured that everything would be wonderful and that she should enjoy the process of becoming an O. As if whips, clips, wax, and who-knows-what wouldn’t hurt like hell and the men wouldn’t act like complete animals who expected to brutally ram an O in the cunt, ass or mouth this would surely be a delightful occasion for Cora. I looked away so she wouldn’t see my sardonic grin.

My rump was still covered in severe marks from yesterday. The hazelnut switches didn’t just hurt at the moment of impact. The pain lingered long afterward. Imre and his colleague had really hit me hard. Their forty-eight strokes had left my ass cheeks a deep red color, severely welted and even lightly cut in a few places. Looking in one of the grand, guilt-framed mirrors on the walls I saw how my bottom glowed underneath the canopy of my hiked up dress like a baboon butt. Nobody seemed troubled by the evidence of my recent punishment. Such marks were seen as trophies by many of the women. I received plenty of admiring looks and not one bit of sympathy. I doubted they knew or cared what sins I’d committed to win those trophies.

We sat at one of the polished wooden tables spotted around the green marbleized walls – okay I stood most of the time because of my baboon butt – sipped champagne and scooped delicious canapes from passing trays. We socialized with other O’s but lowered our eyes when any of the liveried men came near us. Finally, after what seemed an eternity, a tall, stout man appeared – dressed in a dinner jacket like many of the others but decorated with a red sash appropriate to the opera ball – and asked us to follow him in a straight line. We hurried along behind him in a neat rank as we’d been taught. Following him through the entryway past a bar with a piano, I began to wonder what the owners of this house did all day long. Probably, like most of their class, not a lot.  We clacked on over the marble floor in our high heels to a narrow, curved stairway winding down toward an underground level.

It was cooler down there but still not uncomfortably cold, in contrast to the cellar of The Castle, where simply being naked in winter was a punishment in itself. Electric torches with retro-style bulbs flickered everywhere, casting a subdued light to go with the low music. Vangelis was still a favorite of orgy crowds then, which probably dates me in a way I’d wiser avoid. We arrived in a large, vaulted area of old stones and arches, like a catacomb. It must have cost a fortune to construct this medieval retreat beneath a modern mansion. On one wall at yet another bar (hardly in short supply around here) about thirty men in evening dress loitered and gawked, drinks in hand. Due to the averted-eyes ruIe I couldn’t count them accurately, eventually a matter of direct concern no doubt. Our group of about twenty O’s lined up at the wall opposite the bar. We kept our hands at our sides and stood with our legs a bit apart, so the men could see everything that interested them, all framed perfectly by the ingenious design of our dresses.

I’d sized up a few of the O’s before in the waiting room. The oldest of us was in her mid-forties with billowing breasts (one adorned with an “O” tattoo), short black hair and relatively heavy makeup. Her O dress was brown and beige and her noticeably long labia were decorated with three heavy metal rings. She was attractive and quite poised with a haughty look about her.

The youngest one was barely twenty, thin but busty, with curly dark brown hair and a very pretty if rather empty face. She wore an obviously cheap O dress in red and black with a pleated skirt simply slit in front and back. He skin was light, almost white. She could barely walk in her very high plateau sandals, which were a whorish red to match the dress. Her red fingernails and toenails also matched and gold rings decorated her nipples.

It had been made clear during our training that we were not to develop personal affections among us (though of course we did), but rather to concentrate on competing for the men’s pleasure. So I did what I’d learned to do – remain cool, friendly and remote from my sisters lest someone else’s problems become mine. Still, though unspoken, my worries about Cora remained at the back of my mind. I’m not quite the heartless bitch I often appear. She had many of the qualities of an O – powerful appetites and a certain appreciation for the aphrodisiac effects of fear and pain. But The League was not a weekend resort where one came and went. It was a life to be lived inside The Castle or out. I wasn’t sure Cora was right for that life. This was one of those problems not to be made my own.

We were introduced one by one. One of the liveried men read from a list that included real names as well as nicknames of the men and O’s. Each of the men stepped forward to be presented with his O and to enumerate her likes, her dislikes and her limits. Federico surprised me with the announcement that I would be available orally without protection. I had highly regarded skills in this department and preferred to demonstrate them bareback, though not with so many strangers in attendance. Moreover, I don’t like the taste of semen mixed with alcohol and knew that by midnight there would have been plenty of drinking.  I wasn’t sure if this was a demonstration of pride in the skills of his O or revenge for my equally well-known attitude, which annoyed Federico and almost all the other members of The League at one time or another. Otherwise, I was free to be used without any unusual restrictions. Genital or anal penetration required condoms and senseless beatings that could cause irreparable damage were frowned upon in these circles. But clearly, I would be harshly tested that night at my mentor’s instigation. From Federico, who understood me better than anyone, I got something I could find nowhere else, but that didn’t stop me from detesting the way he took advantage of my vices for his own amusement.  He and I were both ever aware of my divided soul.

Cora was last in line. The liveried man even bowed as he announced the initiation of a new O. Alexander stepped forward and almost tenderly guided Cora to the middle of the room. She looked exceptionally beautiful this evening. Her wonderfully firm breasts with their long rosy nipples (particularly erect now from arousal and apprehension), her fair skin, long, straight, black hair, her delicate hands and feet – would wake the dead. Such charms worked to the advantage of any O going through the initiation. Most of the men were successful in business, the majority in or near middle age. They were not young stallions that could last for hours. Most of them depended on some kind of chemical support. Asian Kamagra jelly was definitely a favorite. Some considered it more effective then Viagra, though that belief may have had more to do with its perceived powers than its chemical composition. Only two or three orgasms in the few hours could be expected from these men (with a few notable and rather frightening exceptions). For a girl as desirable as Cora, most couplings would be brief and the presence of so many other attractive women would keep her from being utterly overwhelmed.  

Still, nearly all of the men would save their last shot for the new O, who was only available after her midnight whipping. For more experienced O’s able to appreciate so much attention for its own sake, such desirability offered different advantages. I do like cock and the number of men who would be interested in me would be typically high. Yes, I am that kind of woman. Some men find me intimidating but those who don’t are precisely the ones I prefer.

Connected to the large room with the bar were a few smaller rooms equipped with various specialized furnishings. I didn’t see all of them, but in some there were beds or mattresses while others were equipped with rings everywhere, anchored to the ceiling, walls and floor for conveniently fastening an O to any purpose. There were also implements of torture – racks, wheels, hoists, whipping frames, impalement stands fitted with dildos of all sizes and types. Descending those stairs to this place was like a journey back to the middle ages, or perhaps to hell itself.

After the introduction, the liveried men walked down the row of women and attached leather wrist and ankle cuffs with rings to each of us so the men wouldn’t have to tie or untie us every time they wanted to fasten us to something. As the last padlock clicked shut on my right ankle-cuff, two large- bellied older men strolled over for a look. I lowered my eyes, gladly in this instance. One of them took me by my upper arm and led me toward a room in the back. Neither of them said a word. They stood me in front of a type of pillory and explored my body with their hands.

“Wet.” said one of them with a strong Slavic accent, his fingers already in my pussy. The other unzipped his pants and brought forth a wrinkled, semi-stiff penis. The view wasn’t much better down there.

“Blowjob without a condom, yes?”

I nodded and wanted to drop to my knees and make quick work of these two, but the other man held me up by my arm. They opened the pillory, which had holes for my hands and neck, pushed me into the thing and locked it down. I stood, bent forward, at a ninety-degree angle. The guy who wanted a blowjob shoved his penis in my mouth while the other one groped my painfully raw butt. He said something to his friend in their language and they both laughed. He roughly kicked my feet apart. I felt his hard penis on my asshole.

I hate anal sex except when I don’t. Then I love it.

He pushed relentlessly past my sphincters. Though he’d slapped some lube on his cock, a stabbing pain shot up through my body. I screamed into the stomach of the man standing in front of me. That must have pleased him, as he immediately ejaculated into my mouth. As soon as his buddy was done with my backside they ambled out with a final slap on my poor ass, leaving me standing in the pillory. Everywhere I heard the sounds of the party cranking up: whip cracks, cries of pain and cries of lust. Lifting my head as far as I could, I noticed a sort of peephole in the wall in front of me. Through it I could see into the next room where three men were fucking a slender redhead in a snow-white O-dress. They rolled her onto her back, blocking my nice view with a black tuxedo jacket. I was starting to hate this pillory thing already.

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About the Authors: 

Ernest Greene is the author of the well-renowned novel for Daedalus Publishing, Master of O, reinventing the BDSM classic Story of O set in modern Los Angeles and told from the master’s point of view. His previous work includes co-authoring Coming Attractions, the Making of an X-Rated Video with Dr. Robert Stoller (Yale University Press, 1989) and shared credit with his spouse, Nina Hartley on Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex (2006), from Avery Press, a division of USA Penguin Group.

Greene is a longtime member of the Los Angeles BDSM community, joining Threshold when it was still an affiliate of The Society of Janus. He served six terms as Threshold coordinator between 1989 and 1995. He continued to do orientations for new members thereafter and participated in numerous outreaches to academic groups.

Since 1985, Greene has concentrated his efforts mainly in adult entertainment and adult sex education, serving as Executive Editor of the best-selling fetish magazine Hustler’s Taboo since 1999 and most recently as Chief Associate Editor for Hustler’s All-Sex issues.

Ernest Greene, has participated in the production of adult video for three decades as a performer, writer, director and producer. His body of work comprises over five hundred titles, including AVN award winners Strictly for Pleasure, Mask of Innocence, Tristan Taormino’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Jenna Loves Pain. With his wife, Nina Hartley, he has served as producer and director of the Nina Hartley’s Guide series of adult sex education programs for video market leader Adam&Eve Pictures. The series has sold over three quarters of a million videos to date and now comprises forty titles. His own erotic features for Adam&Eve, O – The Power of Submission, Surrender of O and The Truth About O have thus far seen sales nearing 100,000 units, making them among the biggest selling X-rated feature titles in recent years.

Greene is particularly well known for his groundbreaking approach to the presentation of unconventional sexuality related to consensual domination and submission. He has been active in the BDSM community for nearly thirty years, conducting workshops and seminars and serving as an officer of community groups. He is a retired six-term coordinator of Threshold, Southern California’s oldest active pansexual BDSM organization.  His activism also extends to the world of adult video production, where he held the position of chairman of the board of directors of The Adult Industry Medical Healthcare Foundation (AIM) for seven years and to his commentaries on the adult industry Blog for Pro-Porn Activism.

Nina Hartley is a pioneering feminist sex  worker, using her body in the service of promoting a sexually sane and literate society. She is thrilled to see a new generation of sex-positive performer/activists take its space and spread the good news about sex. Active as a performer since 1982, her rock-solid commitment to the importance of sexual autonomy has fueled Ms. Hartley’s career in adult entertainment. As a performer, director, writer, educator, public speaker, and feminist thinker for all, no matter their orientation, she’s traveled the world to deliver her message. She believes that sexual freedom is a fundamental human right and welcomes the new social media opportunities for spreading her message of knowledge and empowerment to the widest number of people. She’s the author of, “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex,” from Avery Press. Putting to use her B.S. degree in nursing, she and her husband, Ernest Greene, have produced the million-selling sex-ed video series collectively known as  “The Nina Hartley Guides,” from Adam & Eve, currently in its 38th episode.  Still active in front of the camera, she and her husband live in Los Angeles.

Ernest’s Website: masterofo.com

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Black Friday Cuckold: Part 1

May 7, 2018 By Katie Ryan 8 Comments

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Disclaimer: This is a work of fiction. Katie and Kink Weekly are in no way saying that anything done should ever be non-consensual, cross any hard limits, or put anyone in serious danger-mentally, physically, spiritually, or emotionally. We are also not condoning or supporting cuckolding as a way to salvage one’s relationship. Again, cuckolding should always be consensual and at the very least be a soft limit for everyone involved. Disclaimer done. Enjoy the story!


The day Travis Warner moved in next door, I had already made plans to leave my husband. Two years was enough time to give it a shot. Two years was enough time to realize that this was not the life I had always wanted.

Five months after we were married, I walked in on him fucking his secretary on my side of the bed. There was a part of me that was actually surprised that she would even be into him, given that he had never been very good at pleasing me in bed.  

Cindy Benson was her name and she ran so fast out of my house, I am not entirely sure she had gotten dressed.

Something inside me broke that night.

I had packed a bag that night, screaming at him, so loudly I lost my voice.  He had gotten down on his knees and begged. I had never seen him cry before.

“Please Krista, I have a problem, please she means nothing, please don’t go.”

We hadn’t even been married a full year before he felt the need to whore himself out.

“I have needs, Krista!” he cried  through the locked bathroom door.

“And I don’t?” I pounded my fists hard against the wooden frame.

That was the night I threw the lamp at his head. It crashed in millions of little ceramic pieces all of the floor.

Ultimately I stayed.  My father was still paying off the elaborate wedding, and I just could not admit to my mother that she had been right about divorce lawyers.

“Fucking, Scum. of. The. earth.” My mother was not known for mincing words. She hated James from the very beginning, and didn’t bother to hide it.

“I see how these things play out, Krista, I see it every fucking day, you don’t want to get caught up in a messy divorce.” he lightly kissed my forehead before grabbing a cup of coffee.

Every morning, for the past two years had been exactly the same. He talked about how horrible divorce was, he drank his coffee, read the newspaper and pretended like he wasn’t a giant fucking asshole.

I tried to avoid sex at all costs, no matter how hard I tried I could not get the vision of his tiny dick pumping into Cindy out of my head.

“Not tonight, James, I’m on my period.” I rolled over, staring out the window.

“I don’t mind, I think that would be really fun.” James grabbed at my waist.

“Don’t be disgusting.” I pushed his hands away.

“Well then I’m going to go MASTURBATE in the bathroom!” He kicked the covers off, and retreated to the bathroom.

“Use the fucking guest bathroom, I don’t want to hear you moaning!” I shouted.

The day Travis Warner moved in next door, I had already emptied my secret bank account, had three bags packed, and studio apartment paid for, first last and security.

I had most all my bags together, when my doorbell rang.

A stunning black man was standing on my porch. He was honestly the hottest man I had ever seen in my life.

“Hi there!” He extended his hand, “Travis Warner, I just moved in.” He pointed behind him, to the moving truck.

I tried to speak, but I couldn’t take my eyes off his body. He was dressed casually, clearly he had been moving heavy furniture because he was slightly sweaty.

Travis was well over six feet, his hands were large and surprisingly silky.

He was muscular in all the right places,  I couldn’t help but stare at his body, wondering what he looked like without his clothes.

Travis looked past me to the bags stacked by the staircase. “You going on a trip? I’m sorry I didn’t mean to interrupt you just wanted to say hi and introduce myself.”

It took me a minute to realize he was referring to the suitcases behind me.

“No, uh, just doing some cleaning.” I smiled, wishing I was wearing something sexier.

“So are you here with your family?” I looked behind him, at the driveway expectantly.

“No, No, just me, I didn’t actually  catch your name.”

I stuck my hand out again, excited for a reason to touch him, “Sorry, God, I’m a stupid woman, Krista, I’m Krista.”

“So wonderful to meet you Krista, so nice to have such beauty so close to me.”

I blushed so violently I was afraid I might start visibly sweating.

“You are so sweet, thank you, I’m actually, I am married.” I  looked down, feeling ashamed, like James was something to be embarrassed of.

Travis let his eyes travel to my chest, “Lucky, man.” He winked, “Well I better finish unpacking, I look forward to seeing you around, Krista.” His was voice was so deep and smooth, I could have listened to him talk all day.

I stood at the sink, drinking coffee and watching him move all morning, forgetting my plan to leave James.

“Go upstairs and get yourself hard, I want to fuck tonight.” James was about to turn on the TV and zone out watching sports.

“What?” He looked at me amazed.

“Don’t make me repeat what I said, go, now.”

James got out of his chair so quickly he almost tripped over the ottoman.

“Can I watch porn to get myself..”

“I don’t give a flying fuck HOW you get hard, James, just do it.”

I fucked him on top that night. It was the first time in our entire marriage that, I was able to experience an ounce of pleasure. I pictured Travis’s hands on my body the entire time.

Mid way through using James as a dildo, I realized that my bedroom window looked almost directly into Travis’s bedroom. This realization made me ride James even harder, causing his little dick to cum so violently he screamed like a little girl.

“What has gotten in to you, Krista?” He asked, kissing my shoulder.

“Don’t touch me”, I pushed him off, “I need you to go sleep in the guest room, I want to stay up tonight and read.

“I think I like this new side of you,” he said, grabbing his robe, “ I think I am going to touch myself again thinking about you.”

“You will not touch yourself tonight, or ever again until I give you permission, do you understand?” I looked at him, narrowing my eyes, enjoying the look of panic that washed over his face.

“Wait, are you kidding?”

“Do I look like I’m joking?” I waited for him to freak out and convince me to stop ordering him around, but he didn’t, he retreated like a little puppy to the guest room.

Feeling high from my new found power over James, I moved carefully to my bedroom window, watching Travis, move back and forth in his room. I had a front row seat to everything he was doing. Which meant that if he turned around he could see me watching.

I could tell that he was distracted by unpacking sheets and, trying to make his bed. He glanced over at my window, seeing me there, he smiled, and continued pulling the sheets tighter on his bed.

Ever so often he would glace over, and I continued standing there, in my robe, watching, smiling slightly.

He waved a little. I waved back. Feeling dumb, but still feeling confident, I loosened my robe, showing more of my cleavage. Travis stopped what he was doing, sitting down the bed, staring directly at me.

My heart skipped a few beats, having his complete attention.

I started back at him, wondering what would happen if I stood completely naked.

Instead I made a point of making sure he knew I was staring at him. I played with my robe, making my nipples hard, I pinched them through the satin.

Travis didn’t take his eyes off of me, I bit my lower lip, feeling ridiculously aroused.

I thought about getting naked, but figured it was a little too forward for the first night. I waved, once more, before closing the curtains.

Even behind the curtains I could still see Travis sitting on the bed, it took him a full five minutes before he stood up.

The next morning I couldn’t help but open the curtains as I got ready for the day. I didn’t see Travis, and that irritated me slightly. I slipped off my nightgown, standing in my bra and panties. I even moved directly in front of the window, and still I could not see him. Perhaps he was still sleeping.

I showered quickly, hearing James yell through the door. “Bye Krista, I’ll see you later?” He sounded pathetic, and I loved my new found power over him.

“Bye.” I called to him, wrapping my hair in a towel.

I had a plan for the day, and it did not involve planning my escape from James, but instead, to hook Travis.

The morning sunshine was unusually hot. I moved outside to our pool, laying a hot pink towel over the concrete. I mindlessly swam a few laps, getting in some much needed exercises and thinking of reasons why I should happen to drop by Travis’s house unannounced.

I glanced up at Travis’s window, squinting noticing some movement. With one hand I untied my bikini top, freeing my bouncy tits. Laying back I let the sun shine down on my nipples causing them to perk up.

I peeked through my sunglasses noticing Travis standing in the open window.

He seemed unfazed by my tits, “Good morning Krista.” His voice was so deep and smooth, it sent chills racing through my spine.

I pressed up, on my elbows, “Good morning Travis, enjoying the view?”

“I would love to show you exactly how much I am enjoying this view, but sadly I do not think the man I saw leaving your house this morning would enjoy it.

“What man?” I smiled coyly.

“Are you inviting me to your pool, Krista, because I would love to get you all wet.”

“Come get me Travis.”

I honestly had no idea where all my confidence was coming from, but honestly I felt like I was on fire with desire. James had been the only man in my life, and I was so close to leaving the relationship something ignited, I wanted to play with fire.

Travis made his way into my backyard, he had on bright blue swimmer trunks. His body was just as perfect as I thought it would be. His brown skin was shimmering, his abs rippled and contracted as he bent over to set down his water bottle.

I wanted to cover myself, but decided against it, he was certainly acting as if seeing my tits was not a big deal.

“How was your first night in your new house?” I asked, laying back on my towel.

“It was ok, a little lonely.” He adjusted his crotch. I could see the outline of his dick, flacid it was already bigger than anything I had ever seen.

“So judging by the ring on your finger, I am assuming you are married?”

I kept my eyes closed, “When I met you yesterday I was packing up to leave him.”

“Is that so?” Travis laughed softly.

“Yes, but I decided last night that controlling him is much easier.

“Are you a Dom, Krista?” Travis’s eyes gleamed.

I sat up, my boobs falling under my armpits, “I’m sorry, a what?”

“You get satisfaction from ordering little fuck boys around, making them do things for you, controlling their orgasms, making them buy you things, stuff like that.”

“I didn’t know it had a name, James seemed to like it, but at this point I really don’t care what he likes.”

“Said like a perfect Dominatrix, you should look into buying him a cage and locking up his little dick, then let me fuck you.” He looked over at me, expectantly.

I paused for a moment, thinking about James’s face after I demanded that he wear a cage. “That sounds like fun, I wonder how James would react, especially if I locked up his precious dick.”

Travis kneeled next to me, pushing a piece of hair behind my ear, “I’m not going to touch you, not until I get to fuck you into submission.

Shivers raced up my legs, my nipples were so erect I was certain they could cut glass.

“You don’t want to fuck me right here, right now?” I asked, feeling his breath hot on my skin.

He lightly touched my nipple, rubbing slowly, causing me to arch my back with pleasure.

No man had ever touched me like that before, James was always grabbing and groping. Up until this point I had never known how turned on I could actually get. Everything in my body screamed for Travis to touch me.

He laughed softly, tracing his fingers around my neck. “If I put my mouth on you, will you do what I say?”

It was impossible to deny him. Everything about him was different, he was so tender and calm. “Yes, please!” I moaned.

His head moved from my breast down my ribs, where he licked and lightly bit. I couldn’t help but squeal with delight, as he approached between my legs. He paused, lightly touching me over my bikini bottoms. Rubbing, pressing, watching me thrash with pleasure.

“Has James ever gone down on you?”

“What do you mean?” I asked, confused.

“Has he made you cum with his mouth before?”

I honestly had no idea what he was talking about. I shook my head.

Travis grinned ear to ear. He pulled down my bikini bottoms, slowly, pausing only to spread my knees apart. “Lay back beautiful, let me show you what you have been missing.”

He kissed my inner thighs, so softly, It was impossible to relax, as soon as his mouth started kissing my pussy, a bolt of lightening surged through me. I  yelped, grabbing his head.

“OH I think you like this,” he said, continuing to swirl his tongue. He looked up at me, loving the fact that I could not stop shaking. He gently sucked on my clit, slowly than harder, until I bucked and tensed so hard, I thought I could break through the concrete if I really tried.

“I’m going to..” my voice trailed off, as the wave of tingles rushed from my toes to my ears, flushing my body with endorphins.

Travis wiped his mouth, before kissing my stomach and breasts, sucking gingerly on each nipple before kissing my neck.

“Just think, I made you cum that hard with my mouth, think about what I can do with my cock.”

My pussy contracted from the heat of his breath in my ear. I could see how turned on he was, his cock was massive.

“Can I see it?” I asked reaching for the bulge in front of his bathing suit.

“Krista you can do more than see it.” He pulled out his dick, it sprang forward in a perfect arch. It was thick and had to be close to nine inches.

“I don’t think that is going to fit..” I looked at him nervously.

He spit in his hand, and lightly stroked it, moving up and down in perfect rhythm. “Don’t worry baby, I’ll get you good and wet, we will go nice and slow.”

I spread my legs wide, inviting him to try, “Fuck me now Travis, fill me with your big black cock.”

“Krista you don’t realize how much this is going to hurt, you can’t go from a tiny dick to me, I will basically be taking your virginity.”

“I want it.” I spread my pussy with my fingers, showing him how wet and ready I was to take all of his dick.

“You sure you don’t want to move to a bed, or some place a little more comfortable?”

I pulled him towards me, rubbing the head of his cock along my slit. “Make me scream, Travis.”

That was all he needed to hear. He tried to start out slow, pushing in just the tip of his pulsating cock, but I raised my hips quickly, causing him to plunged inside me. He was only halfway in and it hurt. I winced. “Ow, ow,” I pressed my hands to his stomach trying to push him out.

“Relax baby, breathe.” He leaned over me, kissing my neck, and gently started fucking me. With each thrust he got deeper and deeper, before I knew it we were in synch he was so deep and my pussy was wrapped so tightly around him he struggled to maintain his control.

“Krist, Krista, I’m going to cum all over your little pussy.”

I dug my fingernails into his back, letting him fuck me as hard as he wanted, enjoying the pain, and the pleasure.

Suddenly he pulled out his cock, jerked it quickly, and shot a hot load of cum all over my pussy and stomach. He groaned so loudly, birds flew from the trees.

I looked down at my cum covered pussy, noticing a little bit of blood on the towel.

“Oh my god, why am I bleeding?” I squeezed my knees together.

“Baby, I think I just took your real virginity,” he kissed me on my forehead before pulling on his bathing suit bottoms.

“Fuck, that is going to be great to throw in James’s face.” I laughed before diving into the pool.

“ I can’t wait to do that in front of him.” I smiled at Travis, who winked at me in agreement.

Finding a cock cage, was surprisingly easy. Several sites sold a variety of styles. I had no idea what I was looking for, but found looking at the different shapes and materials offered that I started to get very aroused.

I purchased a metal cage, with a large heart lock. I made sure to order an extra small, so that I could add in more humiliation. I read that some men really got off on being teased about their small penis. I assumed that James was aware of his tiny dick, and I planned on highlighting it with the size of the cock cage. For some reason reading the other people’s reviews was intriguing. One man posted a link to a site that sold over sized dog cages. He explained that he enjoyed being locked inside it while his wife fucked several guys at once. I clicked on the link, and browsed the dog cages. I pictured James on all fours in the cage, being forced to watch Travis fuck me up against it. I couldn’t figure out why my panties were soaked, but something about the visual ignited a fire deep within me.  I moved the “extra large dog crate” into my shopping cart, not even flinching at the two hundred dollar charge. I went ahead and purchased a black latex one piece suit, black lace up boots, handcuffs and a ball gag for him. If I was going to be a Domme then I needed to dress the part. I quickly sent a few of the links to Travis’s phone, setting a date for him to come over. My pussy tightened at the thought of him fucking me again, the thought of James being forced to watch was even more exciting. Travis responded almost immediately. Looks amazing, can’t wait.

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Katie is a 34 year old writer and adult performer. As far as kink goes she considers herself a Domme  She likes to write about pegging and CEI since these are both her fetishes.

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Part 3: Annie’s Punishment

April 30, 2018 By Juliette van der Molen 6 Comments

Sexy young woman with rattan school cane. Woman prepare for spanking

Annie’s hair hung in a long straight curtain of gold until it waved and curled gently just below her shoulder blades. She perched on her toes. Her calf muscles stood out in high relief against her skin as she trembled under the strain. A quarter nestled between her nose and the wall and she held it in place as if her life depended on it, which of course, it did not. Scott walked into the room at intervals and stood behind her, sometimes coming close enough that his breath brushed against her neck. He didn’t say anything, didn’t touch her. His silence was worse than anything.

 

She was supposed to be thinking. When he released her from the wall she would have to tell him why she’d misbehaved. First, she told herself she hadn’t broken any specific rule. That was true. But, she’d carefully baited and laid a trap. This wasn’t the expected outcome. Her hope was that his version of punishment might include something more directly physical, something—with impact. Annie steadied her breath and let it flow out of her. She wanted more than anything to rest her heels on the floor, but the moment that happened he would take that as a sign that she was ready to talk. She wasn’t sure she ever would be. When he had asked her to strip, she thought for certain the plan was going to work. When he brought her to the wall, she thought there was still hope. The instructions fell from his lips with all the disappointment of air slipping out of a balloon.

 

He hadn’t paddled her in a while. One of the things she loved about Scott was that he knew how to put his hands on her and well, handle her. He wasn’t shy about it. Her limbs were fragile surrounded by his punishing fingers and demanding mouth. He moved her and positioned her and had her every way he wanted. The sex blew her mind. She wept from the pain and suffering of him pounding into her without remorse, ever opening, wishing she could somehow pull herself wider. Sometimes he said he wanted to slip under her skin. They couldn’t get close enough.

 

She was shaking and it had been too long already. One heel hit the floor in defeat and she slid nose to quarter, still holding it in position.

 

“Come here.”

 

Annie slipped the quarter between her teeth and slid down the wall until she was on all fours. Her calves relaxed in relief as her knees now dug into the hardwood floor and she began the slow crawl to where he stood. Eyes trained low each grain and groove brought her closer. Dark red pigment prickled at her neck and she fought to control it, knowing it was useless. She blinked to banish the tears filling her eyes, bulging against her lower lids and threatening to spot the floor. She wasn’t ready to talk. She still didn’t know what to say.  The tips of his gleaming black shoes came into view. Shiny enough to see her reflection in them, if she could bear it. Annie knelt up and settled her hands behind her back. She rose like a puppet on a string, straightening her back and tilting her chin upward, the coin offered to him.

 

He took it and through lowered eyelids she saw him rub it once, twice, then pocket it.

 

“So there’s still the question to answer, girl.” He said softly. “Why?”

 

A breath shuddered through her and when she tried to answer a sob choked out. She just couldn’t say it. His hand slid into her hair like a comfort until his fingers tightened and squeezed.

 

“Look at me!” His voice was soft, exasperated.

 

Opening her eyes felt like unearthing a vein deep below the surface. She didn’t want to do it, but part of her wanted exactly that. Vulnerability rippled through her skin and made the hairs on her arms stand on end. She didn’t like that he didn’t understand her. She didn’t like that the words had stuck in her throat so many times that she had resorted to a stupid, childish game to get his attention.

 

“Annie, I need to understand.  What’s going on with you?” His hand softened.

 

“I thought.” She started, then halted then blurted out the words. “I thought you would punish me.”

 

“Isn’t that what I just did?”

 

“No. I mean, yes. But no, not like that.”

 

Scott tilted his head and looked down on her contorted face, streaked with tears. Annie glanced over to the spanking bench disguised as a respectable ottoman near his chair. His eyes followed hers and he closed his eyes. His full lips flattened into a thin line as he shook his head.

 

“Like what?” He asked.

 

“I thought you would paddle me.” She said softly.

 

He watched her struggle, imagined the internal battle raging back and forth like some dark tennis match knocking at her heart.  His hand slid down against her hair and he crouched down low to take her chin gently in his hand.

 

“Why would you want me to paddle you, Annie?” He asked.

 

As a lawyer, he’d been trained never to ask questions he didn’t already know the answer to—and he could have let her out of this so easy. So many times before he’d had her over that bench until she was crying and squirming and begging him for more. But, she’d never initiated anything like that. The truth was, he loved dominating her. He loved giving her the pain she craved, but he wanted her full participation. And while he’d expected that eventually she would ask him for it, instead of just willingly submitting to his whim, he hadn’t expected it to come about like this. Still, here they were and now he needed to hear it.

 

“Because…” Her voice drifted a little until he squeezed on her chin and her eyes opened wide. “It would hurt.”

 

“I’m not going to punish you that way, ever. We’ve talked about this.” He shook his head. “Why did you try to manipulate me?”

 

Her eyes widened at his understanding. Annie swallowed hard.

 

“I wanted it.” She whispered.

 

“Look at me when you say it and say it clearly.”

 

Her voice trembled loudly. “I wanted you to hurt me. I wanted to feel it. I need it.”

 

“That, was all you ever had to say, little one.” He stood up and gestured over to the bench.

 

Annie scurried over as he adjusted the screws on either side of the center compartment so that she could nestle her knees in the padding.  He stroked her back as she shivered lightly.

 

“Before we begin..” He started. “This is not a punishment. We’ve already done that. You’re never to repeat that kind of behavior. I may call you my little girl and I may be a Daddy to you, but you are a grown woman and you will not hide these desires from me any more. Do you understand me?”

 

“I do, Daddy.” Annie whispered softly.

 

Her fingers gripped the edge of the bench as she relaxed into the leather. His first stroke was steady and sure, the leather side of the paddle smacking hard. A moan blew out of her half open mouth and tugged her lips up into a smile. This was it. What she needed and missed and wanted. He warmed her up slow until she lifted for him, offering herself to him, pulsing against the strokes. When he flipped the paddle to the wooden side she was more than ready. The sting shocked into skin and she felt herself shrink inward while her body did the impossible and reached out to him. He was catching her in the sweet spot, paddle spreading her cheeks and making contact with her pussy lips.

 

The war inside her mind commenced. Take the pain. Use the safe word. Pull away from him. Push back into him. Logic battled her to the end. Then the pain ceased and it was all sound and sensation reverberating through every muscle like an electric current. A low rumble tumbled out from deep in her chest, moans mixed with cries that no longer made any sense to her. His exertion was at the limit, his breath whooshing out of him as he laid each hard blow. The color on her cheeks now a mosaic of pink, red and white overlapping as he painted her in pain.

 

“Give it to me.”

 

His command came through gritted teeth. Each muscle inside her core wound up tight as the blows came impossibly hard and closer together. She was a star collapsing in on itself and then exploding out through her extremities, launching into another galaxy. Her throat choked on a cry so big it had to force its way through larynx, expanding vocal chords that she never new existed.  

 

He covered her then, his body draping over her heaving soreness. Scott pressed his mouth into the hollow behind her ear as she cried.

 

“Never.” He panted. “Never, ever hide this from me.. It’s stunning. My beautiful, beautiful girl.”

 

And then.

 

Annie wept.

 

About the Author:

Writer of completely unladylike erotica and other sundry things. After discovering that people actually do these crazy, kinky things, she began exploring the lifestyle in 1993 and never looked back. She writes about her experience in authority based relationships, BDSM fiction and even the occasional hot sonnet. She is currently the assistant direction for MAsT Central New Jersey and the co-host of a submissive support group (SSASE) in the same area. Her work has appeared in Lit Up, P.S. I Love You, My Erotica.com, and The Junction. You can find her in these publications at: https://medium.com/@juliette.vandermolen and connect with her on Twitter @j_vandermolen and fetlife at: juliette_ .

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Slave Training

April 9, 2018 By slave_bunny 7 Comments

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No one becomes skilled at something without hard work and training. This goes for those in the Vanilla and Kink Community.

The main difference between Kink and Vanilla training is that when done correctly Kink training is clearly defined, has a set goal (usually given by the D type), and is tracked throughout the training process. Training usually occurs for the betterment of the s type, the dynamic, and/or to ensure the D type’s comfort/satisfaction.

Also, in the Kink Community, s types who go into training give consent to be trained. Once consent is given, the D type is able to begin the training process that he/she feels will yield the best results.

In the vanilla community, this is very rarely the case. In the vanilla community (unless for a job/company) training is usually more subtle, is driven by the individual doing the training, and is not “required” to exist in a vanilla relationship. 

To me, this is why many vanilla individuals remain much more stagnant than many kink individuals (simply due to the fact that no one is requiring them to train themselves). Slave or kink training is driven by another person who holds you accountable. Just like having a personal trainer, teacher, boss, which is why it is more effective.

Just to be clear, slave training is not about someone barking orders at you or trying to change you entirely. It’s about trying to make you into your best self and/or help you achieve the relationship that you consented to.

Training requires D types to understand that progress takes time. D types during training should be firm, but fair, just, and understanding. Encouragement and praise should be given when appropriate.

I feel it is important for the s type to understand the value of the skill he/ she is training on (this requires the D type explaining the benefit of the skill/training), and have some idea of the training plan the D type is going to implement. I do not feel it is beneficial for s types to be left entirely in the dark. Can D types choose to leave some things out? Sure!  However,  I think some kind of conversation should take place.

It could be beneficial to have “sacred space” every week at a certain and for a certain duration of time where the s type can ask questions, and the D and s type can check in with one another and discuss how training is going. The more clarity brought to the training process from all perspectives, the more effective the training will be. The clearer you are with your expectations, the more success the s type is likely to have  throughout training as well.

D types also need to be consistent throughout training, and follow through with what they say they are going to do. Bluffing and/or empty threats are never conducive for long term results.

Also, as I mentioned previously, tracking progress throughout the training process is beneficial as well. It might be helpful to track progress of a target behavior before the training process has even begun, in order to give your s type objective data as to why said behavior needs to be modified via training. The more information the D type can gather, the more informed he/she will be, which will enable the D type to better determine where they should lead the s type next.

Trust is also paramount for training to be most effective. This requires the s type feeling like the D type will not cross any hard limits/ will keep them safe, is honest with the s type, is consistent, is reliable, has a clear vision throughout training, is intelligent, etc.

Training can also be very bonding and bring those in a dynamic closer together. Training itself reinforces the dynamic as well. When implemented healthily and correctly, it can really get one that much closer to the dynamic one envisions.

Since training calls for all parties to be attentive, hard working, and to hold themselves accountable (D types to not only hold themselves accountable,but to hold their s types accountable too), it can help show your partner(s) how much you care about the relationship. It can also provide a way for the s type to show their dedication and commitment to wanting to please/serve their D type.

I hope this has given everyone some important things to think about concerning training. Next week I will go into specific methods of training.

As always feel free to comment and ask questions. Thanks for reading and stay tuned!

About the Author:

Slave Bunny, a 1950’s power slave, is involved in a wonderful and loving TPE 24/7 M/S relationship with her Master and husband. She will be teaching all over the Los Angeles area this year and will also be presenting two workshops at the BDSM Writers Con in Seattle and New York.

She has dedicated her life to working on herself mentally, spiritually, and physically, and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Through teaching and mentoring, she hopes to help everyone in the Kink community as much as she can.

Fetlife – Slave_Bunny992

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Bad Scene Blues

April 9, 2018 By Baadmaster 4 Comments

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No, the title of this article is not a typo. I do not mean “Baad scene blues!” Instead, I am
addressing a problem described in a question that was sent to me:

“My long-time Dom and I had an intense play session recently… sensory
deprivation followed by some serious flogging and stuff. Though no single thing we
did crossed my hard limits, I was left feeling drained and kind of scared by the end.
He did his best to comfort me, but the dynamic between us was just bad. Now I
think we’re both kind of afraid to get back on the horse. What should we do?”

Although my answer is to this specific question, I think discussing the effects of a bad
scene is a problem many have encountered. And though the submissive who emailed me
this inquiry has a male Dom, my answer can just as easily be translated to a Domme
problem – bad scenes have no gender.

There are many key phrases in your question that give clues to the resolution of your
dilemma. The first is “long-time Dom.” Once you are with a partner for a while, it is
obvious that communication must be strong enough to maintain that relationship. So, any
threat to the basic foundation of your union, by virtue of one bad scene, should be minor
at best. There is little chance that your play problem will have catastrophic effects on
your D/s partnership. Take a load off your mind; your relationship is safe – at least from
the negative effects of this bad scene.

With this major concern out of the way, we can now tackle some technical issues that
your “bad scene” might have brought up. Hard limits. Crossing hard limits would be a
major issue in any Dom/sub play session. You have no problems here because none were
breached. By not crossing this boundary, your Dom avoided any major trust issues that
ignoring hard limits invariably bring up. Thus, this worry is also a non-issue. In fact, you
should give your Dom props for not even touching this area. He clearly is a safe and
considerate player and you should find this a source of great comfort. Up to this point,
taking your question in the order of your fears, the score is: your Dom two, your worries
zero!

Next, you state your scene was “sensory deprivation followed by some serious flogging
and stuff” and you felt “drained and kind of scared” by the end. Who wouldn’t? This is to
be expected in such a scene. It is obvious you were taken to places you were unfamiliar
with. By definition, going to new areas always comes with some risk. That is price of
admission when you explore the unexplored. Again, hats off to your Dom – a Dom who
clearly is willing to push soft limits and tries to make your play life “un-boring.” To this
point, his only mistake was not warning you that he was going past what you had been
accustomed to. But, that is a minor point.

Even post-scene, he provided aftercare – “he did his best to comfort me.” What he has
done, to this point, is well within any “how-to” BDSM guidelines. You might even say,
he has been going “by the book.” But just because one does BDSM perfectly does not
mean one can expect perfect results. We are dealing with human beings here.
Your Dom did everything correctly, yet “the dynamic between you was just bad.”
Situations like this happen all the time – and not just in BDSM. A pro basketball team
can execute their coach’s game plan perfectly yet lose. A political candidate can out-
debate his opponent and still not win. (I can think of one!) A skilled Dominant can cane
his submissive with precision and still not put him/her into subspace. Human activity is
imperfect.

If you understand that perfect actions do not always lead to perfect results, you can “get
back” on the horse again with little fear. Your Dom did everything correctly; he is a safe
player. Yet, for whatever reason, your scene didn’t work. Welcome to the real world. If I
had a dollar for every scene I have done that didn’t work out as planned, I would have a
fat wallet. But, for every scene that didn’t work out as designed, I usually attempted it
again and got it right.

There is a saying that is it not how many times you get knocked down that is the measure
of the person, but how many times you get up. You got knocked down. It is time to get
up.

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

Tagged With: bdsm, dom, dominant, flogging, sensory deprevation, sub, submissive, user submitted question

Beginner’s Corner: What Am I?

March 19, 2018 By Baadmaster 3 Comments

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Everyone was a beginner once. And in order to welcome newbies into our community, I will, from time to time, write articles aimed at those who are entering the lifestyle. Like this one!

I recently received a question that stated a newbie was intrigued by the lifestyle, but had no idea what she was – Domme, sub or switch. Or something else! By the question, it is clear that she was unsure what she wanted to be in BDSM. You might say she was asking, “Who am I?”

Often, it is hard for newbies to predict where they will land in the BDSM spectrum. So, my first piece of advice is to follow BaadMaster’s patented three-step formula (sounds impressive, huh?) for finding out about where one lies in the BDSM continuum.

Step 1: Get in touch with what you really want.

As I said many times here on kinkweekly.com, be honest with yourself. Clear your mind and think of what really turns you on – no matter how extreme it might be. One way to find this out is to peruse the BDSM checklists that are included in many of my articles. (Plug, plug!) They will give you an idea of the range of play and will help you focus on what you want — and what you don’t want.

Step 2: Go to a play party and just observe.

Since being a voyeur is an accepted kink, there is nothing wrong in just observing. You might see some type of play that you hadn’t thought of – like rope bondage – which might turn you on. As the twentieth century philosopher, Yogi Berra, said, “You can observe a lot just by watching!”

Step 3: Explore Your BDSM Fantasies.

If you have BDSM fantasies – and I am sure you do — decide which among these fantasies you would actually do. There is a big difference between thinking something is exciting and actually doing it. Thus, you must make a realistic appraisal of those activities that will attempt – and those you simply won’t do.

For example, a very popular BDSM fantasy is to own a sex slave. If that turns you on, tell any prospective play partner, straight up, that you are looking for a sex slave. Don’t lie and say you are an experienced Domme, but rather look for someone who is into learning with you. If you fantasize about subbing, look for a Dom/me who might give you some real time experience in subbing. The object is to find out not only what excites you, but also what areas you have a natural aptitude for.

At this point, you are simply trying to learn; you should not concern yourself with labels. However, if one label does apply, it is newbie. But fret not; as I said in the opening paragraph, everyone was a newbie once. Experience will teach you whether you are a Dom, sub or switch – and not some abstract idea of what you want to be.

In the era that predated our current Internet age, there existed a group of loosely affiliated leather groups that came to be known as the Old Guard Leather Societies. Although much is lost to history, legend is that they had a precept that, “You cannot become a Master or a Top without having been a slave or a bottom.”  Using this precept, you can try both Topping and bottoming; the Old Guard would be proud of you!

Whether you become a Dominant or a submissive, you will be better for the experience. If you wind up a switch, you will be an experienced one. Not a bad start, I must say!

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

Tagged With: bdsm, dom, domme, fantasies, master, old guard, play parties, play party, submissive, switch

Long Distance D/s

March 12, 2018 By Baadmaster 5 Comments

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As the Internet turns twenty, more or less, we should address the popularity of long distance D/s relationships. For the most part, the days of “Master, twenty-seven years old with twenty-five years experience looking for submissive” are gone. With technology like Skype, Duo, Facetime and webcamming, among others, it is fairly easy to get a handle on what your long-distance party is or is not. Thus are born a myriad of LDR’s that can approximate many of the aspects of a proximate D/s relationship. That is the good news.

The bad news is that, when you are in a long distance Dom/me-sub relationship, it can often be difficult to maintain the power exchange that is at the heart of such an arrangement.

The D/s dynamic is relatively easy to maintain when the Dom/me and sub are proximate.  The Dom/me gives an order and can quickly evaluate how the sub obeys. Punishment or reward might be called for; the Dom/me can make an instant assessment of the situation.  But, the principles of consistency and swiftness of reward and punishment that apply to live-in Master/slave relationships do not necessarily translate to long-distance relationships; in-person Dominance can be hard to duplicate. There can be time delays in the Dom/me’s discovering infractions, just as there can be interruptions in meting out the actual punishment; these obstacles can even result in unintended misunderstandings.  Thus, you might be wise for both parties to cut a little slack in all interactions when in a LDR. Murphy’s Law – “What can go wrong, will go wrong” – is in full effect in LDR’s!

In a long-distance BDSM relationship, the following concerns, ones that might be easily overlooked in a local liaison, must be addressed. And, they should be dealt with as quickly as possible. (If you have already covered these points, then you should be less worried about your relationship.)

  1. What are your “away” rules? Can he/she see other men/women? Are you allowed to play? What exactly constitutes play? Hard and soft limits. These are items can usually talked about over coffee; in long distance they are often overlooked. Besides, in local, the “horniness because of distance” factor does not apply. These critical concerns must be covered in great detail, to both parties’ satisfaction.
  2. Do you both see the monogamy/poly continuum in the same way? Is he/she a “one-slave” Dom/me? A “one-slave” Dom/me with play partners? A poly Dom/me? Are you the only collared slave he/she plans to have? With respect to these issues, are you on the same page that he/she is on?
  3. You should agree on a specific call schedule. For example, you might agree to speak on the phone twice a week and Skype/Facetime/Duo (or whatever interface you both use) once a week. Obviously, if this schedule isn’t adhered to, anxiety can result – so both sides must make a special effort to stick to the routine until you unite for good.

Starting off on a good foundation is extremely important here. In a local relationship, you can fix things quickly with a face-to-face talk over dinner. In long-distance, this is impossible. Dinner means a plane trip and those wonderful TSA lines. Thus, small problems can fester and can become big problems. If you can nip them in the bud, you have a much better chance in your long-distance romance.

When you are dealing with LDR’s, different rules apply. Since you are both far away from each other, either side can hide lots of baggage. Thus, both sides must be held to a higher standard – if you are planning to take it real time someday. Trust must be virtually absolute. The fact that you say, “The phone calls used to be twice a month and now it’s been a couple months since I have talked to him/her,” is a red flag. Red flags eat into trust; and without trust your relationship will die. But, there might be a reasonable explanation. So, before you jump off the “trust express,” make sure your concerns are real and not unfounded paranoia. (Long-distance relationships and paranoia are roommates!)

Our technology is such that you can easily see the other person. And there is nothing like seeing the other person’s face to know all’s right with the world! Long distance is tough enough without both of you disappearing into the vague world of misunderstood e-mails, texting and Twitter DM’s!

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

Tagged With: D/s, dom, domme, long distance, master, slave, sub, submissive

TRUST: The Dom/me’s Point of View

February 26, 2018 By Baadmaster 5 Comments

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Most discussions about “trust” in our lifestyle concentrate on the trust a submissive accords the Dom/me. Granted that allowing yourself to be tied up, ball-gagged and caned requires a tremendous amount of trust on the bottom’s part. In last week’s article on this subject, “Trust: the sub’s point of view,” we addressed these very concerns. But, does trust also flow in the other direction? In my opinion, it must. Yet, this is a subject that is rarely discussed. Until now.

So, let’s examine some areas of trust the Dom/me should be aware of. This is far from a complete list; but it should be a good starting off point.

The Dom/me trusts that the sub accurately portrays her/himself. If the sub, for example, claims to be a pain slut, should the Dom/me be trusting enough to take this at face value? My take is that the Dom/me should probe deeply and find out exactly what the sub means. One person’s pain slut is another’s light player. Of course, even if you discuss her play style in great detail, you still must trust him/her to communicate accurately. There is no foolproof way to establish that the submissive is being honest or not. Still, the Dom/me should try to get the best picture of the sub one possibly can.

Is the sub totally open with you? This is especially important if you are contemplating a relationship with the sub. Does the submissive avoid certain questions or shade the truth? Does he/she address your concerns in a straightforward manner? This is less a D/s question than an interpersonal one. But, if you are thinking about collaring a sub, you must trust him/her — in this area especially.

The Dom/me trusts the sub will use the safe word if he/she feels the scene should end. Of course, the Dominant should not solely rely on the safe word to alert him that the scene should be stopped. He/she must be aware of what is happening. But, trust does flow both ways and it is incumbent upon the sub to safe if the scene has gone past his/her limits; the Dom/me must trust that this is the case.

Did the sub lie to you at any time? This is pretty basic stuff. And almost identical to the advice I gave to the subs. But, one must be super-vigilant at the beginning. I am not saying, “One strike and you’re out!” There can be extenuating circumstances or the lie might be a forgivable one (at the option of the lie-ee.) Honesty is the foundation of trust. And this goes for not only the sub, but also for the Dom/me.

The Dom/me trusts the submissive will accurately relate the scene to his/her friends. This is the big one – and is advice that is worth a million bucks. (I exaggerate; but a million bucks ain’t worth what it used to be!) There are innumerable stories where a Dom/me plays with a sub and then the submissive talks trash about the Top to friends. I have personally seen the words “unsafe player” used in such situations – even when the play was rather benign by all accounts. The Dom/me’s reputation is something that should be guarded zealously. Thus, if you have any doubts about your play partner in this area, I recommend that you scene publicly in order to have witnesses. This is not being paranoid; it is, I think, being careful. Because in this brave new world where charges of sexual-harassment abound, better safe than sorry. After some public play, and after some more interpersonal trust is established both ways, you can take it private.

Add this clause to your slave contract. If you are going to negotiate a “slave contract,” you might do well to add a clause something like this: “The slave hereby reaffirms that he/she has entered into this agreement voluntarily and all interactions performed here are completely consensual.” Trust is best when written out! Such is life in the year 2018! (This has been covered in greater detail in my previous Kink Weekly article, “Slave Contracts v. 2017”  

The Dominant should keep these six principles in mind. We should never overlook that trust is a two-way street — even if one rarely hears that in BDSM discourse. Let us not forget this fact.

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

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